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Some people only try to go the places they try to go because they see you went there. It’s not like any of us are in grade school anymore, but it’s totally exhausting when you see some of the lengths some people will go to trying to imitate your journey.

I started on a new path of personal healing about six months and ago and have been extremely transparent about it. I have even shared what I’ve learned and given out resources, inspiration and information to help empower and educate others about it. Recently, it was brought to my attention that someone with some severe issues and an extreme need for attention has taken my recent platform and tried to make it their newest way of getting attention. Disgusting if you asked me. Especially when you see there’s no improvement in this characters behavior or spirit. On top of this, much of my dismay comes because this area is one that’s very serious and sensitive in nature to me and so many others. To those of us who are genuinely working on ourselves and have a heartfelt desire to grow and heal, it’s appalling to see what is helping you used by someone else as a steppingstone to be noticed and applauded.

It’s even more despicable to see the way some people will do anything to make others think they’re going places. The bigger problem with doing this is when you make your issues a way to be recognized or noticed; you also open yourself up for attacks and attention from places you didn’t want it from as well. Any grown up who’s sincerely working on themselves and trying to improve and heal; does just that. No need to let the world know. No need to post it, snapchat it or tweet it. Especially when you’re still not ready to reveal your struggle from a place of victory. If you’re not “there” yet, why open up the door for that kind of scrutiny and observation. Unfortunately, Social media has made it easy for silly people with no wisdom to share and say just about anything. To reveal truths about yourself that the world doesn’t need to know is asinine; but because some people are so addicted to attention they just have say it. They have no filter and no friends. #hashtagthat

My advice to all my coachable friends today is; Watch what you do and where you go for attention.

Just because you see other people going there, it doesn’t mean you’re meant to go there too. Seems like we shouldn’t even have to say this to adults; but stop imitating people. Be yourself. Sure, it’s perfectly fine to be inspired and empowered by others and the places that they’re going. But just because they go there, doesn’t mean you need to mimic them in your life and go there too. If you can’t understand that; you are clearly an attention junkie who needs a serious dose of common sense and wisdom. Using something you see someone else go through as a means to make you appear to be doing important stuff is childish and if you asked me very insensitive.

There’s always a lesson from the craziness we experience and the people who do “the most” around us. From this I’ve learned to be a lot more careful about what I share and who I share it with, because sadly there are some very troubled people on this flight who will do anything to try and impress and get attention by any means necessary.

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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Some people work at the airport and never get to go anywhere. The reality is these people actually never go anywhere because they’re too busy working and making things happen for everyone else to fly. These airport workers who hardly ever get to take off and go places are certainly not going places because they don’t want to. Somewhere along the way they made the commitment to set their plans aside and help other people get to their desired destination.

This past Sunday the world celebrated Mother’s Day and if there’s anyone who can relate to helping others take flight while seemingly going nowhere; it’s moms. The sacrifices moms willfully make to see their children go to great destinations is incredible. The best moms are the ones who do what they do with nothing more than a hope to see their children do better in life than they have! The moms whose children take off the most are the ones whose children don’t have to feel guilty for the sacrifices that have been made for them to go places. Their moms don’t throw the “help” they gave them in their face and play the victim when they finally get going. These moms are intentional and they don’t ever really say how much they gave up to see their children soar. There’s no scorecard, record or reminder of how much was paid out to support them. Just all love! I just watched a video of Russell Wilson who recently surprised his mom with a brand new house. When he gave her the keys she cried happy tears and even his wife Ciara cried too. It was clearly his way of saying thank you to his mom for helping him get to where he is today.

Now I’m sure she already had a place to live, but the heart of her son was to do something tangible to say “Mom I’m so grateful.” He wanted to do something big to say thank you! Not that the word thank you isn’t adequate, but this man wanted to give something size-able to her for all she had done. No wonder he’s so successful in life with that mentality. Those who have a mindset like his are guaranteed to go far.

I understand how he feels! My mom has been amazing and made so many sacrifices for me and my siblings to take off in life. While I personally haven’t gotten to the place yet where I can buy her a house; I try to do ALL that I can on a regular basis to bless her. Not only do I do this for her but even for my mother in law who helped my husband get to where he is in life. This is the least we can do for those who have helped us get to the next level. Sadly, I talk to moms regularly and see the heartbreak because their children don’t see the necessity of doing anything to honor them at all. Moms who even cried this past weekend about their ungrateful children and entitled spouses who forgot to do anything to say thanks for the support and love in helping them get where they are. This has got to change.

