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As a United States citizen, hopping on an airplane and flying to another state within the US was always easy and fun for me. I’d just pack a bag or two, grab my drivers license and go; but the experience was completely different when I wanted to leave the country. There was a lot more that had to be done to prepare for an international trip. Basically, what I realized is that if you want to go far distances, there’s a lot more involved than a trip close to home. When it’s all said and done, you can only go as far as you’re willing to go (insert that will preach)!

This whole traveling far idea is a big deal for the people who are really going places in life, and who are at a point in their life where they have become tired of the same old scenery. Truthfully there are a lot of people who are tired of climbing the corporate ladder, people want more! There are some of you reading this and you are tired of the rat race and adult version of a popularity contest. When you have gotten to the point where you have a partner or you’re happily single; either way, you’ve experienced the American Dream and now you’re awake and you know it’s got to be more than a spouse, house, kids, dog, cars and job. While all of that is nice and makes life a lot more enjoyable, many people are dissatisfied simply because they never took the time to go where they needed to go personally as an individual and it’s difficult to take other people where you haven’t been.

And so even this is resonating with you so clear because you are one of the people on this journey called life who are still determined to do more than work a job you hate for 30 years, retire and die full of regrets. Some of us want to see more than what we’ve seen in the uninspiring well meaning lives of others. Some of us know there is more out there and life is to be lived to the maximum not out of fear and worry of failure. Life is to be lived beyond the same old template your family gives you and tells to follow to be a “good person.” You know that’s why you agree with this message so much.

Ask yourself today; am I creating a life that I’ll be proud of when I take my last breath? Am I currently living a life like where I won’t end up with a humungous amount of bitter regrets and resentment?!And if I am, what do I need to do to change that? Going places requires making changes! You cannot stay the same if you want to go to a new destination.

See some people are determined to go places and have made up their minds that they are willing to make whatever sacrifices and investments they need to take to get “there.” Going international, you begin to see how much of what you have been accustomed to is completely different than what other people find normal. Going far you find out there is no normal! Going places, you begin to appreciate that there are other ways of thinking and living and being. You discover that you’re not the only one who has ideas, but other people do too and some of their ideas are actually better than yours and some of yours are better than theirs! But there is more than one way to happiness! Going places will teach you that life is not a competition at who’s better. It’s a great trip of discovering new people places and new horizons. Traveling far, you begin to see how much you don’t know and how much you need to learn. Traveling far is a humbling experience and the plain old truth is a lot of people are too proud and set in their ways to try anything that humbles them.

When we begin to think we know it all, it’s a good time to go somewhere new.

Go somewhere where you aren’t the top dog and you don’t speak the language well. Go somewhere where you aren’t familiar with the culture and this time you’re the one who looks different. Go somewhere where you don’t think you’re the smartest person in the room or the most creative or beautiful one there. Go somewhere so you can stop looking solely at your reflection. This is why we have so many narcissistic people in this culture. They haven’t seen much of the world which is why they’re so in love with their ideas and images of right and wrong. Their definition of beauty l, success, greatness is from their limited scope. They think they know better than anyone else. That’s a serious case of narcissism!

The actual word “narcissist” comes from the ancient Greek story of young Narcissus, who fell in love with his own image reflected in a pool of water. Doesn’t that sound like this selfie culture we live in? How many pics of yourself are you actually going to take to be happy? Im convinced we have become a people who won’t stop looking at our image because we are so in love with what we look like. Maybe we’re so in love with the external to compensate for the internal deficit.

I firmly believe the cure for the narcissistic culture is simple; go somewhere new! Look at something different. And if for God’s sake you still can’t find anyway to take your eyes off yourself and what’s familiar to you, you’re definitely a a pathological narcissist.

Honestly, most of us don’t even necessarily need to leave the country today, but we definitely need to learn to embrace different. Embrace people from different races, lifestyles, upbringings, cultures,… We all need to leave our close minded ways of thinking. Thinking we have the best food. Thinking we have the best minds, the best music, the best looking people. We seem to be obsessed with the thought that we have the best of the best! Wrong! The problem is we just haven’t been anywhere.

Some of us only know the same friends, family and circles we have become all too accustomed to. I believe even those of you who get up everyday and you’re bored with life and stuck in a rut; I guarantee it’s because you’re not going far enough. Even when it comes to your vision for your life. Have you learned who you are yet? Have you learned that inside of you there is so much more to offer you? Beyond your personality, charisma and your physique. I would venture to say that trapped in you is an artist, a chef, a writer, a preacher, a motivator, a marathon runner, decorator,..,the list goes on and on. There is a level of genius inside of you that you’ve yet to awaken because you’re stuck in the familiar. Travel back in time to when your dreams were alive and you believed you could accomplish anything. Before you got disappointed by fear of failure, mistakes and the negative counsel and word curses of people who “love” you. Go back to when you wanted to be a professional whatever it was. Don’t you know you can still get your license? Remember back when you wanted to be a parent? It’s not too late, even if you’re not physically able to produce there are lot’s of children longing for a family to care for them. Children need foster parents and mentors. You have what somebody else needs but you haven’t traveled anywhere because you stay too grounded. Most of the battles we have within are simply because we haven’t gone far enough to pursue what our real life destination is! Most of us are not where we’re supposed to be in our lives yet, this is just a layover.

My advice for all my real life coachable people is simple, travel outside of your borders. Live beyond your daily routine. Travel outside of the familiar and what you’re used to. Stop going to the same places over and over again. Eating at the same restaurants. Ordering the same food. Driving home through the same neighborhoods and streets. Talking to the same people about the same stupid stuff. Wearing the same clothes. Go somewhere new! Do something you’ve never done. Albert Einstein said the definition of insanity is to keep doing what you’ve always done expecting to get different results.

Go somewhere new and make it exciting and adventurous! Even before you leave the country you live in, leave your old boring thinking patterns and habits and make today the day you create some new ones! Starting today, go somewhere you’ve never gone before!

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Reclining seats into a fellow passenger’s leg space proved to be the top reason for arguments erupting mid-flight. Sounds like a stupid reason to start a fight, but we’ve all been there before. You’re trying to make it to your destination and crunch, there goes your knees. Not only can this be super annoying but painful and it’s undeniably one of the most frustrating things a person can do to you when you’re already sitting an in uncomfortable cramped space.

