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I have an intense love for reading all things travel. And because the theme of my blog is GOING PLACES and I stay talking about travel and flying; this morning I read a fun fact that instantly sparked my blog post for today.

Here it is;

There is no such thing as a safe seat on an airplane. The FAA states that the differences are extremely minimal when it comes to mortality rates in the case of a plane crash. In front it is 38%, in the middle 39%, and in the back 32%.

This made me think about how many people love safe seats. Safe seats when they’re dating. Safe seats when they’re going into business partnerships. Safe seats when they’re joining a church or community group. Safe seats even when they say they’re in leadership positions. Why is it that no one wants to take the risk associated with being ALL IN and sitting wherever they’re needed? This got me to thinking that more people need to step up and realize that if you’re going to fly, you should at least have a backbone! I honestly think there are too many people who want to go places, but haven’t gotten to the place of maturity to understand flying is risky business and it’s not for cowards. Sure it’s scary when you let go and take off and you trust that the pilot is going to take you to your destination. There are just too many of us out there who are holding onto the insane and unreliable notion that you can be on board and soar with someone or something all while you’re still trying to play it safe. This is often the mentality taken on by people in many frustrated relationships, organizations, communities.

Many people have it in their head that they really want to take off and yet they’re not willing to step out and make any bold moves that express that desire to the people they’re flying with. Too many people are more determined to stay in a safe seat than they are willing to take any actual chances. Some of you reading this today are guilty of playing it safe. You play it safe and sure your intentions are good. But there’s a famous quote and I’m not sure who it’s by but it says “Most of the evil in this world is done by people with good intentions.” Yikes!

This is why it is imperative that you move beyond this concept of playing it safe. Move to being the one who will actually venture beyond what you’ve seen from your mother or your father. Move to the place of taking all your good intentions and help visibly push whatever you’re connected to forward. You’ve been playing it safe for too long. At this point in your life you should be more afraid of not taking chances than you are of playing it safe the way you always have. Safe seats don’t protect you from the damage associated with a plane crash anyway. The truth is no one who gets on this flight can actually be sure of the outcome, especially based on where you sit!

There are no safe seats on this flight! The same is true when you try to sit in safe seats in relationships with people. Somewhere along the way you’ve fooled yourself into believing playing it safe and only putting a little in was going to keep you from going down. I guess you thought that would keep you from getting hurt. Unfortunately being half in and making flimsy commitments and sending mixed messages is the opposite of playing it safe. Can I be real with you and tell you that if the situation takes a nose dive, you will most likely suffer disaster too!

In businesses, churches, families; a lot of people try to play it safe only to find out there are no such thing as safe seats. Some people try to play it safe and push the pressure and weight of responsibility on someone else; not realizing when one suffers, everyone suffers. Wouldn’t it be better just to get on board and lose the mindset of a person who’s always half in? There’s a greater possibility that whatever you’re attached to will take off, succeed and soar when you finally stop playing it safe and commit to be ALL IN! So many people are literally going down because they got on board with something, but they never fully bought in. Look at where they sit! Sitting in the back. Sitting on the side. Sitting at a distance. Unable to sincerely communicate what’s on their heart and mind. Silent when they have so much they really want to say. And yes, it’s not easy to be ALL IN, but it’s harder to take this journey in indecision, always vacillating, and unsure just like doubting Thomas. This flight is already challenging enough. Who needs to be trying to go places with people who are shady and skeptical. When it comes to whatever you’re connected to, you’ve got to grow up and decide whether you are really all in or not.

Your success depends on your ability to dedicate yourself to something outside of yourself. Stop sabotaging this flight with your on the fence way of operating. When you decide to make an investment in seeing not just your vision take off, but seeing the vision of others fly as well; that’s when you will know you’re no longer playing it safe. This is the season where those who are going places are the ones who are not out here looking out solely for themselves. Sadly, too many people live in this dysfunctional self preservation mode, and there is a huge difference between being selfish and selfless. The motivation of a selfish person is to play it safe everywhere they go and to figure out what they can get out of every situation. These kinds of people are always looking for ways to benefit from what they’re attached to. Never concerned about the success of everyone around them. Selfish people will put as little effort in what they say they’re in as possible; and just in case what they said they were on board with doesn’t work out, they will happily walk away with minimal loss. They’ll leave having little to no regrets because they played it safe the entire time. But when it comes to a selfless person; they have a healthy and appropriate concern for the interest and cares of others. What kind of person are you?

