This Flight Is Full

We sat down and got ourselves comfy and ready for takeoff. That’s when the flight crew announced “This is going to be a full flight.” Immediately I heard a message in that.

The dictionary defines the word full; containing or holding as much or as many as possible; having no empty space.

That’s the first definition. But the second definition is the one that made me wanna have a Baptist fit.

*full; not lacking or omitting anything; complete. (Insert tears and hand praise)

What if you lived your life like it was full, not lacking or omitting anything; complete?! Wouldn’t you admit that it would completely change everything in your life; from what you say and what you do to right down to who you do it with?! I believe most of the problems we have are simply because we live our lives the opposite of full. Most people live like they are already defeated, as if they are always deficient. So many of us walk around like we are always in lack, always in need of something. But if we tap into our creative minds, we actually really lack nothing. The truth is everything you need is right here with you on this flight called life. This flight is completely full! If you need love, it’s on this flight. If you need peace; it’s right here on this flight. If you need support, it’s on this flight too. Look around and receive it! Stop rejecting what’s available to you simply because it’s not familiar to you.

As your real life coach I want you to be open. Stop sabotaging your blessings with negative thoughts. I want you to settle your spirit and start looking within! Tap into your creative mind and stop feeling sorry for yourself. Stop acting like a victim as if you don’t have anyone to help you and start by helping yourself. Help yourself by thinking right and from this place you will begin to see how much you already have going for you. When you shift in your mindset, you will begin to attract people who want to connect with you. Confidence and self awareness will make you appealing. While negativity and insecurity will make your blessings run away from you. These toxic mindsets send messages that say to others that you’re not ready yet.

I promise you this flight is completely full! You just needed to be reminded that everything you need is already here and it starts with you!

Copyright 2019 Sherry Grant

#flying #plane #travel #full #mindset #people #motivation #life #inspiration #traveling #goingplaces #therealestlifecoach #flight #vacation

Relationships that are going places ♥️

The lengths people go to show their love to one another on Valentine’s Day is quite astonishing. From fancy chocolates, red roses, lingerie, diamonds, five star dinners to trips all over the world; it’s clear that people will travel the distance for love. But is where you’re going really love and does the actual destination vary from person to person? What does a loving relationship look like for you and does the person you’re going places with agree with your definition of love?

This got me to wondering how many relationships are really going anywhere beyond the materialistic and the physical? If the person you genuinely love places a demand on you to give them stuff as a means to get close to them, is that the same idea you had about love? Was your idea of love to have to buy them Christian Louboutins, Louis Vuitton and Gucci in order to prove your love or keep them happy? Did you sign an agreement that said you must send chocolates and roses to their office or take them to dinner in Miami at Mr. Chows? Is it written somewhere that you have to sleep with them every night and wear lingerie to love them? Is that considered going the distance in a relationship? How far can you go with someone like that anyway? To me it doesn’t seem like you’ll actually get where you dreamed of with a travel partner who has so many demands on you. Is it that so many today are so shallow and consumed with things and society roles that we don’t even know what love is anymore? Can you really intend to go the distance with that kind of pressure on you forever?

If the amount of money or the gesture has to be so extravagant on Valentine’s Day, I hope you’re prepared to keep this madness up for the entire flight; because whether you want to accept it or not it is going to become an expectation in your relationship.

As your real life coach, I have an honest question for you. Do you seriously think you’ll be able to go as far as you need to go in life with someone who’s so focused on materialistic things, image and public persona? Even when you think about all the potential you have and the places you plan to go in your life, do you even want to be bothered with such a prima donna? You’re gonna be bigger than you are soon, so do you need that kind of headache from a relationship that’s supposed to be loving and supportive? One of the celebrity relationships I love is between Michelle and Barack Obama. This woman shops at Target and is adored all over the world because she’s so down to earth and real. The two of them seem to share sincere love.