Of course the argument for many seat recliners is that they paid their money for their seat and they have a right to recline their chair if they want to. Fundamentally, this is true. No argument there. You certainly do have a right to do it. But there are a lot of things we have a right to do, and yet they still aren’t a good idea to actually do.

While the person who likes to recline their seat back has a host of good reasons for doing so, the bigger issue to me is the act in and of itself is downright inconsiderate (insert can I get a witness). Reclining your seat back into someone else’s legs ultimately speaks to an unwell mindset many people have today. This mindset is one that basically confirms that some people traveling on this flight called life with us are unapologetically rude, impolite and OBNOXIOUS!

I would venture to say that the passenger who decides to recline their chair back on the person behind them is a person who consistently acts out of their egotistical nature almost everywhere they go. They are probably the same people who cut others off in traffic, route people in line, who leave the bathroom stall a mess for the next person and don’t care to even flush the toilet. They’re probably the people who constantly puts their needs first and could care less about how others will feel. These are probably the same people who live their entire lives based on their own wants and desires and never consider anyone else. I often wonder if people who recline their chairs back on other people ever really learned basic manners in their elementary years. I wonder if they learned the golden rule, “do unto others as you would have them to do unto to you.” While there are a lot of things we all obviously have the right to do, it is my basic understanding that a person with common courtesy, a sense of maturity, a moral code of conduct, a conscience and a set of principles that they live their lives by; these kind of people make deliberate decisions not to do things just because they can, but they actually consider how their actions will effect the people around them. If less people lived like the chair recliners, we would surely have less hate, inequality, racism, sexism and bigotry in this world. If there were less chair recliners, people wouldn’t mistreat others just because they thought they had a right to. If we didn’t have so many chair recliners, we would have a world where people weren’t so ungrateful, narcissistic and entitled. If you and I pledged not to be chair recliners, I honestly think the world would be a better place. But because so many people think it’s ok to just stretch out and push their chair back into the lap of another person on this cramped flight called life we’re on; the world has become such a toxic place to live. The chair recliner mindset has created a culture that’s full of hostility, aggression and unfriendliness where people wave their privilege and audaciously boast about how others should be further ahead. If we started a movement of people who were the opposite of the chair recliners, we would certainly begin to see more humanity. The broader question is; Why don’t we care about other people’s feelings anymore? Why are we so selfish and cold? Why did they even make the option on the seat for people to recline their chair in the first place? It got me to thinking maybe this is a good thing. Maybe it was actually a good invention when they created this! Maybe it’s good that they made this option so we could all plainly see and decipher who’s who and know what kind of people we’re traveling with. And if a person reveals how inconsiderate they are on a airline flight, maybe it could save you years of heartbreak pain and counseling, because you would have been able to see the signs early when you saw them push their chair back into the knees of someone who was already feeling stuck in the first place.

I know you can do whatever you want on this flight, but if you could make it a tad more pleasant for someone else, why wouldn’t you? Are you that warped a person? If you’re truly trying to improve yourself, start by being more considerate of the people around you, especially the ones behind you. How you treat the people behind you and the ones who you feel like you’re further ahead of speaks volumes about your character and integrity. God forbid you become the person that makes this flight called life more difficult for anyone else. My advice today to anyone who’s coachable is:

1. Pull your chair up. (Check yourself)

2. Sit up straight. (When going places check your posture aka character)

3. Have some dignity and self respect.

4. Treat people like you want to be treated.

This journey called life we are on is challenging enough. No one wants to sit near you if you’re going to be a jerk.

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When I’m traveling, it’s not out of the ordinary to see other women going places either flying solo, with their friends, their partner or even their family. It’s a beautiful sight to see. Women going on flights to take off and pursue business, adventure, and even recreation and fun. It inspires me to see women who are determined they’re going somewhere in life. You can tell if you’re going somewhere in life when you don’t need an alarm clock to wake you up everyday, because you’ve found your passion. You can tell you’re going places when you have more than a job. A job is something you do for money and that’s the only reason you’re doing it. Ha! But a woman who’s going places in life pursues purpose over a miserable job. Purpose is something you do whether you get paid or not. It’s the motivation of a person who’s found their reason for existence. The most miserable thing to see is a woman who’s bitter, resentful and frustrated because she’s never gotten to her desired destination. I’m not sure exactly what happened in the lives of some of these women out here who try to keep other women grounded and stuck in one place, especially since it’s a wasted effort. Women who are going places can’t be stopped and they certainly don’t need the validation of other people. The bottom line is, a woman who’s clear about where she’s going will never be stopped by a hater (insert can I get a witness).

Women hating on other women? This is not the way it’s ever supposed to be. It is my belief that women, young and old should be able to stand with one another and show genuine support in each other’s collective and individual elevation and ascension. Ask yourself, am I that kind of woman? Unless you’re not a woman. lol. Next ask yourself, how do I help the other women in my life go higher? I’ve found a lot of women spend so much time trying to prove that they’re superior to other women and they never actually grow beyond a middle school mindset. Trying to prove you’re smarter, prettier, happier is a waste of time and energy. And besides no one is convinced. Move on and help someone instead of feeding your narcissism and excessive need for attention.

Unfortunately, there are a lot of insecure women who compete, contend and rival with their sisters. Why would you be unhappy about your sister taking flight in life unless you feel frustrated in your own efforts to soar. But we see this destructive behavior in women using their femininity irresponsibly by messing with other women’s husbands and boyfriends; yuck. Signs of a sister who wants to stay on the ground and never take off in life. We see the unhealthy behavior of women who backstab and play mind games with other women to keep them from getting connections, business and making progress; disgusting! It’s insane and tragic to see. This kind of toxic behavior keeps the overall view of women as a whole from going beyond the negative stereotypes of us all being called overly emotional, passive aggressive, nice nasty women. The mean girl, housewives and love and hip hop examples on television that glorify calling each other the B word have literally distorted the reality that women are actually beautiful, highly intelligent, creative, wise creatures with more to offer than loud over the top argumentative viewpoints, sex, and domestic invention.

Obviously, there are countless women going places in life who don’t fit into the cultural generalizations we’ve been pegged to fit into. I personally know lots of women (including myself) who aren’t about a bunch of drama and foolishness. Women who genuinely carry themselves with dignity and class. Not perfect, but working on it. Women determined to be authentic. Proudly, there is still a large number of women who don’t have low self esteem and a poor view of themselves or other women. There are still many women out there who know how to handle people and their relationships well and when they don’t, are able to admit when they are wrong. Is that you?