This flight we are on called life is made up of all kinds of people. Wouldn’t it be much more fun and more of a pleasant journey if we would all work on sitting wherever we were needed the most. Not looking for the best seat or trying to find the safest seat. There’s a great quote by Muhammad Ali that says “Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth.”

Let it not be said that we are not living our lives and not paying our rent (*insert speaks in tongues). Let’s be intentional about how we approach this flight we are on. Let’s take less time making sure we are looking out for our own personal survival and more time being a part of the overall success of whatever we attach ourselves to. Let’s be all in. The most miserable people alive are those who only look out for and care about themselves. These are the ones who are always looking for the safest seat on the plane.

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When my daughter was around five years old, we traveled out of town and her bag got lost. It took a day or two for her to get her stuff back and she was not happy about this at all. Being so young she had all her dolls and important stuff in her bag, so we could understand completely why she was so anxious to reunite with her belongings. Since that day, whenever she gets on a plane she packs light. The reasoning behind her method of travel today is that she doesn’t want what’s important and valuable to her to get lost, so she keeps it close to her at all times. Can you blame her? After all, some people have proven to be careless when they’re handling what belongs to someone else. And that’s a whole different message.

Back to my point.

Ironically, this summer, my daughter who’s now 16 years old is leaving the country for an entire month and won’t be able to pack light this time. This time, she’ll have to let go of some of her worry and fear and check her bags before she can depart and take off. This time, she’s going to have to trust that everything she holds dear to her will not get lost along the way. This time, she’ll have to let go of her anxiety from the past and believe that not only will she get to her destination safely, but so will her bags. I realized that her whole situation was full of deep nuggets and inspiration that I could share with my real life nation. The message from my kid was so clear in that if you and I begin to take my daughter’s travel tips through life, we could actually improve the flight we’re on. That if we, like my daughter only carried as much as we had to; our journey would be much lighter and more carefree. Also, if we only carried what’s super important with us, it would actually save us a lot of energy, stress and pressure.

Think about all the nonsense we try to pack when we go on a trip. Think about all the stuff we take that we could get along without if we had just left it all behind. The same is true with all the unnecessary fear, worry, guilt, drama, people and baggage we travel with that keep us from being able to really enjoy the ride. There’s a lot of stuff we need to leave behind when we’re trying to take off and go places in life! If we applied the wisdom of my kid and we only carried extra baggage when we absolutely had to; think about much happier and at peace we would be. Think about how even if we had to check our bags for a long trip; how we could check them and not be so overly attached to them that we are pulling our hair out and on the verge of a nervous breakdown. The wisdom of my kid is simple; on this flight called life pack light. Pack light because at the end of the day, it’s only a bunch of material things. The truth is, much of what we give so much of our mental and emotional attention to in life is actually insignificant. The dolls and toys my daughter cared so deeply about back when she was five, mean nothing to her today. Isn’t that the same for you when it comes to what has you restless and uptight in your life right now? Can you just go ahead and admit that most of the things you were stressing about ten years ago are not even a big deal to you today?

The bottom line is, you can avoid luggage worries if you learn to pack light (insert runs around the church). Pack light on this flight called life, because the most weighty things are not materialistic items you pack in a bag. What I’ve found out in my 46 years of life is, the most significant things I travel with are the people who I love and carry close to my heart. They are the ones who no matter how far they travel, they stay in my prayers and in my thoughts. When it comes down to it, even if they lose my bags, I am grateful to look over and see the most precious things I travel with are not in the overhead bin above my head, but they are in the seat next to me. Even if they’re on their own journey far away from me today, I can pull on the memories of when they were near. And that makes me oh so happy way deep down on the inside of my heart.