Now don’t get me wrong, no one has the perfect relationship, but I believe the more grounded and realistic we can be in our relationships the better. The wealth of a relationship is not found in living like a celebrity pop star and squandering every dime you make to impress anyone. The relationships that are going places are the ones who have nothing to prove. The ones where meaningful conversations, savings accounts and properties purchased in each other’s names are the goals for future destinations. This flight called life is hard enough to have to fly with someone who’s constantly bringing you down with drama and nonsense. If you have to stress and sweat about meeting all of their families expectations of you being their savior, don’t get on that flight. This flight has a lot to do with the destinations we set our eyes on. If you want love, I get it. But some of this crap we get ourselves into is nothing more than a set up for a bad ride. When you look at your relationship today ask yourself this simple question; what’s love got to do with it?

Copyright 2019 Sherry Grant

#goingplaces #relationships #travel #plane #fly #therealestlifecoach #love #motivation #relationships

That’s what you get for going to Orlando

10:33AM and I’m dead serious. No exaggeration; there are a handful of kids on this flight screaming and hollering like they’re demon possessed all at the same time. Hard to imagine all of this is happening and we haven’t even taken off yet! The man sitting next to me yelled out “Hey, can we at least have some alcoholic drinks if we’re going to have to listen to this for an entire two hour flight? I looked back at him and said “Well, that’s what you get for going to Orlando!”

Then I just sat there. What else could I do? Well, I guess I could have turned my attention to all the adults (and I use that term loosely) violently reacting to the soundtrack of screaming kids in their own rendition of a grown up temper tantrum. It made me wonder if we actually really understand what we are getting ourselves into when we say we want to go certain places on this flight called life. Like I really wonder how many people realize what they’re getting into when they say they want the career or dream job they say they want. I wonder if they realize that even though they’re anxiously looking forward to the paycheck at the end of the week; they’re still gonna have to possibly put up with an obnoxious boss, insanely long work week, impossible deadlines and stressful meetings before they ever get to payday. I wonder if people know that as nice as love, marriage, a wedding and a honeymoon sounds, we still have to travel on this noisy flight with our sometimes difficult spouses and their bad habits, and their often complicated family on the way. Seems like somehow along the journey we forgot that we don’t always get to choose the soundtrack that plays in the background for our lives.

When the kids on the flight to Orlando were really losing control crying and flipping out, one lady near me tried to reel me into the mob of complainers,… but I wouldn’t join in. Instead, I smiled and calmly told her “I’m use to it. I used to own a daycare center.” I was basically letting her and anyone around who was listening know that what’s happening on this flight doesn’t have the power to change my mood (insert churchy organ).

All jokes aside I felt that. I looked at that woman and said the same thing I’m going to tell you. “YOU CAN HANDLE IT!” It just goes with the territory!

Once we make up our mind that what’s going on around us doesn’t have the power to ruffle our feathers. Once we decide that it’s not going to make us lose our cool, it won’t. Determine in your heart today that whatever has the potential to move you from a place of peace; it won’t work today. Not today satan! Whether it’s screaming kids, a pile of laundry, or a sink full of dishes, say to yourself; this is not going to make me upset and grumpy. Make up your mind that no matter what’s going on financially, emotionally or mentally, it will not make you lose your joy.

I intentionally travel with my headphones and I’m always prepared to drown out the noise of what’s going on around me with a soundtrack that I can control. This flight today is nothing more than a reminder and a reality check for me and for all my real life nation to remember that some things just go with the territory. If I’m going to Orlando, the home of Mickey Mouse; why in the world would I be surprised that I’m traveling with noisy screaming kids in the background?

Copyright 2019 Sherry Grant

#travel #flight #disney #kids #plane #screamingkids #goingplaces #therealestlifecoach #motivation #mindset #inspire #orlando #mickeymouse #loud #noise

Take Off!

The Wright brothers were pioneers credited for inventing and flying the world’s first successful airplane. There’s absolutely no doubt about it; these guys were serious about going places! While I’m not certain how long it took them to take their idea from inside their heads to actual reality, I’m sure it wasn’t an easy process. The most inspiring part of their story is that today we are all able to benefit off of their invention because they didn’t give up (insert praise dance).

While enjoying my cup of coffee on this beautiful snow day; this got me to thinking about how many of us have incredible ideas in our heads but they never take off. Ideas that have the capacity to be a major blessing to the world if we can just push past our feelings of insufficiency, inadequacy and frustration and make a determination to NEVER GIVE UP! When you think about the Wright Brothers, don’t you see yourself in their story? Like if you really make up your mind to stay the course, consider how many people are going to get their wings and take off!