My advice for all my coachable friends is DON’T FORGET AND DON’T DOWNPLAY GENUINE PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE. Don’t forget how you got to where you are today! If you act all fancy and take time out to tip the waitress and show gratuity to people on the street; make sure you remember to honor those who have supported you behind the scenes and helped you along the way. Charity begins at HOME! Remember those who were there for you and make it your business to reach back with tangible love and support as often as you can. Not because you’re obligated to do it, but because you’re decent and you’re a person who understands what it means to be grateful. I believe the way we handle those who have helped us get to where we are will come back to us when we least expect it. Especially when we get to the stage of life they’re at. Make sure you sow good seeds because if you don’t, the bad seeds you sow will come back to your life when you least except it too. Humble yourself and work on your character as you take flight. And never forget those who stayed at the airport so you could take flight in life!

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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I received an email from a travel site I follow today and the subject caught my attention. It read:

“What destination will you choose?”

That was powerful to me because it really is that simple. Your destination is your choice. Wherever you want to go, you can go. Whoever you want to go “there” with, you can take along on your journey. It really boils down to what you say yes to and what you say no to on this flight called life. Most of the people complaining about their lives must have forgotten along the way that they were the ones who made the decisions that they’re living with. Have you ever encountered someone who talks the entire time about how empty and dissatisfied they are about their circumstances? They don’t like their house. They hate their spouse. They despise their job. Wish they had a different wardrobe and better car to drive. They want to be healthier and in better shape, and the list of their complaints goes on and on. Funny thing to me is, they chose all of the things they are constantly fussing about. So if that is you or someone you know my advice is simple. Make some new choices today. Sell or give away the clothes you don’t like. It’s great weather for a garage sale. If you don’t like the car you drive; trade it in. Hate your house, put it up for sale and move into one that makes you happy. Spouse making your life miserable, no one is forcing you to stay in a relationship that makes you miserable. The bottom line is, many people act as if they think it’s their house or car or job or family that’s responsible for their happiness. Then after they dump their reality and start a “new” life; they often come to the startling reality that they still aren’t happy. That you can’t blame other people for your choices. This also tells me the destination is not as important as your mindset on this journey. If your attitude stinks and you’re constantly comparing and dreaming of another life; you are your biggest enemy when it comes to enjoying your life. The destination is a goal but it is not intended to be the start of your happiness and contentment in life. The quality of your life starts with how you think.

Today, I want you to make a deliberate decision to be grateful and to love your life right where are. Give yourself permission to take delight in what you have and who you are. Count your blessings. Look around and find the things that bring you back to a state of gratitude. If you need a little more help to see how blessed you are, visit a children’s hospital. Go volunteer in a homeless shelter or a soup kitchen. I guarantee you there are people who have learned how to smile in circumstances that are far worse than what you’ve ever been through. Learn what it means to be grateful and you’ll never complain again about your journey. Everyday is a new day and YOU have the choice to frown or smile. Choose TO BE GRATEFUL. Choose to be intentionally happy, because whether you want to believe it or not; things could be a lot worse that they are for you. Where are you going?

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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While leaving a dear friend’s fathers home going services today, we noticed a lot of small planes flying around the military base nearby. My daughter mentioned that she thought that was such a cool job, flying airplanes. She went on to say it’s also pretty scary; especially when she thinks about the responsibility that comes with landing a plane. I agreed and then it dawned on me.

There are a lot more accidents on the ground than in the air! (Insert praise break!)

It’s so true! Think about it. More casualties take place when we stay at a low level. When we stay in a mode that keeps our lives from flying high, the more we stay stuck. More accidents and incidents that result in pain and disaster happen when we refuse to elevate our thinking and our commitment to transformation and elevation. When we get cozy and settle into these low level relationships, mindsets and situations that keep us from going higher in our lives, we ultimately say I’m taking my life and I’m playing it safe. Could it be that most of us are really too afraid to take off in life!? Could you really be in the same place you are today simply because you don’t have the courage to take flight? Or maybe you don’t have a problem taking off; but maybe it’s your fear of landing that keeps you on the ground.

The fear of landing could be the real reason you never finish the things you start. Many of you could have a real relationship today but the truth is you’re just super afraid of landing. Afraid of the work and effort that goes into sticking to something when the novelty wears off. Truth is, some of you aren’t even afraid of loving; you’re really just afraid of not being loved back.