Truth is, getting to our next level is not without difficulty. Going places and getting to our next destination is not so easy for women. All of us have seen (or been) the woman out there who’s trying to travel, but she’s not ashamed to say she’s struggling to get there.

Let’s be honest, challenges come in all kinds of shapes and forms and they’re not all the “devil.” Sometimes the biggest challenges we face are the things we actually prayed for. The woman traveling with a kid and a family gets to board first, but it’s only because traveling with a family brings a whole new dimension of demands.

The challenges women face speak to a harsh reality that it’s almost always harder for women to take off in life, especially when we try to fly with a family. Sure it’s the American dream, but many women get caught up in a life that looks a lot different than what they fantasized about. Let’s be real, having a husband and kids and trying to get to your destination is a difficult juggling act for even the average superwoman. How is it possible to have a successful career and still make time to clean the house, cook healthy meals, drive the kids to school, go to every doctors appointment, sports event, support your church, community group or whatever else, keep your husband happy, add income to the family and do all this without sacrificing your sanity? It’s overwhelming being a woman!

I’m in no way doubting that doing it all can’t be done, but that still doesn’t make it easy. So, I want you to consider how you can help make the lives of women around you better? Even if you begin as a woman by thinking of ways to make your own life better. How can you begin to treat yourself more like a treasure? Write down 10 ways you will be better to yourself.

The demands on women are somewhat overwhelmingly obnoxious! We live in a society where women are expected to do all the work of a man and take less pay. We’re expected to push an entire human being out from a very limited area on our bodies and still get back to work in 8 weeks yet we’ve been called as the Bible says “the weaker vessel.” Now I’m no theologian or anything, but nothing I described about a woman sounds weak to me.

The truth is, this whole weaker vessel note about us actually stresses the real responsibility of men to handle us with more care. Women need men who are committed to handle them a lot more gently than we’ve become used to being treated. It’s no wonder then that we call certain men in our society gentlemen because their actions prove they’ve learned the art of treating women with a gentle touch.

At the end of the day, the way I see it; women are super strong! All too often, it’s not because we want to be strong, but because we have to be. You think we want to wear all the hats we have to in a day? In a matter of 24 hours, we are expected to be doctor, teacher, banker, chef, driver, secretary, referee, coach, therapist, motivational speaker, pastor, FOR FREE,….and on top of that, most of us never get a moment to rest and restore our own minds and spirits. If you asked me, this is not how a weaker vessel or treasure should be treated. Yet, we live in a society that calls us queens and goddesses and handles us like a piece of trash when we look at the way are efforts are often not appreciated. The tragedy in all of this is that many women just go ahead and accept this as the way it’s always going to be. Many women handle their mistreatment in silence. On this International Women’s Day, my advice to you is speak up and stand up for yourself and do it like a woman in all her glory! Take pride in all you offer and don’t let anyone devalue all you are to your family and community.

If you’re not a woman, go out of your way to treat the women in your life better. Open her door, pump her gas, carry her bags, pay for her meal, listen to her heart, make time for her and not just so she can serve you; but this time do it because you see the gift she is to the world.

The world is a beautiful place because the women in it add beauty to the spaces and places they arrive in. Truthfully, a lot of women out here have had some rough lives to get to where they are today and yet the beauty they are still able to effortlessly exude is nothing short of a miracle. Women have the ability to carry a tremendous amount of responsibility, pain and pressure and too often never find healthy places and people they can release what they are carrying. Women need safe places to share their heart where they can be transparent, valued and honored. Make today the day where you become that safe place for a special woman in your life. Be that person that makes it your business to value the beautiful women around you. There are women who are really going places! Why not help them get there? Help them with their baggage and try to make this journey a little easier for them along the way.

If my articles have in anyway shape or form blessed you or even vexed you, please take a moment to leave me a comment. Also, please feel free to share these with your family, friends, co-workers, and neighbors on Facebook, Twitter, or whatever social media platform you choose!

Copyright 2019 Sherry Grant

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Airplanes can’t fly forever can they?

If you asked me, what happens to them when they get too old to take flight makes perfectly good sense. Many of them make a final flight to a disassembly specialist to be carefully broken up for recycling. This almost made me flip my wig, because it’s significant to understand that there’s always something in you of value, and there’s always purpose in you even when you think you’ve lost your edge!

Think about it, how the same plane that arrives on it’s last flight; looking perfectly airworthy and operable, will go through an extensive assessment to pull out of it what’s not up to par, effective, functional or worthwhile anymore, but they’ll also find what’s in it that’s still working (insert Baptist fit).

Isn’t it good that someone had enough wisdom, common sense and insight to look beyond the exterior of the aircraft, and do an actual thorough investigation to see what’s really going to be effective and able to carry people to their next destination? This got me to thinking about how all of us in the same way need to take daily inventory within and see what’s in us that’s still good. Sure we have some defective parts in us and many people who suffer from depression and other forms of mental illness spend far too much time distracted thinking about the bad stuff. But I want to encourage you to take inventory on the good parts about you. You have things about your personality and character that are remarkable! Remarkable things are things that cause people to make remarks. Ha! Think about the parts within you that make you feel good when people make remarks about you! Write them down and focus on those good parts about yourself today and everyday. There’s good stuff inside of you! You just have to be strategic about pulling it out and you need to be aggressive about staying in environments and atmospheres that pull all that good stuff out of you.

The next part I want to dig into is going to be sobering, so it’s vital for my coachable readers who seriously want to grow and not just feel motivated and happy all day to really pay attention. If you’re not coachable, stop reading here and enjoy the rest of your day!

To the coachable who are still logged in, I want you to go deeper with me. I want you to consider how after you celebrate how great you are and focus on all the good stuff about you, I want you to be real and viciously intentional about assessing yourself and taking out the not so good, defective parts in you that are making it difficult for you to keep going places and ultimately reaching your final destination in life. In order to do this part you need to be really honest with yourself. You also need to be emotionally mature and mentally stable enough to look past your resume, credentials, history and ego. After you do all of that work, I want you to sincerely evaluate your life and see if the methods you are applying to go places in are outdated. You could have been effective at one time and now you could be doing a bunch of things that are simply out of style. And I know you’re determined to be authentic, because you follow the realest life coach. LOL,…but there’s a serious price to pay for being uncoachable in the name of being YOU. Honestly, many of us know we are guilty of trying to fly with an “aircraft” aka a system of thinking that’s no longer relevant or in style. The even more specific question is; how many of us are mature enough to admit that if we don’t want to take out the faulty, inoperable parts in our foundation then we don’t deserve to fly. I would venture to say that if we can’t be honest with ourselves and others, then maybe it really is time for us to take our last flight?