Today we can fly high and go far because these two brothers took their plans beyond talking about them, to actually making them happen. I’m blessed to have people in my life who have done some amazing things that have assisted me in getting my wings and going places. So many people have helped me to fly. I can go places and do a lot of the things I do today because of the people in my life who never gave up. My husband gives me wings to take off by supporting me, loving me and working so hard everyday. He’s a big reason why I fly so high. My parents have helped me become who I am. They have been instrumental in teaching me to fly. My children and brother help motivate me to keep going. They help me fly. There are countless friends who have made contributions in my life to help me ascend! Even my haters help me take off! Thanks guys. LOL. So my daily assignment is to keep going and be a source of strength and motivation that supports others to take off too!

This is why I can’t give up!

I can’t give up because it didn’t start with me! I can’t give up because the world is waiting on me to create and inspire and get what’s inside of me out! The dreams, the ideas, the words of encouragement are not supposed to die in me. The same is true for you today! You have something important inside of you. Inside of you is a vision that’s original. It’s unique and incredible and it’s definitely going to make a monumental impact on this earth. It’s so important and valuable, and it’s going to help people fly.

The Wright Brothers teach us that being a pioneer is not easy and it’s seriously risky business! Ironically, one of the Wright brothers not only goes down in history (no pun intended) for helping to make the first airplane; but he was also the first to die in an airplane crash. See that’s how you know you were born to do something great. When you’re not afraid to die doing it! Find what you love and are so passionate about and do it! Do it like you’re not afraid of the outcome. Do it like you’re not afraid to crash and burn. Do it like you don’t care if people support you. Do it and let it never be said that you were afraid to fail.

I’m ready to do what I was born to do no matter what the outcome, even if people call me crazy or stupid. I’m actually more afraid to die never trying. Any pioneer who’s doing something monumental is going to do whatever they have to do to make their dream a reality. What do you have to lose anyway? You’re going to be known for something either way, whether it’s flying or crashing.

Copyright 2019 Sherry Grant

#flying #travel #wrightbrothers #invention #flight #airlines #pilot #creative #pioneer #crash #people #inspire #motivation #mindset #goingplaces #therealestlifecoach #inspiration

How Would You Rate Your Experience?

Everyone’s a professional critic now a days. Everywhere you go, someone has something to say about their experience. People who live in filth expect clean hotel rooms, and people who can’t cook expect gourmet meals at restaurants. It’s amazing how so many of us can’t wait to get somewhere and become a freakin critic. Many stay ready to tear apart and nitpick what they think someone else could have done to improve things. What if we took the same time to critique ourselves? How would you rate your experience with you?

If you travel to Orlando often as we do since our parents live there, sometimes when you land the passengers (usually kids) on the flight will begin to shamelessly applaud and shout out for joy in your ear! The reason they’re shouting is not often that they enjoyed the flight so much. But their experience ends in such raucous celebration because these passengers are super amped up and excited about what they expect when they get off the plane (insert praise break).

This got me to thinking about how many people could actually change the quality of enjoyment as they travel on this journey called life if they stop criticizing everything and changed their mindset. What if you actually started to live your life like the children going to Disney world!? If you stopped looking for faults in everything and started looking forward to what’s next for you with a positive expectancy. If you started believing that where you’re headed is going to be an amazing experience! That what’s next for you is going to be magical and full of excitement and happiness. Less time on what’s wrong with everyone else and more time giving your attention to personal progress, and more focus on the future!

Imagine how much more pleasant your travel time on this earth would be! Imagine how much easier it would be for people to get along with you. Today’s advice for all my real life coach nation is simple. As you move closer to becoming whatever you desire to be; adjust your thinking.

Think like a child on their way to Disney world!