Some of you aren’t afraid of starting the business or launching the idea; you’re just afraid of coming down off of your high after the grand opening or the honeymoon and dealing with the realities of keeping the business or relationship going. And sure, there are lots of amazing thrills that go along with taking off in life; but the truth is everything has with it highs and lows. The take off is the high. The landing is the low. And a lot of people only want to fly and take off in life. But the reality is that every plane has to land at some point and knowing that seems to keep some people from ever doing anything great! Every venture has wrapped in it some exciting, scary, and frightening elements. It’s all part of the adventure on this flight called life!!!

I want to encourage you today to look within and ask yourself what am I afraid of? Whether you’re a Christian or not, the Bible is filled with wisdom for anyone especially when it comes to going somewhere great in life. There was a story in it about these four lepers who were about to die because they were in the middle of a famine. These four men represent what it means to be on the ground, stuck and literally going nowhere. They were so afraid to move out of the place they were in because they thought if they did, their enemies might kill them. The irony in their situation was they also realized death was inevitable for them if they stayed in that same place too. See, they felt comfortable there, but they were going to die comfortable. And there are some of you dead set on being comfortable instead of being purposeful. Are you creating a hospice situation in your home for your dreams and visions by doing this? These four men realized they weren’t ready to give up and die and I believe you’re reading this today because there’s more for you to do too!

Too many of you are dying figuratively by sitting at home surrounded by your family and friends; with all your gifts and talents and all the potential and love and goodness you have to offer the world. You’re dying because you won’t move. You’re dying because you’re stuck. Fear has you grounded in a place of stagnation and paralysis, but I come to challenge you to move!

The four lepers came to the conclusion that we better do something, because if we stay here we are still going to die! There was a huge change in their circumstances when they decided to try something. Can you reach within and try to do something other than wait for the inevitable? These guys moved from the place they were in, and things elevated in their lives. I guarantee you that the same outcome awaits you if you just move! Move beyond your norm and do something different. Fly! You’ve been driving around and playing it safe for too long. Hanging with the same kind of people who are stuck just like you and it’s getting you now where fast. Make today the day you stop living in fear!!! I promise, you won’t regret making a move that takes you up to a better place on this flight called life.

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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When traveling on an airplane, there’s a convenient space above your head for reasonably sized bags to be stored while you’re on your way. While I enjoyed my coffee this morning, the wheels in my mind started turning and I came up with this question for my coachable friends;

WHAT’S STORED IN YOUR OVERHEAD BIN?

In other words, what do you have going on in your mind today? How’s it effecting your flight? What has priority in your head? Who’s taking space in your thought life and what are you giving the highest amount of focus to on this flight called life? These are super important questions to consider if you’re sincerely attempting to go somewhere great in life. The reason I say this is because whatever has your attention today has the power to either propel you into your destiny or hinder you from getting “there” fast. It simply is a matter of you taking the time and making your priories clear to everyone around you. It’s dangerous to ignore this if you’re really trying to take off. If you don’t make what you will entertain and what you won’t clear to all the people in your life, they will undoubtedly try and put all their stuff in your space. I’m serious, especially if you are a generous person with a big heart; they will throw all their junk above your head and then try to make you feel responsibility for their mess. The nerve! When flying somewhere, one of the things you’ll hear from the flight crew concerning what’s above your head is “Please be cautious when opening the bin above your head, because things have a tendency to shift while you’re traveling.”

Don’t you feel the shift as you’re moving along in your life? Things are changing. At least they should be. So, while you’re journeying through life, things you placed in the category of high importance have a tendency to move around. Priorities change. Things often shift while you’re growing and evolving. So, it’s perfectly okay to take some things out of your head space when you realize you don’t need to focus on them anymore. There are people who were once super important to you who will no longer take that chief place in your life, and you’ve got to get them out of your head. Some relationships expire. Some friendships transition and change over time and that’s okay. Some people in your life need to come out of your overhead bin. People who refuse to respect you and honor the place of importance that you’ve given them don’t deserve to stay in your overhead bin. It’s that simple. You shouldn’t have to keep begging people to handle you with care and treat you with respect. Their placement in your life needs to move, they just don’t deserve to be in your head space.