My advice to you today is pack light when it comes to whatever you carry; knowing that what’s important and precious to you is going to make it to it’s expected destination!

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The plane took off and sitting in my seat next to the window, I could see everything. This seat was not a place I usually preferred to sit in. I usually liked to sit in an aisle seat. But this time, I sat next to the window so I could look out and see everything. I could see what was going on before we took off, and I could even see the way things changed as we took off and went higher and higher on this flight. Things that were once easily visible when we were on the ground looked completely different as we ascended up in the sky.

This made me think about how our perspective and outlook is the same way in real life. That when we look from a low place, we tend to see everything! Isn’t it amazing how we tend to view things differently when we move away from what has us stressed? I began to think about how elevation helps us change our viewpoint. I’ve found that the more I readjust my focus; whatever issues and circumstances that seemed to be gigantic, cease to intimidate me when I see them from a different vantage point.

When the problem is up close, right in my face; I am forced to live in constant fear of how big it appears to be. But when I distance myself from it and the anxiety associated with it; that’s when I gain a better sense of objectivity. I’ve learned that when I create some space between me and my problems, then I’m free to soar and experience my flight without worry and reservation.

My advice for you today is to look at what’s stressing you from a different angle. Look at what’s been challenging you like it’s not such a big deal and I guarantee you, it won’t be such a big deal anymore. That annoying neighbor you’ve been giving all that attention; see them as a tiny speck in the landscape of a humungous portrait. Stop giving so much time and attention to people who annoy you. They probably aren’t going to change and they’re probably not your assignment anyway. Focus on you and what you can do to change your reactions to them. I learned that in therapy. Look at that one financial challenge that’s taking up all your time from another state of mind. Instead of trying to pay the whole bill, call and make arrangements to pay what you can. It’s not that important of a priority than you’re making it. Do what you can to handle what seems insurmountable in your life and move on to enjoying the flight! I promise you, you’re moving closer to your destination and you may as well find ways to enjoy the ride instead of being upset and stressed all the time.

Change your perspective and see things like someone who’s going places; because you are! I just want you to enjoy the ride!

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Even though there’s technically no legal limit on how much money you can carry on an airplane, if you’re traveling internationally you are required to communicate to customs how much money you have if it’s more than $10,000. You should also be prepared for possible interviews with law enforcement to explain the amount of money you’re carrying because you can’t fly if you’re not willing to be accountable. All through the travel experience you’ve got to fly by the rules.

But this guy the other day at the airport in my hometown was carrying more than he was willing to explain. He had $422,000 cash on him and he was planning to carry all of it out of the country and he didn’t declare it to customs. Unfortunately, he ended up not being allowed to get on his flight. To make matters worse, law enforcement took every dollar he was carrying into their possession, because you can’t fly and do whatever you want!

This man didn’t get arrested, but all that money he was carrying was taken from him simply because he wouldn’t give an account or a reasonable explanation to law enforcement about where all the money he was carrying came from. This is a true story and a real life incident that made me think about how many people are traveling through life the same exact way; traveling with the attitude that they don’t have to answer to anyone. There are so many people today that think they can carry things how ever they want. No accountability to anyone. As if they can make up their own rules and do whatever they choose, because they’re “grown.” But at what point does a “grown” person realize that they have to learn accountability?

There’s a difference between age and maturity and one big part of it is living your life beyond how you feel. I’m sure if you have a large sum of money like this man in the airport did, it could potentially give you the feeling that you’re above the law. Some people have certain privileges that make them feel superior, so they walk with a level of self importance and feel they have a right to get away with what others can’t get away with. There are those who have fame, extraordinary looks, special gifts and talents, resources and connections and it makes them think they can do anything they want. But the truth is, all of us have to learn to respect boundaries and protocol no matter how much we think we are carrying. The narcissistic mindset of many that refuses to respect rules and guidelines is the same reason why so many “grown” people today don’t see as much progress, promotion and take off in their lives. There’s something dark, arrogant and diabolical about people who always go against the grain. We all know people who never think the rules apply to them.