What if you took this approach in how you handled everything you’re getting closer to. What if I told you that you didn’t have to wait to graduate in order to actually enjoy your life. What if I told you that you didn’t have to wait to get a raise, a new boo, or your dream house in order to experience peace and joy. Too often, we are guilty of postponing our happiness for things in our lives to be perfect. And I hate to break the news to you; but things will never be completely perfect. The truth is, you can’t control what happens externally on this flight. All you can control is what happens on the inside of you. You can control how you think. How you see things will make the difference between you living a fairy tale or a nightmare. And I can guarantee that if you live your life from day to day waiting for someone perfect to come and love you, or if you wait for the perfect job or perfect family; even if you get these things, you’ll still find something to critique with your negative mindset. You’ll be upset even when you get the perfect life you’ve obsessed about for so long, because once you get it, you will still have to deal with YOU.

The harsh reality is you’re looking for everything to be perfect but you’re not perfect. Not only that, you will have made being anxious, negative, fearful,..such habits in your life that when you get what seems ideal, it won’t want you. The dangerous part about stressing over having everything perfect is you learn the keys to sabotaging yourself and whatever good that comes your way. So take a deep breath. Stop being so critical, uptight and stressed. Think like a child on his or her way to Disney world and watch your life improve in ways you would have never imagined! Give yourself permission to celebrate that you’re almost there, even if you don’t see it yet!

Copyright 2019 Sherry Grant

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The Bag Mishandlers

It’s almost impossible to travel on most airlines these days without having to cough up hefty baggage fees. And it’s funny because after you pay around 50 bucks for your luggage to travel with you to your destination; you would think the people handling your bags would have the decency NOT to be outside the window of the plane throwing your stuff around the way they do. After one trip we took, I got my bag back and it was literally ruined,..beat up battered and bruised. My poor bag was in total disrepair! My formerly clean, unblemished bag that I gave them in one state, was returned to me almost unrecognizable. And why was my luggage all tattered and torn? Because someone who was handling my stuff thought it was okay for them to take their frustrations out on my bags. I call them the bag mishandlers.

This actually got me to thinking about how so many people go to work each and everyday. The same people who wake up and get dressed and drive their automobiles to the very job they asked for and when they get there; watch out, something or someone is going suffer the wrath of what’s happening emotionally on the inside of them. Sadly, it’s getting more and more scary what people are thinking about and meditating on. Revenge, payback and retaliation seems to be the way people are operating and many are even going to work like this cooking up evil in their hearts and minds. And what’s even more disturbing is that when some of these bag mishandlers get their hands on your “stuff” they can’t wait to throw it around and damage it (insert gasp).

This is going on a lot today, not only with my luggage but with your paperwork that’s in the hands of someone who’s holding the answer to your approval for your new place. To your name on the list for a scholarship or college acceptance. To the results of your exam or a serious medical diagnosis you’re scared out of your mind about. Even down to you leaving your precious children in the hands of a teacher at school. There are entirely too many people going to work mad and frustrated and ready to throw something you care about around when they think no one is watching. So many people have so much pinned up pain and are so angry inside that they go through life throwing people’s “stuff” around. And this kind of disgusting behavior is not okay! As a matter of fact, it’s downright despicable. There was a popular saying for one airline that said something like “come fly the friendly skies!” And yet many people have had experiences on many airline flights (and in life) that have been far from friendly.

My word of wisdom today for all who are part of my real life coach nation is, HANDLE everything you touch with care. And if for any reason you can’t, don’t touch it at all. Don’t “handle” people or their things if you’re not really going to “handle” them with care. Look up the definition of the word CARE and apply generously. Don’t act like you’re going to do anything that you genuinely aren’t going to do with love, passion and excellence. It’s frightening that we have become so disingenuous as a culture. Where so many people have mastered the art of being nice nasty. So many people are good at saying and doing the task, but what about doing what you do with the right attitude? Too many do what they do with awful, ugly SPIRITS.

Could it be that we have become such a phony culture that we think we are good at faking our way through every encounter? As if people don’t know you’re being mean and you’re clearly not in the right head space! As if you think people are so stupid that you can smile at them in their face and say one thing and when they turn their back, throw what matters to them around? I’ve even found that when you confront the “bag mishandlers” about the damage they’ve done; they’ll make excuses and try to pass the blame or even make light of their bad behavior. It’s still not okay!