Make the necessary adjustments and discontinue giving your attention to anyone who doesn’t deserve it. Don’t give your focus to dumb conversations or to irrelevant people who drain you mentally and emotionally. The energy that you give to certain people when it comes to your head space could be given to someone or something that energizes you and inspires you. Give your focus to people who help you excel and go higher in life. You can’t continue to allow emotional vampires to zap you with their insanity. Sadly, some people love to play mind games; so it is your job to protect your heart, mind and your creativity. This has become huge for me on my journey. I no longer waste any of my time with people who seem to intentionally dishonor my head space. Because I’ve communicated my boundaries and expectations with the people I choose to spend time with; I am serious when it comes to my overhead bin. I’m extremely diligent about escorting those who violate my overhead space to the door when they do “the most.” I don’t even get all mad or bent out of shape about it anymore it. I just make a quick adjustment and reset.

My advice to you today is do the same. Do what you have to do to guard your overhead space. Make a commitment to yourself to shift whenever necessary. The bottom line is that you need to start enjoying your flight more. No matter what or who tries to shove their baggage in your head space, tell them there’s no more room. Tell them to go somewhere else with that! Keep soaring. You’re on you’re way and it’s going to keep getting better and better as you travel with purpose.

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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Travel is great. No one loves a good trip more than me, but it dawned on me that there are an increasing amount of people who go on trips only to escape the reality of their lives. That’s sad right? To literally have to run away from your reality in order to experience joy and happiness; pretty depressing stuff. It made me think we should all be creating lives we don’t have to run away from.

So what can you do today to make your life like a retreat? What changes can you make in your schedule to create a life that gives you a vacation feel right now? How can you experience the same relaxation and stress free environment right where you are today without having to call a booking agent? It really is achievable if you make it your business to produce a world around you that makes you happy and at peace. Is your house clean? If not, clean it. Is your bedroom an oasis? If not, pull out the vacuum and get organized. Put a clean white comforter on your bed and some and white linens and pillows to match. Get rid of the clutter and make your space beautiful! You can do that! Stop making excuses why you live the way you live. You don’t have to have a lot of money to clean up. You just need some Clorox and some imagination. Tackle your closet and clean your bathroom. Take all that clutter off your countertops and make your space a vacation escape.

Maybe your house is already clean and breathtakingly beautiful and you still feel stressed and like you need to get away! Could it be the people living there that are your problem? Are you surrounded with annoying people who make your life a living nightmare? Believe it or not, you can change that too! Why run away and escape your own house to get away from people who you need to send packing? Insert can I get an amen!?

When I had my daycare center; I had an elderly woman working for me and she had literally packed up and left her home town and relocated to my city just to get away from her grown children who were always pressuring her to babysit her grandchildren. The irony of that is, she ended up at my daycare taking care of other people’s children because she didn’t have the courage to open up her mouth and tell her children no! She couldn’t stay in her own home and create boundaries with her adult children, so she ran away from own home. The point is, your life is what you make it. You create your own reality and you really do have the power to have a vacation life right where you are! Stop blaming people for taking over your world. Tell them to leave you alone. This is your flight! Don’t live it resentful and bitter. Create your own journey. One you can actually enjoy.

Sure, you will always have to do something you don’t want. But you decide. Truth is all of us have to do some type of work and take care of our responsibilities; but you don’t have to take on other people’s junk. Don’t waste another day trying to distract yourself from things you don’t want to deal with as a means of coping with your life. Make the choice to live how you wanna live, so you don’t have to escape your life.

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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Be like a plane. ✈️ A plane allows the passengers who fly on it the freedom to come and go as they please. A plane doesn’t force people to get on it or stay on it. A plane is just a vehicle that assists people who want to go somewhere. While drinking a cup of tea this morning it dawned on me that there’s a lot of wisdom in being like a plane. A plane has no hold over the passengers that fly on it; only that they cooperate while on board. See once we get going it’s a safety issue, so there’s got to be order on the aircraft. It’s interesting that many planes have to make emergency landings when a passengers behavior is not in line with the policies and rules that govern the plane while in the air. That means everything is fine on board as long as those traveling on the aircraft have respect for the vehicle that’s carrying them. Many of us could save ourselves a heap of heartache if we drew from the wisdom of a plane.

Don’t keep anyone on board if they can’t respect your atmosphere.

It’s sounds so simple, but this seems to be difficult for many people to have the courage to do. That is, make an emergency landing when people are acting out on your flight! Stop tolerating toxic behavior and you shouldn’t have extra patience for people because of history. Family, friends, romantic interests should be expected to follow the same boundaries and guidelines you set for others if you want to have a peaceful flight. Really, they should be held to an even higher standard. People love to say they know you so well, but do the very things that irritate you on this flight. I’m sad to see a lot of people not enjoying their journey because they’re putting up with nonsense daily that goes against their beliefs and it’s robbing them of their joy and contentment.

