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Chris tells me that whenever he travels, (which is often) the first thing he does when he gets to the counter is ask for an upgrade. 9 times out of 10 he gets what he asks for. Now we could make a lot of assumptions about why he gets what he asks for. Some would say he’s lucky or that he gets what he wants because he’s a handsome guy and has a great personality. Some would say because he’s articulate and well dressed. But I believe he gets his seat upgraded simply because he had the guts to ask! (Insert praise dance)

If you’re going places in life, you need to have a certain level of boldness and courage to get there; wherever your there is! Getting to your destination has a lot to do with how you see yourself. Take a moment and be honest with yourself – How do you see yourself? And don’t base it on the validation or encouragement of other people. What’s your honest opinion about you?

See, you can’t be insecure and walk around with low self esteem if you want to take off in life. To go places, great places; you have to have a healthy dose of humility paired with a wholesome shot of self confidence, which is an extremely difficult balancing act for the average person. Let’s be honest, most people don’t know how to handle success. This is why so many get cocky when they experience even the slightest bit of favor in their life. I have rarely seen many people able to win in life without becoming braggadocio-us and arrogant. Think of one person you know who’s excelling without being a jerk? I’ll wait,….Sadly, you usually see people with too much confidence and not enough talent or giftedness to match; or people with supernatural mastery who have little esteem and no idea of the magnitude of the gift they possess. We’ve got to change that. We’ve got to learn to ask for what we want with the right spirit. This says to me that more work has to be done on our inner man than our external image, that is if we want to travel on this journey called life with the right mentality.

There was a story in the Bible where Moses, the leader of the first mega church ever, sent out 12 spies to check out the Promised land. The story goes that when they got there everything was huge and on another level. Well, 10 out of the 12 of them came back feeling like they couldn’t handle the next level. They just felt way too insecure within. They couldn’t imagine themselves taking on the next level. Their mindset was too small for the next level. You know people like that don’t you? Hopefully you’re not one of them. Thankfully, 2 out of the 12 of the spies had a different mentality. They believed. They were bold. They were confident. They felt like they were well able to do it. Can I tell you that no one is responsible for the way you feel about you but you?! This is why you have to work on you! Especially the way you see yourself. Most people run around all their life asking, begging, waiting for people to tell them who they are because they haven’t spent the time working on themselves yet.

The 2 men who saw things different took the lead and changed the game. This is a vital component when it comes to the mentality of a good leader. You’ve got to be willing to step away from your friends and family and your need to be accepted and liked by everyone. You can’t get to the next level staying in agreement with people who love negativity. The 2 leaders stepped up and said we can do this. It was their mindset that changed the way everyone around them felt about the next level. Can I tell you that you have the power to inspire and bring about hope even if you’re outnumbered by small thinking! Because there was 2 people out of the 12 who felt confident about going somewhere great, they were able to change the whole community’s mind about going to their intended destination. Everything you will ever do will start with how you think. If you don’t have enough courage to step up to the counter and expect a better seat, then I’m afraid this is going to be a bumpy ride for you.

Get away from people who don’t want to see things with a next level mindset. The majority will always be negative and pessimistic when it comes to change and growth and expansion, but you’re part of a special group. Your mentality is different and you’re ready to take whatever greatness is waiting for you. Start getting used to confronting things other people aren’t bold enough to confront. You’re well able to take on the next level! Be bold. Be courageous and take your next step toward whatever belongs to you! Being a wealthy traveler doesn’t necessarily have to do with money. What it really boils down to is the way you think.

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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I sent my dad a text the other day when he was about to travel to Baltimore. The message was short and simple. It read: “Safe Travels! See you when you get here!” He quickly replied “We’re about to take off NOW!” Immediately my spirit leaped! It was prophetic to say the least. We really are about about to take off NOW!

Whatever we prepare ourselves to do, we really can do now, not later. Wherever we have enough faith and vision to see ourselves going, we can actually go. The sky really is the limit! It’s truly up to us individually how things go from here. We decide how amazing our now, later, day, week, life will be. If we all start constructing a life we don’t need to constantly escape from, we can stop postponing our take off until later. If we intentionally begin surrounding ourselves with people who push us toward the best us that we can conjure up in our wildest imaginations, we can get there! If we would only remove all the doubt, worry, fear, insecurity, paranoia, anxiety and stress and start making the needed adjustments to live our best life now; then we would see it’s really achievable now, not later.

To all my coachable friends here’s what I want you to do. Take out your calendar and begin by taking an hour out your schedule and blocking it by calling it NOW TIME. Take that hour and fill it with whatever feeds your soul NOW. Fill it with whatever forces you into your destiny NOW. If you’ve been putting off the book, the project, the business, your education, your vision, the healthy lifestyle change, the pull to draw closer in your spiritual walk; invest an hour into yourself NOW. Many of you are not about to take off now only because your now is filled with things that are causing you to drift further and further away from your desired destination. As you drift further and further away from your hopes and dreams, you will begin to feel more and more comfortable accepting a watered down version of you that compromises your take off NOW.