Now it’s to the point that when I travel, I deliberately take as little of what’s valuable to me as possible (insert praise dance). I take things I’m not going to be upset about getting damaged or lost. Why you ask? Because I don’t want what’s precious to me to be mishandled by the “bag mishandlers.” I don’t want the aggravated, miserable people that hate their lives and hate their jobs to even get a chance to touch my valuables. The bag mishandlers will never get their hands on my plans, my vision, or my future.

This has become my philosophy in life! I literally make it a point not to let unhappy people touch what’s important to me. I give the “bag mishandlers” aka the people who aren’t happy on this journey called life as little access to anything I care about. You can not and will not have close access to my happy heart, family, and life if you’re mad about your own existence. Why you ask? Because if some of the same miserable, angry people on this flight called life got a chance to put their hands on my “stuff,” I’m pretty sure they would do what they always do. What’s that you ask? Take out their misery by throwing my valuables around like bag mishandlers always do.

Copyright 2019 Sherry Grant

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Traveling with Boundaries

After arriving to the airport, checking bags, making it through the TSA pat down and finding your seat; have you ever sat down next to someone who doesn’t have any respect for your personal space? Like their entire body is on you and you’re stuck like this on a 5 hour flight with them. Or how about the people who sit next to you and they want to talk your ear off the whole time and tell you their entire life story. Now it’s one thing if you know the person sitting next to you and the both of you have agreed to talk to each other the entire flight. But it’s another thing when you don’t even know the person sitting next to you and they just insist on draining you, when all you wanted to do was get to your destination in peace and quiet.

On this journey called life you will find yourself meeting up with some interesting people who often will not care one bit about you and how you feel. Some people are only focused on themselves and live in constant dishonor of those around them. The truth is many of the people you will “travel” with will unapologetically disregard your personal space. So the question of the day is; How do you let someone know they’ve crossed the line with you, without hurting their feelings? How do you let them know they’ve gone too far and still get through this flight (life) in peace with them? This is a real life matter. I consider it to be an issue of BOUNDARIES.

Boundaries are very important for those of us who are going places in life! The people who go the farthest learn how to set limits and I almost hate to use this word these days but “walls” (no political pun intended) are sometimes necessary to differentiate between you and others. This is super important if you’re going to a higher level in life. Everyone who sets boundaries is not being selfish. They’re not always trying to be mean and cold. And let me tell you that you are going to have to resolve in your heart now that setting boundaries with people doesn’t mean you don’t love them. It simply means you love yourself and you need your space!

Think about it this way, if you paid to sit in your seat, why should you have to suffer through the agony of sharing your space with someone who has decided, reasoned, rationalized and justified why it’s ok for them to inconvenience you in your seat too? You should be able to say “Hey, this is my seat! Stay in your space please” and that should be the end of it. But often when you tell a person who doesn’t respect boundaries they’re dishonoring you; they usually get very upset and defensive. Sometimes, we don’t express ourselves well either when it comes to our boundaries and that creates another set of issues. And yet it still doesn’t change a thing, we all still have a right to be around people who respect our boundaries. The bottom line is some people don’t see a blessed thing wrong with the crazy things they do to others!? And then they make you into “the bad guy” for speaking up for yourself. This is why boundaries are so important to set before you get into any relationship, partnership, agreement.

This boundary thing is a problem for many people today in families, friendships, churches and businesses. People don’t know how to respect boundaries because many have assumed “love and closeness” to mean, go right ahead and do whatever you want to me and around me! Love for many means boundaries don’t apply (insert the devil is a liar). This way of thinking is a recipe for disaster in any relationship. No matter how much you love another person, they should still respect your boundaries. If that’s not funny to them, stop saying it. If calling them sweetie or honey is offensive and they’ve told you, stop being disrespectful. If they don’t like tickling and you do; stop crossing their boundary. Tickle yourself, not the person who spelled it out to you that they don’t like that!

People who don’t honor and respect boundaries get too close for comfort and then get upset and dare you to address their bad behavior. They go too far in how familiar they are with you. These people become extremely common and relaxed to the point where they start saying unacceptable, off the wall things to you. How many times have these kinds of people shifted the dialogue from the weather to asking intimately private questions of you that you would never ask them? Some people are just plain old messy and nosey, and they have no problem getting all up in your space being too close for comfort.

One of the things I’m learning on this flight called life is; you can’t control what other people do, but you can control how you handle you.