This whole situation made me think how much further you and I could go on this flight called life if we stopped trying to carry more than we’re actually willing to be accountable for (insert can I get an amen!) There are those traveling who are trying to take flight in relationships and organizations and you still haven’t fessed up about all that you’re carrying. You could be carrying inside of you a considerable amount of depth and substance that could radically add value to everyone on this flight. You could have gone through experiences and have a great deal of knowledge and information that could benefit this flight and everyone on it. But how can people be blessed by what you carry if you never spill the beans and tell them that you’re actually carrying it? It’s just like the dude that was carrying “$422,000” on him. You’re carrying it like you don’t have to answer to anyone about what you have in and on you, but you actually do!

Sure, you might not have $422,000 on you today in cash money, but you may have it on you in wisdom. You might not have it in your bag or your bank account today, but it’s on you in the experiences you’ve outlived. You may not have it in your wallet today, but you definitely have it in the amount of adversity you’ve come through. All that you survived, it’s worth much! You have a a lot on you but right now it’s only in the form of the circumstances you survived. It’s on you in the form of the bullets you dodged that others didn’t. You may not have a bag of money on you yet, but it’s in your hands. It’s in your creativity and the unique abilities you have to write, organize, paint, style, decorate, heal, sing, motivate, swim, dance,…

You my friend are carrying a lot on you and in you. You just need to open your mouth and declare it! Open your mouth and communicate what you’re carrying so you can fly into new territory! There’s a world out there waiting for you to show up with all the abundance you have to bring. You’ve just got to be accountable and follow some of policies and procedures that are already in place. You don’t have to keep getting so close to your take off and leaving empty handed because you don’t want to pass the accountability test. Go back and try again. This time don’t be afraid to say where you got the wealth from (above) and don’t be afraid to carry your “$422,000!”

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Snow is beautiful but it sure can shut things down too. In our hometown today, everything pretty much got delayed or shut down because of the weather. This made me ponder on how many times I wanted to do something or go somewhere and couldn’t go because something delayed it or shut it down. Sometimes we can’t travel to our desired destination due to circumstances beyond our control. In these instances, I have often found myself feeling anxious and upset; as if it’s impossible to move forward because of the “snow.” But one day I changed my perspective about “snow” days and started to appreciate the delays and even my plans that unexpectedly got shut down.

The FAA considers an airport runway to be dangerous when it snows or there’s ice or slush on it. So for the safety of the passengers, they won’t take off. Sometimes in life we think we are being held back for one reason or another. But the reality is, sometimes the conditions are just too risky and treacherous for us to take off and land safely. So for the safety of every passenger, the best way to avoid disaster is to sometimes just keep everyone grounded. Often this is the real reason why some of our prayers, plans and relationships get delayed or even shut down.

I believe there’s a deep message in the weather for us all today. That when you find yourself unable to go certain places in your life, consider it just a “snow” day. And I know you are excited and really want to take flight with the man or woman of your dreams. I know you want to take off with the business or the genius idea you have; but some of our plans to take off are just too risky at the moment. The snow or whatever has you stuck on the ground today won’t last forever (insert hallelujah). Consider that the snow in your life may be exactly what you need today to help get you more grounded.

It’s my hope that you learn how to relax and enjoy the “snow”. Trust that you are going to get to your destination, but timing is everything. The whole plan is for you to actually get where you need to and for you to get there safely. I want you to appreciate the snow days. Use them to reboot, relax and calm your spirit. Don’t be so anxious and impatient when you find that you can’t control your travel plans.

You are on your way, but it’s only after the weather gets better.

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Recently, one of our travel friends tried to get on a plane without ID. Needless to say, taking off was a lot more complicated for her than the rest of us. It’s amazing how you can think you have everything you need with you; from your boarding pass, to your luggage, to cash and credit card; but still forget something so important like your identification. Our dear friend found out this past weekend that if you can’t prove who you are at the airport, it’s going to complicate your travel plans.