When we come to these honest and raw conclusions that we don’t want to adapt to the reality that it’s not the 60’s anymore and we can’t keep rehashing the good old days, then we can make the necessary updates to fly in this culture and time we live in. But when we don’t, we are admitting to ourselves and the world we live in, that our mindsets and ways of approaching things are antiquated and we simply aren’t willing to change because we are out of date in our perspective of life and reality.

Some people just can’t make the alterations and switch from the old to the new. It’s like having an Amish mindset with an Apple generation, or like looking for a Blockbuster in a Netflix culture. Ironically Blockbuster only has one location still open! One! Times are different especially when you consider malls are outdated and online shopping is the new thing!

While I’m not bashing people who want to do things the old fashioned way, it limits your capacity and reach when it comes to everything. I’m in no way at all against retro and vintage. I have a cute vintage Louis Vuitton bag. Let me stick to subject. Anyone in the vintage arena uses that as their target selling point. In other words they aren’t trying to sell vintage like its new. And let’s be honest, when it comes to going places and traveling; no one wants to fly on an old plane. So when we realize that we are too old fashioned to change, we are actually in a good place to transition to some new roles and responsibilities. When we get to this point, we literally step out of those extremely demanding and high pressured seats and accept that it’s time for us to become the coach, the mentor, the trainer and developer of people coming along behind us. When we get to this place it’s all good, because then we are able to function in a different capacity where we aren’t fighting against change but instead we are supporting it and able to offer wisdom and guidance to those who can benefit from it. This is an incredible place to be when we can accept we are not in our glory days anymore and now it’s time for us to move into a new assignment and role.

The same way an old plane doesn’t put people’s lives in danger based on it’s past performance, we shouldn’t do that to others either. The same way the old plane doesn’t inch it’s way from take off to landing merely because it’s trying to administer first aid to help boost it’s own self esteem and stroke it’s own ego, we shouldn’t either when we know we’re only flying on a wing and a prayer. On the contrary, the healthy old plane comes to the realization that it’s time to take on a new assignment. The healthy old plane who’s not trying to break down in the middle of the air understands that its absolutely ok to take a moment and look back at those times on this journey when it helped a lot of people get to their next level. The old plane with a healthy view of itself is not obsessed with what people think about them as a plane anymore either. They don’t have a need to overachieve or prove their value or worth to anyone. They have learned to take the time to celebrate their successes along the way and applaud that they have blessed others by carrying them to places that they would have never seen on their own. They don’t take the credit for getting people places, but they are aware they played an important part by taking the wheel and guiding others along the way. The healthy old plane understands they deserve honor and respect from those they carried, but they don’t demand it; and if for some reason they don’t get the appreciation they think they deserve; they’re still ok. They’re ok because they still know in their heart everything they have done and that’s enough for them. The old plane that’s traveled and has a healthy relationship with self comes to the conclusion that after one has traveled so many miles and helped so many take flight, it’s their time to look for new ways to help people ascend. Just like the aircraft that gets broken up and recycled for other uses, today is the day that you and I begin to seek new ways to be a conduit for people to take flight!

Don’t let your ego or your need to keep doing what you’ve always done pressure you into flying just to be flying. Be secure that you’re going places safely and not just so you can say you’re still flying. Look at your effectiveness today and say even if I have to be broken up and used in a new way; I’m fine with that. At the end of the day, however you look at it; even if you’re being recycled, you’re still helping people go places!

If my articles have in anyway shape or form blessed you or even vexed you, please take a moment to leave me a comment. Also, please feel free to share these with your family, friends, co-workers, and neighbors on Facebook, Twitter, or whatever social media platform you choose!

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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A pilot must have 20/20 vision, with or without corrective lenses, to become a civilian airline pilot.

This immediately made me think about how important the vision and perspective of anyone going somewhere in life has got to be on point, especially when you’re the one carrying precious cargo and your hand is on the proverbial wheel of leading other people in life.

When you begin to think about how a pilot carries the enormous responsibility of taking people from one place to the next; it’s such an amazing assignment. So, for anyone to sit in that seat of leadership and not be focused and clearly able to see correctly, that’s some very dangerous and reckless behavior. This is why we must all do a thorough investigation into the lens of our hearts; because often what motivates us can easily blur our vision and the course we set for our lives and the lives of other innocent people.

I encourage you to write down the three motivations as to why you want to lead or influence other people. Also, ask yourself; Am I someone who’s leadership I would want to follow? If not, work on correcting your character flaws and the gaps in your integrity that make it hard for people to trust you and respect you. Are people really following you or are you delusional aka someone with a title only? Who is it that I’m actually leading?? Write their names down and to what capacity you lead them.

The bottom line is, you must be honest enough to admit that it’s not a joke or something to take lightly that you’re the leader; the actual person who’s influencing and guiding people through various seasons of their lives. Furthermore, don’t you think these people deserve to have someone steering them through this incredible journey who’s spiritually, emotionally and mentally stable? Don’t you think they deserve a pilot who has more than good intentions??

Many people go through life and they excuse their bad behavior by saying things like, “My heart is in the right place!” & “I don’t mean any harm, I’m only trying to help.” I personally think people deserve more than that. I believe people deserve leaders who are sane, normal, solid, clearheaded, well balanced, competent and clear about where they’re directing others. Just take a moment and think about the insanity of a pilot who knows he or she can’t see, but still has the nerve to take off and fly a plane with a bunch of innocent people in the seats and he or she does it because they mean well. That’s corrupt leadership! Good intentions and blurred vision at the helm will harm a lot of naive people. This is why it takes more than loving someone to actually lead them. As a matter of fact, sometimes it is the deep love that you have for people that makes it darn near impossible for you to see things correctly. For someone to take people places, they have to to be level headed and sober. Love sometimes makes it difficult for people to think clearly. The other component love blurs is being able to lead people for the right reason. This speaks again to your motivations! If you’re leading them because you love them, you will often make decisions that aren’t helpful to your loved ones long term growth and development. Meditate on that part for as long as you need. Don’t ignore it.