The wisdom of being like an airplane is rich! Only carry those who make an investment to get on board with you. No matter how much someone wants to fly, if they can’t afford a ticket; no airline is going to allow them to board. I need you to ask yourself honestly; how many freeloaders and people who don’t contribute anything to your life are you going to continue to carry? Now don’t get me wrong, investments are more than just money. There are some people in your life who may not have a lot of money but what they bring to you is far more valuable and substantial than cash; so I wouldn’t suggest you let them go. But I’m not talking about letting the valuable people go. I’m talking about leaving behind the ones who keep you on the verge of insanity. The ones who deliberately push your buttons and then act like they have no idea why you’re annoyed. The ones who have mastered the art of gaslighting, throwing rocks and hiding their hands. Stop the plane and let them off for God’s sake! Isn’t it time you stop allowing those knuckleheads to keep weighing you down? Be real, you know they don’t contribute anything to your life except stress, pain and anxiety. Isn’t it time you let them go and finally get on your way to somewhere great in your life?

The wisdom of the airplane is, keep your eyes focused on where you’re going! Don’t be distracted. Having a lot of company and people around you can sometimes trick you into thinking you have support; but be honest with yourself. Everyone around you is not assisting in your take off. Ev Williams co-founder of Medium and co-founder of Twitter said “On a small boat you can see who’s paddling and who’s just looking around.”

Same thing on a plane, in a family, a business, or a church; you know you can see who’s actually helping you and who’s shucking and jiving. Don’t allow your eyes to be deceived by your heart. The heart is deceitful and exceedingly wicked. I listen to people on a regular make special accommodations for family members to repeatedly dishonor them and distract them from their own elevation. They will even say things like “That’s just my mom, sister, son.” They’ll minimize their loved ones toxic behavior and say “They don’t mean any harm.” “Well, that’s just the way they are.” Some of you are deeply in love and close to some of the same nuts who are ruining you. I suggest you stop loving people to death. Your death to be exact. You’re sitting around and literally assisting people to stay on board in your life who are sabotaging you because you can’t separate what they’re doing to you from how much you love them. That’s silly.

Your flight aka life is full of potential. Someone once said that telling a person that they have potential is not a compliment. It’s a calling. It really is a calling or a great challenge. So, I challenge you today to stop sitting on your potential. Evaluate your surroundings so you can actually take off and get “there.” Assess the people in your circle. Are they the reason you have to keep landing because their behavior is in violation of your policies and standards? Do they know they need to respect you and your environment? Have you held them accountable? I’m holding you accountable! It’s 5 months into 2019; are you getting anywhere great or constantly dealing with the same drama? Check your surroundings so you can take off and get where you need to be without any more senseless interruptions.

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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Everyone on the flight with you is going somewhere, but not all of the people flying with you are going to the same destination. Just because you both leave from the same place, it doesn’t mean you’re going to land in the same location. This is why it’s important for you to develop your own identity on this flight called life. You must learn to be an individual!

As much as I love my family and friends, I don’t share the same brain and heart as they do. I have my own thoughts. I have my own plans. I have my own ideas. Too many people are out here looking for similarities in relationships and in the process they are subsequently losing their own sense of individuality on this journey. If you never make your own unique contributions in life and if you never share with others your own perspectives; when will the world ever benefit from your existence? As long as you continue to spew out the same ideals and thoughts you’ve heard from your parents and family of origin, you will never make your own mark in this world. Where’s your individuality? Do you actually believe and agree with everything people around you believe? Do you all really genuinely share the same perspectives on everything? That can’t be true! In the movie “Coming To America” the Prince was set to marry a woman his parents selected for him. When he finally met her, he didn’t want to marry her until he was able to see if they were compatible. Well, it turns out she didn’t have a mind of her own. She was brought up only to say what he wanted to hear. This was a major turn off to him because he wanted to spend his life with someone who had their own thoughts and ideas. Anyone going somewhere in life is looking to be stimulated by conversations and relationships that are based on different views and concepts. Sadly, too many people are so busy trying to impress people that they never reveal their true identity until it’s too late. People do a bunch of pretending to make connections that never stand a chance because they’re not real. And so, the importance of knowing who you are can’t be stressed enough on this flight called life.

