As a United States citizen, hopping on an airplane and flying to another state within the US was always easy and fun for me. I’d just pack a bag or two, grab my drivers license and go; but the experience was completely different when I wanted to leave the country. There was a lot more that had to be done to prepare for an international trip. Basically, what I realized is that if you want to go far distances, there’s a lot more involved than a trip close to home. When it’s all said and done, you can only go as far as you’re willing to go (insert that will preach)!
This whole traveling far idea is a big deal for the people who are really going places in life, and who are at a point in their life where they have become tired of the same old scenery. Truthfully there are a lot of people who are tired of climbing the corporate ladder, people want more! There are some of you reading this and you are tired of the rat race and adult version of a popularity contest. When you have gotten to the point where you have a partner or you’re happily single; either way, you’ve experienced the American Dream and now you’re awake and you know it’s got to be more than a spouse, house, kids, dog, cars and job. While all of that is nice and makes life a lot more enjoyable, many people are dissatisfied simply because they never took the time to go where they needed to go personally as an individual and it’s difficult to take other people where you haven’t been.
And so even this is resonating with you so clear because you are one of the people on this journey called life who are still determined to do more than work a job you hate for 30 years, retire and die full of regrets. Some of us want to see more than what we’ve seen in the uninspiring well meaning lives of others. Some of us know there is more out there and life is to be lived to the maximum not out of fear and worry of failure. Life is to be lived beyond the same old template your family gives you and tells to follow to be a “good person.” You know that’s why you agree with this message so much.
Ask yourself today; am I creating a life that I’ll be proud of when I take my last breath? Am I currently living a life like where I won’t end up with a humungous amount of bitter regrets and resentment?!And if I am, what do I need to do to change that? Going places requires making changes! You cannot stay the same if you want to go to a new destination.
See some people are determined to go places and have made up their minds that they are willing to make whatever sacrifices and investments they need to take to get “there.” Going international, you begin to see how much of what you have been accustomed to is completely different than what other people find normal. Going far you find out there is no normal! Going places, you begin to appreciate that there are other ways of thinking and living and being. You discover that you’re not the only one who has ideas, but other people do too and some of their ideas are actually better than yours and some of yours are better than theirs! But there is more than one way to happiness! Going places will teach you that life is not a competition at who’s better. It’s a great trip of discovering new people places and new horizons. Traveling far, you begin to see how much you don’t know and how much you need to learn. Traveling far is a humbling experience and the plain old truth is a lot of people are too proud and set in their ways to try anything that humbles them.
When we begin to think we know it all, it’s a good time to go somewhere new.
Go somewhere where you aren’t the top dog and you don’t speak the language well. Go somewhere where you aren’t familiar with the culture and this time you’re the one who looks different. Go somewhere where you don’t think you’re the smartest person in the room or the most creative or beautiful one there. Go somewhere so you can stop looking solely at your reflection. This is why we have so many narcissistic people in this culture. They haven’t seen much of the world which is why they’re so in love with their ideas and images of right and wrong. Their definition of beauty l, success, greatness is from their limited scope. They think they know better than anyone else. That’s a serious case of narcissism!
The actual word “narcissist” comes from the ancient Greek story of young Narcissus, who fell in love with his own image reflected in a pool of water. Doesn’t that sound like this selfie culture we live in? How many pics of yourself are you actually going to take to be happy? Im convinced we have become a people who won’t stop looking at our image because we are so in love with what we look like. Maybe we’re so in love with the external to compensate for the internal deficit.
I firmly believe the cure for the narcissistic culture is simple; go somewhere new! Look at something different. And if for God’s sake you still can’t find anyway to take your eyes off yourself and what’s familiar to you, you’re definitely a a pathological narcissist.
Honestly, most of us don’t even necessarily need to leave the country today, but we definitely need to learn to embrace different. Embrace people from different races, lifestyles, upbringings, cultures,… We all need to leave our close minded ways of thinking. Thinking we have the best food. Thinking we have the best minds, the best music, the best looking people. We seem to be obsessed with the thought that we have the best of the best! Wrong! The problem is we just haven’t been anywhere.
Some of us only know the same friends, family and circles we have become all too accustomed to. I believe even those of you who get up everyday and you’re bored with life and stuck in a rut; I guarantee it’s because you’re not going far enough. Even when it comes to your vision for your life. Have you learned who you are yet? Have you learned that inside of you there is so much more to offer you? Beyond your personality, charisma and your physique. I would venture to say that trapped in you is an artist, a chef, a writer, a preacher, a motivator, a marathon runner, decorator,..,the list goes on and on. There is a level of genius inside of you that you’ve yet to awaken because you’re stuck in the familiar. Travel back in time to when your dreams were alive and you believed you could accomplish anything. Before you got disappointed by fear of failure, mistakes and the negative counsel and word curses of people who “love” you. Go back to when you wanted to be a professional whatever it was. Don’t you know you can still get your license? Remember back when you wanted to be a parent? It’s not too late, even if you’re not physically able to produce there are lot’s of children longing for a family to care for them. Children need foster parents and mentors. You have what somebody else needs but you haven’t traveled anywhere because you stay too grounded. Most of the battles we have within are simply because we haven’t gone far enough to pursue what our real life destination is! Most of us are not where we’re supposed to be in our lives yet, this is just a layover.
My advice for all my real life coachable people is simple, travel outside of your borders. Live beyond your daily routine. Travel outside of the familiar and what you’re used to. Stop going to the same places over and over again. Eating at the same restaurants. Ordering the same food. Driving home through the same neighborhoods and streets. Talking to the same people about the same stupid stuff. Wearing the same clothes. Go somewhere new! Do something you’ve never done. Albert Einstein said the definition of insanity is to keep doing what you’ve always done expecting to get different results.
Go somewhere new and make it exciting and adventurous! Even before you leave the country you live in, leave your old boring thinking patterns and habits and make today the day you create some new ones! Starting today, go somewhere you’ve never gone before!
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