I’m learning that no matter what other people do, I can choose to stay calm and in peace. I can choose to give little or none of my energy or time to people who dishonor me. That’s my boundary. I refuse to let anyone take me “ there.” “There” for me is anywhere outside of the creative, peaceful, beautiful space I create for me to live in.

So as your real life coach, my advice to you today is simple. Prepare yourself for anything as you take flight! Get your headphones 🎧 out and put them on. They’re going to help to drown out the chatter and the nonsense and the noise. Turn them to something that feeds your spirit, mind and soul. Bring along your eye mask to cover your eyes so you don’t have to be distracted or annoyed by what’s going on around you. This is going to help control what you see or more importantly what you don’t see. Finally, cover yourself. A blanket of peace or whatever you need to be covered up in is going to help you stay safe and comfortable. This will ensure whoever comes into contact with you won’t be able to agitate, rub you the wrong way and vex you.

Just be ready to deal with all kinds personality types as you go higher and you are going higher! Focus on where you’re headed! Master the art of being unbothered by what use to get on your nerves. Learn yourself at a deeper level and then set realistic boundaries for your life that help keep you elevated. Stay away from mindsets and attitudes and atmospheres that bring you down. Be intentional about gravitating to people who help you soar. Waste as little time as possible around people who refuse to grow and change. And stop trying to change people. That’s vodoo! It’s not your job to tell other people what they need to do and who they need to be. Work on you! That should be your full time job!

Copyright 2019 Sherry Grant

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The Flight Crew is Coming Around to Collect Your Trashed

As the plane prepares to land in your desired destination, the flight crew will start moving around collecting any unwanted trash from the passengers on board. My brother told me once while he was traveling, one of the passengers on his flight became extremely irate because he didn’t want to let go of his trash; specifically a plastic cup with a few pieces of ice left in it. My brother said it was like watching someone have an emotional meltdown and it got so bad that it ended in an awkward physical altercation. Believe it or not, the flight attendants had to get the Air Marshall involved and he ended up aggressively taking the cup out of the hands of the passenger who was oddly overly attached to a silly piece of trash.

This got me to thinking about how many people are the same way in real life. Strangely attached to garbage and foolishness. For some it’s our ever changing opinions, bad attitudes, immature thinking and destructive habits that are keeping us from landing and going to the next place we set out to go.

It made me think that if you and I are really going somewhere (and we are) it really does require us throwing away our “trash” and whatever unnecessary mess we’ve accumulated along the journey. This even includes messed up mentalities, dysfunctional behaviors from our families and toxic relationships that trash our minds and make it difficult for us to take off in life! Isn’t it time you stop fighting to hold onto the needless and unproductive?

Those of us who are going places in life have a lot to consider when it comes to letting go of the unnecessary. Not only is someone else going to come and sit where you sat after you exit the plane, but the way you leave it is important. The condition of the space you leave for someone else is a reflection of you and your character. Don’t let it be said that someone else wasn’t able to have a good take off because they had to sit in your “mess” and spend their precious time cleaning up after you. People who are going places understand the importance of leaving the space in order for those who will come after them. Your children, mentees, and the others who look up to you need the right environment to thrive. Are you making it conducive for them to soar? As far as I’m concerned, I want to see everyone who comes after me fly even higher than me!

Anyone who’s serious about taking flight is going to take whatever necessary steps they have to in order to part ways with the useless and anything else that’s counterproductive to their progress and growth. Truth is, no one with good sense wants the Air Marshall to get involved and have to force them to let go of some good for nothing rubbish.

So my advice for you today as your real life coach is to look around you and check for anything that you need to dispose of before you exit this place you’re currently in. Let go of bad habits, excuses and pride; anything that’s in the way of you getting to your next destination. The flight crew is coming through one more time to collect any trash you have. Release it. Let it go. At the end of the day, it’s not worth carrying that stuff with you where you’re going.