It’s not that she didn’t get on her flight. But there were moments where everyone that was around her thought she wasn’t going to make it on board. And even though it took her longer to get on the flight, I’m proud of her because she stuck with it and was determined to prove she was who she said she was and that she was really ready to go!

Truth is it’s happened to all of us at one time or another. We’ve all lost our ID. Whether it was when we started hanging out with new friends and picking up their bad habits, or when we found ourselves in a life crisis and the pressures and demands had us reacting in ways we would have never thought of before. Some people lose their ID wearing so many hats. Moms take care of everyone and sometimes lose their ID and forget to take care of themselves. Dad’s get so caught up in being provider and protector that they lose their sense of self. Many people lose their ID in their career and are no longer defined by who they are but instead by what they do. We have all lost our ID at one time or another. And no matter how you ended up without your ID, the fact still remains that you still have a destination awaiting you and the right flight will be ready for you when you’re actually ready to depart.

If you ever lost your ID at the airport and you were determined to make your flight, you will recall how they will have you go through a process. And if your identity is confirmed, you will be allowed to fly.

That thought alone makes me want to fly out of my seat!

Isn’t it wonderful to know that you may be held up going through a process of proving your identity right now, and it may be inconvenient and annoying, but if you stick with it; you’re going places! You’ll get there because this process is meant to pull answers out of you. This process is meant to ask you the hard questions that will help to remind you of who you are. It’s also a process where believe it or not, you’re even protecting yourself from identity theft. The fact of the matter is, sometimes even life’s circumstances will try to steal your identity. Issues in your body, mind, family, divorce, financial crisis, setbacks,.. these things have a way of making us forget who we are.

There are times you’ll even have loved ones who will try to define you and tell you who you should be, where you ought to live and work and who you should love. And that’s part of the process where you have to show everyone this is your ID, not theirs. That no matter what they want for you, you have got to figure out your life on your own. No one has the right to tell you how to be and what to be. You’ve got to show the world who you are. Not who your mother or father want you to be. And the sooner you stop trying to please everyone around you by being what they want you to be, the sooner you can BE WHO YOU WERE BORN TO BE. And that’s when you’re really going to take off.

As your real life coach, let me remind you that you’re on your way! Just keep going! You’re going to make it on your flight and you will ascend up above everything that has tried to distract you and keep you from your personal life take off!

Be like our friend. Don’t be discouraged because you forgot your ID. Keep making your way to the gate. You’re going to make it on board and you will go where you’re supposed to go. Sometimes you just have to be reminded that YOU deserve to be on this flight!

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We had seats in the exit row on this flight. The flight attendant was very serious about us sitting here too. She told us she needed our undivided attention and at the end of her instructions to us she said “I need a verbal yes from each one of you!” She wanted us to say it. We couldn’t nod or mumble. She wanted a clear yes from each one of us. She made it clear that we needed to agree to everything associated with sitting in those seats. It was so serious that she said they won’t take off until she gets a commitment from everyone sitting in the exit row.

This made me immediately think about how this approach could improve our lives too. It made me think how we could avoid heartbreak and disappointment if we did the same thing in our own lives. If we stopped attempting to take flight with people who haven’t made a clear commitment to us and the seats we place them in. The exit row seat is the seat where people have extra room and all, but it’s also the place where in case of an emergency you agree to do what’s necessary to help (insert tears and speaks in tongues). I honestly think there are too many of us who have people in our lives who we always jump and run to support and help and go the distance for, but in the event of our emergency, they just sit there and watch us crash and burn.