While a lot of people in your past have been significant in contributing to who you are up to this point; at this age, isn’t it time you have some thoughts of your own? Isn’t it time you stop checking with your family before you make every little decision? Can you admit it’s becoming a bit too much? The need for validation is killing you. At the end of the day, they can’t sit with you. Not where you’re going! They have to have their own place on this flight and so do you.

After all, if this is in fact your life, when will you ever live it? If this is your marriage and your family; when will you ever enjoy it and have your own experiences free from the influence of how everyone else in your ear thinks you should live it? Good counsel is good, but too much of anything is bad. Too much involvement and advice will always have an adverse effect and make people weak and needy. Too much family involvement and advice from friends can create a codependency that leads to disaster and unnecessary drama. My advice today is simple. Be an individual and allow the people in your life to have their own individual mind and make their own decisions. Don’t second guess the people in your life. If you’ve contributed to who they are, let them go. Let them fly and live their lives with nothing more than your blessing. Sure they’ll make mistakes, but haven’t you? You cannot save people from life. Life will impact all of us and so will the quality of OUR CHOICES. Don’t keep making choices for grown people like you’re some god who lords control over their lives. Stop messing with their ascent and take off in life. Take your mouth and your hands off of other people’s journey and release them to go as high as they can in life.

There’s a destination awaiting them and they’ll never get to it if you’re busy forcing your plans for them down their throat. Stay out of grown people’s affairs. Mind your business. Your adult children, nieces and nephews are not your business anymore. Be there for them when they need you. Don’t enable. Don’t help them underachieve. Support them from your own seat and please allow them the space to soar. Find your purpose and stop trying to steer other people’s lives. They’ll thank you later,…and you’ll thank me later.

Copyright ©️2019 Sherry Grant

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Boundaries are hard when you’re flying on a tight aircraft. You, as well as the people around you have got to learn to respect each other’s personal space. Unfortunately, this is merely a great theory at best. The reality is, some people can be very annoying on this flight called life. 😬

These are the ones who come all up in your space and don’t have sense enough to know they’re out of line. It’s amazing how some people have no conscience when it comes to your boundaries and personal space. Then, when you let them know they’re all up in your face and they need to back off, somehow they try to paint you to be the “bad guy.” Nice try! 😂

It’s no secret that the people we travel with in life can be a source of joy or pain. Oddly, the same way we can see the issues in others, we should all be as adamant about seeing the issues in ourselves and how we handle the personal space of others. We should be committed to making sure that we aren’t taking personal liberties that cramp others on this flight. Whether it’s saying too much to people you don’t have a real relationship with, or making a controversial or hostile comment on someone else’s social media post; some people clearly don’t have any sense of boundaries. Some people see no problem with complimenting someone’s spouses appearance, or offering your unsolicited wisdom to someone who didn’t ask for it. It’s amazing how some people just seem to do entirely too much. To my coachable friends; please make sure you aren’t one of these people. The last thing you want to do is cross lines with people on this journey called life. See, some people are desperately trying to go places just like you and they don’t need you making things awkward or uncomfortable. Let’s make an effort to be cognizant that we aren’t the pilot of other people’s lives; only our own. Just because you’re older, “wiser,” more educated than other people; it still doesn’t make you the authority or leader to everyone you come across. There are so many going around here trying to be teachers, Spiritual voices and gurus to people who never asked them to be that. No one likes a know it all. Especially one who’s always trying to advise other people and not succeeding in their own lives. It’s simple. Talk less. Offer your support to those who want it. Otherwise, stay in your lane, mind your business and do what’s best for you. If no one is asking you to be their voice of reason or seeking out your leadership; you’re out of line to be stepping into their affairs with your “expertise.”

I personally live my life being who I am authentically, and those who subscribe to it, love it! They get it. Those who are in some teaching mode, trying to help me and aid in “fixing” me and who want me to think like them, are not doing anything but frustrating themselves and wasting their time. If you have people in your life like this, you can relate too. You also know how annoying it is to fly with these folk who don’t respect boundaries; but they eventually “get it” when they see you flying above their level of thinking. The bottom line is they need to sit down somewhere and get out of your way. Life is not meant to be a battle or a fight with people who you aren’t called to. Simply create some boundaries and make sure you keep your commitment to what you tolerate and what you don’t. Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.

Fly high! Enjoy your ride and refuse to be tortured by the nonsense of those who haven’t learned to respect the personal space of others.

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