Ask yourself, are the people I’m “leading” going anywhere? Or are they still in a place of needing me for everything? If they can’t make simple decisions without calling you that’s a sign somethings wrong. If they need your advice and involvement before they make a decision, you’re not a leader, you’re more like a glorified babysitter and your role needs to change today starting with you and your mindset. My kid is 16 and she is in drivers ed. Even now, when we are together she is the one driving, not me. And in a few weeks when she gets her license, she will be driving her car; not my car. Notice there is a natural progression that takes place when we actually lead people authentically from a right perspective. A good leader leads people to a place of independence. A poor leader leads people to be more dependent on them. In most cases, the type of leader who needs people to depend on them for “life” actually suffers from a term we use in psychology called codependency which is basically an excessive need to be needed. This is a clear sign that your vision is jacked up and completely impaired. This flight we are on called life is about helping people get to a certain spot and then letting them go so they can soar to new heights. My advice to you today is, check your vision. If the people you claim to be leading keep sitting on your plane and never get off, something is wrong. If you get your jollies off of them needing you; you need help. In real life, airplanes aka vehicles that help people get to their destination need to be refueled, they need cleaning, repairs and maintenance; this is why they deplane, on top of the fact that they have not accepted a lifetime responsibility for carrying people around (insert speaks in tongues!).

Anyone with a clear mindset and pure motivation for doing whatever they do for others understand that leadership is influence, but not control. Unfortunately, I’ve observed too many people taking flight with others controlling them in the name of helping them. If you lead people to control them, check your vision. If you lead people so they can depend on you, that is bad piloting. You are risking people’s lives flying that way, and even Stevie Wonder can see that you can’t see.

You know you aren’t seeing properly when you’re leading people nowhere. You know you aren’t seeing properly when you’re more interested in being the leader by title and position than you are with actually helping them get to their next phase of life. If you have to keep throwing around your title, “I’m the mom, I’m the dad, I’m the one who takes care of you,..” you’re not doing it right.

Sure, when we want to help people we may give them our couch to sleep on if they’re down and out. But the couch has a time limit on how long they’re actually allowed to sleep on it. People going places don’t move into a leader’s house without a set date for their take off! You don’t allow people to stay on your team who are exhibiting toxic behaviors and you not hold them accountable for it and give them a plan of action for moving forward. Leaders don’t come into people’s lives to make them comfortable, they come to make them better. They come to help them ascend and get somewhere faster than they could if they tried it on their own.

On the contrary, leaders know their limits and set them. They understand boundaries and don’t try to play god with the people they’ve only been called to guide. It’s a sad thing when our vision becomes so clouded that we do the same dysfunctional things we’ve had done to us to the people we are called to impact positively. Navigating people to a point in their life is one thing, but trying to fly them everywhere and steer them in every direction that suits us is another thing. I encourage you to check your vision today. Get a good vision screening from someone who’s not afraid to make you accountable. Talk to someone who’s not afraid to tell you that your perspective needs to be adjusted. Also, you need to commit to having routine vision checks. The truth is, you could mean well and your heart could be in the right place. But at the end of the day, you could think you see better than you actually do; and no one wants or needs to be led anywhere by a person who can’t see properly.

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It was recently announced that Southwest Airlines is going to be taking people to Hawaii now! So exciting to know that people can go exotic places like this for affordable prices now. Simply put, this airline has changed the game and opened up the door for more people to go places they couldn’t have gone without their help (insert that will preach).

This made me think about how we should all be doing the same thing in our real lives. How we should be changing the game and opening doors for other people to go places they wouldn’t have the opportunity to go if not for our vision, hard work and support. And when I say help others, I’m not talking about your family, your peeps or your circle and the people you have a vested interest in looking out for. I’m talking about people that you don’t HAVE to do anything for. Those people you know who you have the potential to propel them into their purpose if you stepped up. The ones who would be so grateful and completely shocked and blown away by your generosity and care for them and the treasure that they are. The ones who you could possibly help push them into new dimensions and you could do it with absolutely no ulterior motive except to see them soar. You know there are some people out there like this waiting for you. It’s no secret that there are a lot of incredibly gifted people out there who need help getting to their destination right now. They have the skills, but no idea how to get access into the arenas they belong in. But you can help them, and the most logical people for you to help are those you see yourself in. They are the ones that remind you of you back when you needed someone with a kind heart and the resources you have to help them get off the ground. And now that you can do something to open the door and pave the way for someone else, today is the day you begin to think like Southwest Airlines and say, “I’m going to help open a door for someone to get there.”

It’s a blessing when people can go places because someone unselfishly gave of their time, talent, connections or money to make something big happen for them. This whole Hawaii door that Southwest opened is a big deal if you ask me! People will be able to see the beauty of an island that they couldn’t have afforded to get to before, but because someone was working behind the scenes and had a mind to help their passengers go there; now countless lives will be impacted as a result. This flight called life is all about doing this kind of stuff; actually changing the game and impacting the lives of others. Sadly, most people think their life is about storing up stuff and accumulating accolades for themselves. The saddest outcome of a life lived that way is an empty funeral. An empty funeral is the evidence of a life that helped open no doors for anyone but self. On the other hand, when you see a person leave this life who’s been inspirational and diligent about blessing other people, those funerals are jam packed with people who want to honor the life of someone who opened doors and changed lives!!!!

There are too many people who are out here living for self. Too many people on this flight who are overly satisfied and content with reaching their destination and living their best life alone. But I believe it’s about time for you and I to start looking for ways to genuinely and sincerely help other people! You can’t actually think you got where you are today just so you can sit back and sip margaritas and enjoy this journey in comfort and retreat. You are where you are today, with the wealth of knowledge, wisdom and resources you have so that you can help open some doors.

If you have contacts and know people who can help open doors for someone you know who’s extraordinarily talented; open up that door. Stop flattering people and pumping up their heads with words and applause; put your money where your mouth is. Roll up your sleeves and help them get to “Hawaii!” Whether “Hawaii” for them is having some professional business cards, or a website, a proper suit, shoes, transportation, a building, a loan or even introducing them to someone powerful in their field; if you can open the door do it. Stop telling people they’re going to blow up and actually support them. You can support them by being consistent in your presence when they need you or even by telling other people about them. Subscribe to their blog or YouTube page. You know this is a numbers game and a lot of super talented people are frustrated and struggling simply because their support system sucks. People say one thing and don’t show up in the ways that matter and are helpful. It’s not hard to help open doors for people. Even as a blogger, I hear how great my blogs are by a lot of people who don’t even follow my blog. LOL. 😬

Stop being so self absorbed and wrapped up in your plans all the time. Take some time each day to support the people and causes that you say you care about. There’s a popular quote that simply says “It’s a poor frog who doesn’t praise its own pond.” And this is true. Many people who are abundant in gifts and abilities are living in poverty because the people in their circle aren’t helping them when it comes to closed doors. Every well balanced, selfless, growing healthy person should be pouring into someone else’s life. And I’m in no way telling you to stop pursuing your destiny, but too much obsession with your dreams and plans is egotistical and narcissistic.