The truth is, many of us are guilty of allowing people to sit in important seats in our lives and it’s all fun and games for them to enjoy the benefits of being there. But what about the commitment from them to you on your not so good days? What about the yes when it looks like things are going down for you? When it looks like you’re having a hard time? What about the days when your finances are going up in flames or your health is declining? Wouldn’t the quality of your life be better if you actually got a verbal yes from the people who sit in important seats in your life? I think we have allowed the fear of hearing the truth and the reality that some people will not agree to help us when we need them to keep us from taking off. Could we actually be in relationships with people who we know good and well won’t agree to the terms we have set for people to sit in vital places in our lives?

Some of us just don’t want to accept the truth. But couldn’t that be the reason why you end up hurt by all the people you put in weighty seats in your life? As your real life coach, I encourage you to get the attention of the people in your exit row today. After you get their undivided attention, ask them whether or not they’re really willing to make a serious commitment to you. Ask them if they’re ready to say yes to whatever it means to sit in important places in your life. And even if the answer from them is no; respect the truth and take flight knowing at least you did your due diligence and said what you needed to say. At least you had the deep conversation. At least you got your answer.

Then take flight. Take flight knowing that you did your best to place the right people in your exit row.

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We sat down and got ourselves comfy and ready for takeoff. That’s when the flight crew announced “This is going to be a full flight.” Immediately I heard a message in that.

The dictionary defines the word full; containing or holding as much or as many as possible; having no empty space.

That’s the first definition. But the second definition is the one that made me wanna have a Baptist fit.

*full; not lacking or omitting anything; complete. (Insert tears and hand praise)

What if you lived your life like it was full, not lacking or omitting anything; complete?! Wouldn’t you admit that it would completely change everything in your life; from what you say and what you do to right down to who you do it with?! I believe most of the problems we have are simply because we live our lives the opposite of full. Most people live like they are already defeated, as if they are always deficient. So many of us walk around like we are always in lack, always in need of something. But if we tap into our creative minds, we actually really lack nothing. The truth is everything you need is right here with you on this flight called life. This flight is completely full! If you need love, it’s on this flight. If you need peace; it’s right here on this flight. If you need support, it’s on this flight too. Look around and receive it! Stop rejecting what’s available to you simply because it’s not familiar to you.

As your real life coach I want you to be open. Stop sabotaging your blessings with negative thoughts. I want you to settle your spirit and start looking within! Tap into your creative mind and stop feeling sorry for yourself. Stop acting like a victim as if you don’t have anyone to help you and start by helping yourself. Help yourself by thinking right and from this place you will begin to see how much you already have going for you. When you shift in your mindset, you will begin to attract people who want to connect with you. Confidence and self awareness will make you appealing. While negativity and insecurity will make your blessings run away from you. These toxic mindsets send messages that say to others that you’re not ready yet.

I promise you this flight is completely full! You just needed to be reminded that everything you need is already here and it starts with you!

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The lengths people go to show their love to one another on Valentine’s Day is quite astonishing. From fancy chocolates, red roses, lingerie, diamonds, five star dinners to trips all over the world; it’s clear that people will travel the distance for love. But is where you’re going really love and does the actual destination vary from person to person? What does a loving relationship look like for you and does the person you’re going places with agree with your definition of love?

This got me to wondering how many relationships are really going anywhere beyond the materialistic and the physical? If the person you genuinely love places a demand on you to give them stuff as a means to get close to them, is that the same idea you had about love? Was your idea of love to have to buy them Christian Louboutins, Louis Vuitton and Gucci in order to prove your love or keep them happy? Did you sign an agreement that said you must send chocolates and roses to their office or take them to dinner in Miami at Mr. Chows? Is it written somewhere that you have to sleep with them every night and wear lingerie to love them? Is that considered going the distance in a relationship? How far can you go with someone like that anyway? To me it doesn’t seem like you’ll actually get where you dreamed of with a travel partner who has so many demands on you. Is it that so many today are so shallow and consumed with things and society roles that we don’t even know what love is anymore? Can you really intend to go the distance with that kind of pressure on you forever?

If the amount of money or the gesture has to be so extravagant on Valentine’s Day, I hope you’re prepared to keep this madness up for the entire flight; because whether you want to accept it or not it is going to become an expectation in your relationship.