Copyright 2019 Sherry Grant

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Trippin’

The pilot on the plane is the pilot and he never has to take out his paperwork and run down his resume to the passengers to prove that. He’s already been through the vetting and hiring process, so he just sits in his seat and does what he’s paid to do. What is the job of a pilot? Plainly put, he’s there to take passengers safely from one destination to another. Funny how the pilot who arguably has the most important job on the plane is hardly ever visible. He’s just busy behind the scenes doing what he’s assigned to do. In every movie, I know you think the celebrity you love is the one making the most money, but there’s usually some executive behind the scenes who none of us would recognize who’s racking in obscene amounts of money; far more than our favorite movie star who we think is living larger than life. The truth is, in every arena, the people you don’t see are the ones who are making the most money.

This got me to thinking about life and how much more we could all accomplish if we got out of the way and did what we were called to do without having to be seen. I’ve found that coachable people who are really going somewhere in life versus the people who are always trippin are focused on two different goals. They have two very different mindsets. The people going places, I describe them to be sober. They are clearheaded, serious, self disciplined and restrained. They’re usually humble and confident. No point to prove. Okay with not being the center of attention. They have a sense of dignity and self awareness that they wouldn’t dare try to make the focus about them. They don’t desire a spotlight. Not a know it all. This sobriety serves them well, especially if they become highly visible, because the pressure of the spotlight is one of the main reasons many get high as a coping mechanism. Success has its own set of pressures many clearly aren’t able to handle.

On the other hand, a person who is always trippin is intoxicated with bringing attention to themselves. Can you see now how this describes this culture today where so many people are always trippin? So many now are always high trippin on pills, drugs, alcohol, Facebook likes, compliments, talents and gifts, status, position, titles,….you name it. And because so many people are high trippin on something and no one is sober anymore, not many people can handle the pressure of truly taking flight in life and moving to new places; let alone helping other people get there.

Let it never be said that you are one of those people who is always trippin. But if you need anything to stimulate you, numb you or anesthetize you; this message is for you. And as your real life coach, I challenge you today to stop trippin and go higher in your mindset!! There are places out there you know nothing about because you’re inebriated with the hopes of being internet famous. You’re tipsy about getting the applause of people and these same people will love you today and turn on you tomorrow. So stop trippin.

I guarantee you that when you decide that you are ready to go somewhere beyond the usual trips to “Miami” you will find that the destinations are endless! But you will never find the courage to go higher until you come to a place of sobriety in your heart and mind. Stop getting high off of yesterday’s accomplishments and sober up. Stop living in the “good ole days.” Today is a new day and you must choose to take flight. Decrease your need to be an Instagram model and increase your desire to serve and help others ascend. Come off your high of needing to be a superstar and learn your craft so people will look for you rather than you begging people to see your worth. Too many of us are drunk on needing to be needed. Instead, we need to start doing whatever we can to help create a better place for the people we inspire to ascend.

Stop deluding yourself into thinking you are such a good and righteous person and just do what you’re called to do. Without all the fanfare and recognition. Life will find ways to bless you when you make it your business to be a blessing. Remember the pilot’s job is to take us to a place we couldn’t possibly get to on our own without their expertise. Be that for someone today without needing your ego stroked and without looking for accolades and acknowledgement. Notice the pilot rarely comes out at the end and tells everyone on the plane that they should give him a standing ovation and a round of applause for helping us get to our final destination. He doesn’t have to do that because he’s sober! Instead, he or she stays out of the way and usually is on their way to help another group take flight. (Insert Hallelujah)

The sober pilot finds a sense of satisfaction in knowing he did what he was assigned to do. And if you’re anything like the sober pilot, you’re not trippin either and you’re definitely going somewhere whether people see you or not.

Copyright 2019 Sherry Grant

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The Guilt Trip

It’s a destination that has taken me 46 years to stop taking. Guilt is such a useless emotion and waste of time and travel. Guilt is when you feel responsible or regretful for a perceived offense, real or imaginary. So I asked myself, why was I making a regular trip to this undesirable place? Especially when I realized most of the things I felt guilty for had nothing to do with me, and to make matters worse, the persons I “offended” never even opened their mouth (to me) and said anything about their “offense.” They just started acting distant, with obvious strange attitudes and a lot of innuendo. Was it my responsibility to keep traveling the distance to find out what’s wrong with people who even after you take the guilt trip to see them, they still won’t speak up and be honest about what their issue is with you?