I’m sure as you’re reading this, you can think of at least one person that you can bless with help and tangible support in the month of March. Again, make sure it’s not your family. Hopefully you already help them enough and the help in most cases isn’t even appreciated or reciprocated; sadly it’s just expected. Help open a door for someone who will be overwhelmed that you thought of investing in them. Some of you can do something small, but I’m sure more of you can do something big. Think about it like this, if someone was going to open a door for you this month, would you want a big door or a little door? My advice to you is don’t give anyone anything that you wouldn’t be excited about yourself. Our mindset has to change to being investors and lenders rather than those always looking for a handout. Even if you say your money is funny today, I’m sure you have some time in your schedule you can offer someone until your money situation changes. You may not have millions today, but I’m sure there’s something you can do to help. Even if you can make calls, promote, show up, bring someone along,…help open a door.

Think bigger than you have been thinking as you go about your day. Think like a mogul who’s about to open a new door and take a lot of people to Hawaii!

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You probably think of a flight attendant or a stewardess to be a glorified waitress that’s hired only to make you happy, right? Your idea of the flight crew is probably that they are required to bring you blankets and earplugs, which by the way are used by many travelers and rarely ever cleaned. Yuck!

Back to my point.

Besides bringing you a soda or a beer, flight attendants have been trained to do a lot more than just make you happy on the flight! They have actually been through extensive training to help deal with all kinds of situations from security threats, putting out fires and even delivering babies if necessary. They aren’t there to answer your every beck and call or jump and make you happy all the time; especially when you consider there are hundreds of other people on this flight too.

Imagine what would happen if the flight attendants allowed themselves to be sucked into running back and forward the entire time trying meet every single person’s shallow request? My guess is the plane would never get off the ground (insert preach Pastor)!

This got me to thinking about how this is the reality when it comes to the flight called life we’re on. How there are so many of us who have taken on this “flight attendant” role and in our real lives we have literally taken it to the extreme or better yet we’ve gone overboard with it! Think about how in taking on this overwhelming endeavor we have forgotten that there are other aspects to us helping people get to the next point on their journey that have nothing to do with making everyone happy. Like how about making sure people are growing up and that could mean we stop doing everything for them so they can. What if we took into consideration that as parents, our real job is to assist with certain things, but the passenger aka child is really responsible for taking flight in their own life. Even when it comes to being a leader (and we’re all leaders) we are only required to share in a small part of helping those we lead to their destination. The real problem is we have basically become glorified people pleasers! People pleasers are often those who stress themselves out by taking on the load and the weight of responsibility that belongs to someone else. Sadly, people pleasers often appear to be nice on the outside, but usually inwardly are a ticking time bomb of frustration who eventually explode with resentment and bitterness directed at the people who could have gotten “whatever” they needed on their own.

But let’s be honest, who’s going to run around and figure their lives out for themselves when there is a perfectly gullible sucker aka people pleaser who will run and do it for them? The truth is, people pleasers are really the ones responsible when it comes to the way other people treat them. When it comes down to it, no one can mistreat you without your cooperation and consent. When anyone in their right mind realizes they’re being taken advantage of, the sensible response is to remove yourself from the equation. But the average harebrained people pleaser knows that they’re not being treated properly and will continue to allow the abuse to go on all the while they’re seething with frustration and deep seated anger that increases and intensifies everyday. If you find yourself somewhere in this story I want to encourage you to stop participating in this insanity today.

I encourage you to start loving yourself a little more today and put your foot down when it comes to how much you are going to do for ungrateful, irresponsible stagnant people. I want you to start today with being okay with anyone who wants to walk away from you because they can no longer manipulate or exploit you. The truth is anyone who is only in relationship with you for what they can benefit from you will make themselves known when you start using the word NO in your vocabulary. And yes, I know it’s going to be hard for you to do because you are a people pleaser and most of your identity is wrapped up in making people happy. But today is the day you stop living with that flight attendant mentality in your real life. I came today as your real life coach to remind you that it’s impossible to pour from an empty cup. Stop trying to give to others what you have neglected to give yourself first. You, my friend are here to do more than bring people sodas. Your purpose is to do more than bring people blankets to make sure they’re covered. When will someone actually go out of their way to cover you?

You’re here to do more than fetch things for rude, entitled people and see to it that they are comfortable and on their way. You have been equipped with so much more to offer and the sooner you realize it; the sooner everyone around you will. I coach people everyday who have lived most of their lives being stepped on and run over and sadly this has been done mostly by the people they have deep love for. This has got to change. You’ve got to stop loving people who treat you so bad. The bottom line is this, in order for you to get the respect you deserve and be valued for who you are; you must set some healthy boundaries! You’re here for more than what people can get from you. If your need to be needed is so deep that you always find yourself being the maid, the chauffeur, the chef, the credit line, errand boy or girl, or the one who’s always at someone else’s beck and call; you need to ask yourself why am I always playing this role?

There are some people who find themselves in messed up relationships and stay in them and then there are those who wake up and say not another day! Not another day will I allow my love and kindness to be mismanaged by trifling people with no conscience. There will always be people who stay in the same cycle of drama and toxic relationships. Just don’t let it be you. Some friends you have will always date the married man. Some will remain the perpetual side chick but that’s them, not you. Some will always be the one who consistently plays the family doormat. Unfortunately, some people love the attention and toxicity of playing dysfunctional parts. For some it will always be the same script different cast. But if you’re coachable and want to start enjoying this flight, I encourage you to continue to be the kind and loving person you are. But for God’s sake, don’t be a people pleaser! Especially when you’re going to end up snapping on someone who could have gotten up and did what they asked you to do for themselves! Help is one thing enabling is another. Flight attendants have a capacity to do more than make you happy. Tell someone today I’m no longer here solely to make you happy! I have so much more to offer!