As your real life coach, I have an honest question for you. Do you seriously think you’ll be able to go as far as you need to go in life with someone who’s so focused on materialistic things, image and public persona? Even when you think about all the potential you have and the places you plan to go in your life, do you even want to be bothered with such a prima donna? You’re gonna be bigger than you are soon, so do you need that kind of headache from a relationship that’s supposed to be loving and supportive? One of the celebrity relationships I love is between Michelle and Barack Obama. This woman shops at Target and is adored all over the world because she’s so down to earth and real. The two of them seem to share sincere love.

Now don’t get me wrong, no one has the perfect relationship, but I believe the more grounded and realistic we can be in our relationships the better. The wealth of a relationship is not found in living like a celebrity pop star and squandering every dime you make to impress anyone. The relationships that are going places are the ones who have nothing to prove. The ones where meaningful conversations, savings accounts and properties purchased in each other’s names are the goals for future destinations. This flight called life is hard enough to have to fly with someone who’s constantly bringing you down with drama and nonsense. If you have to stress and sweat about meeting all of their families expectations of you being their savior, don’t get on that flight. This flight has a lot to do with the destinations we set our eyes on. If you want love, I get it. But some of this crap we get ourselves into is nothing more than a set up for a bad ride. When you look at your relationship today ask yourself this simple question; what’s love got to do with it?

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10:33AM and I’m dead serious. No exaggeration; there are a handful of kids on this flight screaming and hollering like they’re demon possessed all at the same time. Hard to imagine all of this is happening and we haven’t even taken off yet! The man sitting next to me yelled out “Hey, can we at least have some alcoholic drinks if we’re going to have to listen to this for an entire two hour flight? I looked back at him and said “Well, that’s what you get for going to Orlando!”

Then I just sat there. What else could I do? Well, I guess I could have turned my attention to all the adults (and I use that term loosely) violently reacting to the soundtrack of screaming kids in their own rendition of a grown up temper tantrum. It made me wonder if we actually really understand what we are getting ourselves into when we say we want to go certain places on this flight called life. Like I really wonder how many people realize what they’re getting into when they say they want the career or dream job they say they want. I wonder if they realize that even though they’re anxiously looking forward to the paycheck at the end of the week; they’re still gonna have to possibly put up with an obnoxious boss, insanely long work week, impossible deadlines and stressful meetings before they ever get to payday. I wonder if people know that as nice as love, marriage, a wedding and a honeymoon sounds, we still have to travel on this noisy flight with our sometimes difficult spouses and their bad habits, and their often complicated family on the way. Seems like somehow along the journey we forgot that we don’t always get to choose the soundtrack that plays in the background for our lives.

When the kids on the flight to Orlando were really losing control crying and flipping out, one lady near me tried to reel me into the mob of complainers,… but I wouldn’t join in. Instead, I smiled and calmly told her “I’m use to it. I used to own a daycare center.” I was basically letting her and anyone around who was listening know that what’s happening on this flight doesn’t have the power to change my mood (insert churchy organ).

All jokes aside I felt that. I looked at that woman and said the same thing I’m going to tell you. “YOU CAN HANDLE IT!” It just goes with the territory!

Once we make up our mind that what’s going on around us doesn’t have the power to ruffle our feathers. Once we decide that it’s not going to make us lose our cool, it won’t. Determine in your heart today that whatever has the potential to move you from a place of peace; it won’t work today. Not today satan! Whether it’s screaming kids, a pile of laundry, or a sink full of dishes, say to yourself; this is not going to make me upset and grumpy. Make up your mind that no matter what’s going on financially, emotionally or mentally, it will not make you lose your joy.

I intentionally travel with my headphones and I’m always prepared to drown out the noise of what’s going on around me with a soundtrack that I can control. This flight today is nothing more than a reminder and a reality check for me and for all my real life nation to remember that some things just go with the territory. If I’m going to Orlando, the home of Mickey Mouse; why in the world would I be surprised that I’m traveling with noisy screaming kids in the background?

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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