Why did it take me so long to realize I was not responsible for other people’s happiness? That how I lived my life and however they felt about it was not a package deal. That whatever they were thinking in their mind was really none of my business anyway. Honestly, I realized what an enormous burden it was going to take for me to continue to take this trip; I was getting too old to travel that far of a distance to such an awful place. Not even for family, friends, associates,… it was too much and not worth the trip! That’s when I got off. No more guilt tripping for me.

This got me to thinking how many of us are in relationships with people who work overtime to make us feel guilty for stuff we shouldn’t have to feel guilty for? How many of us were on this guilt trip? Like how in good conscience does another person make you responsible for their happiness and emotional well being? And since when did you become the superintendent of other people’s feelings? But, the expectation if you’re on this trip is for you to always be the one checking to see if they’re ok? Always the one to make sure you don’t do anything to make them mad at you today? Always the one that’s designated to see if they need you to do anything for them to stay in their good graces. And mind you no matter what you do, it’s never enough. Can we go ahead and just address the elephant in the room when it comes to anyone who’s taking this trip? The guilt trip is abuse!

There, I said it!

And this behavior is still abuse no matter who’s doing it to you!

I’m sure this is a lot to take in for many but I’m going to commit to sharing this message no matter how uncomfortable it may be. The people I coach can handle it!🤗

So I’m not suggesting that any of us live our lives like inconsiderate jerks who only care about themselves, but the amount of manipulation associated with this kind of trip is deep and has a lot of layers. The guilt trip will put you in a state of mind where your feelings are all over the place. But eventually you’re going to have to stop taking the guilt trip if you want to maintain your sanity and quality of life.

This trip is super expensive and there are no return flights available. Once you sign up for a guilt trip you are stuck on that flight until you wake up and aggressively take measures to stop being manipulated and controlled by anyone. Many people are stuck on the guilt trip compliments of their children, parents, grandparents, spouse, boss, friends,..and if you’re not mentally, emotionally and spiritually strong enough they will keep you there in the name of “loyalty.” If you’re on this trip, you will begin to notice that anything they do for you; they will bring back up and remind you of it often to make you feel bad for wanting to get off the flight. They’ll help you in some major way and when you do something they don’t approve of, they’ll rub what they did for you in your face and remind you that they gave you life or paid for your education, or helped you when no one else would. If that’s you, get off that flight today! If they support you, help you or are participating in your life and use their support or love in the past to make you a prisoner to making sure they’re happy; get off that flight now!

The amount of abuse and guilt tripping from “loved ones” who make you feel indebted to them for helping you grow up or get on your feet is toxic and completely unfair. If they say things like I gave up a lot for you, or who else would do all I do for you!? You are definitely stuck on the guilt trip. If they constantly use what they’ve done for you to make you stay loyal to them, you’re on a bad guilt trip.

As a mom, I maintain the belief that my children owe me nothing for their life. They didn’t even ask me to participate in the act that got them here. LOL. It was truly my decision to act like an adult. So why would I now want to act as if they need to grow up and take on the burden of paying me back? It’s not ok to do this to people! But yet many parents act as if there is some unspoken contract where their kids need to grow up and succeed only to buy them a house and make sure they’re happy. Many parents keep their adult children on the guilt trip. Some act like when their kid makes it, they are required to start their Grammy Award speech off by thanking them (and maybe God) for getting them there and if not, here comes the guilt trip.

I believe anyone who has blessed my life deserves honor and respect and I am always going to give that to them freely from my heart. But for anyone to demand anything from someone based on past help or support, (in my opinion) that suggest some off motives. My prayer for my children who are now adults is that they soar! Free from guilt. Free from pressure and worry about me. This flight called life is already filled with it’s own set of pressures and worries. The last thing I want to do is send anyone out weighed down with extra baggage from me.

As your real life coach, I hope you will help people without any hidden agendas. That you will make it your business to set people free to live and fly high! And just maybe, because you stopped expecting and demanding things from people,; those same people you’ve helped in the past will remember you one day. Maybe they’ll remember you and even stop by every now and again when they have some free time. And when they come, you’ll be happy and they will too and they surely won’t be coming to visit you this time on a guilt trip.

Copyright 2019 Sherry Grant

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