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Ever notice when traveling that the flight crew is always very serious about getting everyone seated for take off? They smile and greet people and go through the typical formalities when helping board each particular passenger for flight, but they have a motive and an intent that can’t be denied. They are there for business. They are serious about helping people to their destination. To no surprise, they don’t get paid on the ground, only when they’re in the air (insert that will preach). This made me think about the fact that even after they make sure every passenger is in their seat, not everyone flying will get to their actual destination at the same time. Some people will stop and have a layover, waiting on a connecting flight, while others will land right where they intended when they got on board!

This made me think the same is true in every setting we find ourselves in on this flight called life. From relationships, school, work, church, even down to the community council you have a seat on; the simple truth is, you can make people sit in their seat, but you can’t make them go anywhere (insert praise dance).

The reality is some people will walk into titles and positions and take on responsibility and even claim to be all in something, but once that thing begins to take off and move higher and ascend in purpose and focus; you will find out then that some never really enrolled in their heart and mind to actually going places with you; especially in the area of maturity, change and growth. This speaks to the fact that no one ever learned anything against their will.

If you find there are people, movements, institutions and organizations that you’re linked to and you can show up regularly and take a seat there ask yourself, am I really on board with where this flight is going? Am I on this for business or for pleasure?

This is what often separates the “men from the boys.” Let’s be honest with ourselves, there are only two types of passengers on every flight. Some are on board for fun, and some are there for business! And don’t get me wrong, the people that are going places in life certainly have a right to leisure and fun. I believe if you work hard you should play hard. But there’s a quote from the Bible that says there’s a season for everything and some of us are getting too old; too seasoned (LOL) to always want to play and never get down to business and see our lives in a place of order, prosperity and balance.

Some of us are too old to be doing some of the childish things we continue to do. Too old to be stressing over lessons we should have learned in our twenties. Too old to be enabling people or being enabled. So it amazes me how we can have more degrees than a thermometer and we can have a bunch of certifications, but never act like we have any sense. How we have impressive resumes and communication skills, but far from impressive lives to match. How can we constantly sit in classrooms, seminars and workshops and still never apply what we wrote in our notes? I’m still flabbergasted at how so many people can shout and say amen in church and still live in the seat of someone who’s not ready to make the changes in their own mindset to ascend and get beyond the same old unstable habits and patterns of living.

I’m here today as your real life coach and flight crew announcer to tell you it’s time to sit down and prepare for take off. And this time, I don’t want you to just go through the motions in your life and comply because I’m telling you to. At the end of the day, pretending to be ready for take off does you no good at all. You can fake your way through relationships and responsibilities and after a while you will find you’re no closer to where you want to be than you were when you first took off. The point is to get “there” and hopefully to enjoy the flight along the way.

So please sit down. Not because I’m telling you to. Not because you think it’s what other people expect of you or because you think it’s what they want to hear. This flight is your journey and it’s time you stop masquerading and acting as if you’re in cooperation and agreement with going somewhere you really don’t want to go. If you don’t want to be a leader, stop faking it. If you don’t want to be a world changer, no one is forcing you. You can sit on Facebook all day and watch Netflix all night, and if that’s what sincerely makes you happy; who am I to tell you otherwise? But if you actually want to grow, get on board with some people who will challenge you and you won’t revert back to infancy in the process. Get with some people who once they tell you about yourself you won’t go back to being a 12 year old and secretly resent them and hate them for trying to help you. If you are serious and truly want grow, attach yourself to some people you’ll respect. Attach to some people who don’t have to convince you and who you don’t mind being accountable to. If you want to grow, my suggestion is for you to get some friends and confidants who aren’t afraid to tell you when you’re being trifling. Get some people in your circle that will help you get closer to your destination. Attach to whatever represents purpose to you. And once you do that, commit to growing beyond yourself so you can help them go places.

By all means, if you want to hang out with people who are going nowhere, do it expeditiously. Please do what’s in your heart and commit to it. Own it. If you want to be a loser, say it. Don’t come around us winners and try to lower the vibration with your idolatry to your opinion and your warped thinking. If you want to stay in covenant with depression, wrong attitudes and resistance, knock yourself out.

The bottom line is, you can’t fly with eagles if you hang around with turkeys. Look around and ask yourself why am I here? Is it for business or for pleasure. The truth is business leads to pleasure.

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Did you know that the tray table in front of you on the airplane was designed to do more than one thing? Most of us think it’s only function is for us to eat off of. Some think it’s designed solely for us to read and write on. Some people think it’s mere reason for existence is to put our laptop on. But the creative makers of the tray table on the airplane specifically designed it for more than one use; all the way from eating, drinking, napping, reading, writing, down to using it as a changing table.

Now I’m sure most of you weren’t ready for that baby changing table use. But it’s true. The same table you eat your meal on could still have you know what on it. Alarming isn’t it? To think that the same surface we eat our snack or meal on and some even lay their head down to nap on, is also used by some people to change a poopy pamper. This made me think about our expectations and the designs and plans we have for things and how often they too can vary from person to person. How you may look at something and see using it for one thing, while I look at it and see using it for another thing. This is often one of the biggest sources of heartbreak for some of us in life; that we are actually in relationships on this flight called life with people who have ideas about what certain things are for that are completely outlandish, disturbing, strange, selfish and downright disrespectful to us.

For me, I’m amazed at how many people use opportunities to “serve” or to “help out” to boost their self esteem. While helping others may give you that good feeling inside, it’s not the intended purpose. Helping is to help someone else, Point blank PERIOD. It completely astonishes me how something as pure as helping can have so many different motivations from person to person. I’m always blown away and surprised at how some people lend a hand and come to someone’s rescue with the idea that they are now expected control and power over that individual in return. This also made me think how much better it would be if the “tray table” came with a users manual. (Insert I may just write a users manual aka relationship manual for the users of life 🤔)

It made me think how much better a ride this would be if when others sat down on this flight, they could be handed detailed instructions outlining what’s acceptable when they decide to use the tray table. I began to wonder about how different all of our lives would be if we handled our relationships the same way. Where we didn’t let people use us however they want from day to day. Think about how you wouldn’t have to worry about being misused if you just opened your mouth and communicated to the people around you what’s okay versus what’s not. Your flight would be greater if you were more specific about what your boundaries were. Don’t you think you would avoid being a changing table if you articulated to people that you’re not putting up with anybody’s crap? LOL

It’s amazing how people will do to you what you allow them to do. People, if you let them will come up with all kinds of creative uses for you because they think you’re so nice aka passive and weak. They will use you as a tray table because you seem so accessible and compliant and accommodating when it comes to them using you for more than one thing. I think it’s advantageous to us that we live in a description or title driven culture. Where everyone comes with a designation. Think of it as part of your users guide when it comes to the people you’re in relationship with. This keeps the lines from being crossed. So at work, I’m the boss or the employee. At home, I’m the child or the parent. In love relationships, we are casual or committed. Some of us need to examine who we are to the people in our lives. Friend or person who you want to agree with your constant bad choices, toxic drama and foolishness. Brother, Sister or person you expect to be available for your abuse and dishonor in the name of family.

These roles should be clear before we take off. This will undoubtedly keep people from crossing lines and mistreating the gift you are called to be in that relationship. Anytime you allow your role and identity to be taken to the extreme; you rob yourself of your value, dignity and worth. Aren’t you tired of allowing people to use you for whatever they decide to use you for and whenever they want?

The harsh reality is, after you allow yourself to be pulled down to the level they want you on and after they use you up; the credible people who genuinely wanted to experience you and what your intended purpose was will be turned off and will no longer want to deal with you. You will have been labeled a discount by your own doing. And no matter how cool of an idea you are, the same people who wanted to see you worthy, will come to the ultimate conclusion that you are nothing more than a tray table. Don’t let it be said about you that too many people have used you for too many different purposes.

On the plane they usually make an announcement during take off that says “Put Your Tray Table Up!” I offer that same advice to you today. Put your tray table in the upright position (insert My Lord!) and make sure what people know you to be about are only things that maintain your value, dignity and worth.

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Due to fatigue and improper rest, between 43% and 54% of pilots surveyed in Sweden, Norway and the U.K. admitted to falling asleep while flying a passenger jet. What’s even scarier, one-third of these pilots found their co-pilots sleeping right next to them when they woke up.

WOW!

Clearly this speaks to the importance of having the right people taking the lead when you’re trying to go places. It also speaks to how much those leading us have got to get proper rest and how they need to be in good physical and mental health if they’re going to be the ones responsible for helping us get to our intended destination.

This also made me think about how many of us are guilty of falling asleep at the wheel when we should be awake (insert preach)!

While it’s extremely easy to be judgmental and stick your nose up at the pilots who fell asleep while carrying precious cargo, I wonder if we would be honest for a moment and admit that there are areas in our own lives where we are doing the same exact thing as the sleeping pilots. Where when it comes to the flights we’re considered the navigator and chief aviator and guide; how we have stretched out, laid down and gone into the proverbial recline mode when it comes to everything we are supposed to be taking care of!

Could it be that we aren’t much different than the sleeping pilots in our very own lives? When we consider the influence, authority and command we have over the many irreplaceable lives of others and the monumental tasks and weighty assignments; have we become so lax that we’ve allowed ourselves to fall into a place of slumber at the helm? Should the sleeping pilots be held accountable for what they did on the job and if so, shouldn’t we too?

Truth is, none of us really get a pass for failing to stay awake when we’ve been charged with great responsibility. None of us get to make excuses when we’ve been chosen and said yes to carrying out significant assignments on our job, in our families, churches and communities? It’s sad and truly unfortunate that many who will even read this today will see themselves in one area of their life where they have taken rest to the extreme; but the question of the day is WILL YOU CHANGE? Will you decide today is the day to stop sleeping on your wife? Will you decide today is the day to stop sleeping on your husband? Will you make a commitment today to finally stop sleeping on what you said you’re committed to? Unless you make up your mind to stop treating your business, ideas, vision, or church with such half heartedness and disregard; you’re really no different than the sleeping pilots. If you ask me, I actually think it’s criminal to say you’re going to help people get to their destination and then turn around and fall asleep on everyone on board the flight.

My advice to the coachable today is simple. If you have become dormant and idle when you should be the one leading; WAKE UP and change!

Wake up because other people’s lives are at stake. Wake up because this is not something that you should ever take lightly. Like being a mom or dad, husband or wife; leader or whatever,…these are people’s actual lives! And I’m trying to understand what kind of sick person gets behind the wheel and takes others lives so lightly that they would actually go to sleep on the job?

Wake up before you have to live with years of regret because you didn’t do what you were assigned to do with any passion, honor, respect and esteem. If the truth be told; we are all responsible for motivating and inspiring others to go places on this journey called life. Everyone is a leader in some arena. Stop being so selfish, irresponsible and babyish and act like a grown up. People are depending on you to step up and stop being so pitiful. Turn the tv off and go to bed at a reasonable hour. Rearrange your schedule so you have time to take care of yourself and for God’s sake, learn to say no to time wasters and users. Make time for the people you’ve made real lasting commitments to. Stop eating junk food all day. Go see a therapist. Go to church. Go to the gym. Get some better friends. Stay away from toxic people who want your life to be messed up like theirs. Do whatever you need to do to be a better person. Take some time to seriously figure out what your priorities really are, because people are counting on you to get yourself together. Lives are waiting on you to help them get to their next destination; and rarely does this happen when the leader is asleep.

Whether it’s falling asleep at the wheel of your marriage; you better wake up and remember the vows you made to your spouse before this trip started. When it comes to your commitments to your organization, church or community; WAKE UP! It’s not a game. Lives are in the balance. When it comes to your career, calling, and assignments; too many people are asleep and this is nothing more than unacceptable negligence at it’s finest. The sad reality is that just like the sleeping pilots, some of the people you are sitting next to and working with have followed your bad example; and that’s why they’re asleep too.

Shame on us if we have trained a generation to do the same dysfunctional crap we’ve done. Shame on us if we have praised and applauded inconsistency and immaturity. Shame on us for rewarding shameful behavior with titles, positions and promotions with high visibility. Shame on us if we have taught those closest to us to sleep at the wheel. It’s a shame because many of us know we haven’t corrected the people sitting next to us sleeping, because we know they got these reckless habits from us. It’s disheartening to consider that so many leaders who are out of control are the same ones who are teaching bad habits to the people they should be teaching excellence to. I hope to encourage you today and tell you there’s still time to turn things around! First you must reset. Splash some water on your face and get yourself together before there’s another accident. You don’t want to be the one responsible for taking down the plane do you? There are lives on this flight who trust you as their leader to help them take off.

I hope this encouraged you to start taking whatever you lead seriously again. Please don’t fall asleep when people are in the seats behind you, looking to you and whether they say it or not; they are depending on you to help take them to their destination. Please wake up.

Copyright 2019 Sherry Grant

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