Don’t be someone whose take off is delayed because you refuse to confront what needs to be confronted in your now. Confront laziness, apathy and the mentality of the comfortable. Confront the insatiable need so many have to be understood by everyone. Everyone doesn’t have the capacity to handle the scope and the depth of the vision you have for your life NOW. Some won’t be able to see what you’re talking about it until it’s undeniable, in your face, tangible and real! Don’t waste your precious time on people that will only appreciate your dreams when everyone else does. Don’t waste time on people that get everything you’re saying late aka “laters.” Tell people who can’t see your now,..later! They don’t have the aptitude to see that far ahead anyway. They’re “later” type folk. They’ll get it later. They’ll see it later. They’ll buy what you’re selling later.

Right now you need now people in your life who get “it” and you now. People who see your vision now, not after everyone else jumps on the bandwagon. The ones who are ready now are the ones you can move towards take off with quickly. Don’t continue to share your dreams and ideas with anyone who’s not excited with you now! Look at the way they handle you now. If they don’t honor you now, send them into your later. If they don’t share your enthusiasm now, tell them you’ll talk to them later. Look at your life and make an honest assessment. Are you your worse enemy because you’re trying to make your now happen with people who won’t get it until later!? The hard truth is, even the people around you aren’t responsible for your take off being delayed. You are the one who has to make the decision.

Do I take off now or do I put it off until later? I suggest now because tomorrow is not promised to any of us.

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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Airline crew members must have it. Passengers with health issues or those who are pregnant at a certain trimester have to have it too. What exactly am I talking about? Believe it or not, in order for some people to go places; they must prove that they’re actually fit to fly.

This got me thinking about the mentality needed to go places in life. It’s pretty mind boggling for me to see so many people taking on relationships, careers, big undertakings in life, but they’ve yet to adopt the right kind of mindset needed to take flight. Instability, mood swings, constant emotional and mental fluctuations; all of these things make it extremely difficult for people to take off in life.

If you’re finding yourself always rising and falling in your relationships and interactions with people, nine times out of ten; it’s you. At some point on your journey you’ve got to address the approach you take when it comes to everything. No longer can you expect to get somewhere if you’re not fit to fly. In the case of those who aren’t fit to fly, the doctor tells them no. You’re not going anywhere. The doctor will point blank say “You can’t go.” If you’re sabotaging your own success and take off, you really don’t even need a doctor to tell you whether you can take off or not. Truth is, all you need to do is look around at your life. If you’re willing to come clean you will see how you’re doing on this journey. Are your relationships always in critical condition? Is what’s going on in your mind and heart in conflict with your image and vision for your life? Are there people in your life who tolerate your immaturity but in reality they stay in conflict with you because you’re in your current jacked up state of mind? Do you always find yourself at odds with who you are and who you want to be?

If you answered yes to any of these you may NOT be fit to fly. Those who are fit to fly have a mentality that refuses to major in the minors. They have a big picture type of way of thinking; not allowing pettiness and foolishness to keep them dealing with low level relationships, negativity and drama. If you really want to fly, do you seriously think contentious arguing, debates and disagreements with the people on board with you is the way to get there? The person who’s fit to fly is going somewhere and is willing to be approved by someone who can vouch for them that they are really ready to go.

A person who is never able to be examined and approved for take off is not fit to fly. What about you? If you are going to get to your destination, you must be fit to fly.

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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Today I’m picking my parents up from the airport. They’re traveling here and I’m ready to serve as the driver and hostess and whatever else they need. Am I mad about it? Not at all. The reason I’m not mad is first because I am not a hater; especially when I see people going places. As a matter of fact, I’m making myself available to help anyone who’s making strides to take off! This is why I speak, blog, share, Coach,…I love seeing people grow and reach their destination!

This made me think about how many of us who say we are going places need to look around and become more intentional in helping mentor, coach and serve others. Essentially, if you’re not doing any of that, you are not doing anything. If you are too focused on self that you’re rarely ever taking the time to help anyone else go somewhere on this journey, you’re missing the point. It’s not all about you! It should be that whatever success you’re experiencing is inspiring you to help build others. See, my ultimate desire is to do this kinda of stuff on a regular basis. The second reason I’m not mad about picking them up from the airport is because I love to serve others. Serving is the greatest thing any of us can do. This is why I’m here. Not only do I see myself coaching, and speaking and traveling more,…I literally see myself helping others take off higher than I will ever even go. I was born to help people take off and so were you.

Doing this requires a heart and mentality that’s not self centered. See, the average person is me centered and yet they wonder why they’re having trouble taking off. I’ve found that when you make it your business to bless the people who come into your region or town, they become motivated to do the same for you when you come to their town. I literally sit around and think of out of the box ways to make the journey better for people I come into contact with; with no other agenda but to inspire them!

Sadly, average minds try their best to limit what they do for other people. Most are only focused inward. Only concerned about their family, close friends and circle. Never looking to help anyone else get around! I challenge you, the coachable ones; to change your mentality. Some of you are famous for going out to eat with people and only paying your tab. Buying inexpensive gifts for people yet expecting the best when it’s your celebration. Discounting everything you do for others but that’s not how you want to be treated. Be honest, you know that’s not the mentality or mindset of someone destined for greatness. If you know people are in your area from out of town, help them get around. If you know people are feeling like aliens or strangers, be a friend to them. Support them. Show them around. Make whatever adjustments you need to in your mind and calendar to be available! Make space in your life to treat people the way you want to be treated.

Some of you are saying no way, people are too messy and I’m not going to be taken advantage of by anyone. This is why discernment is vital. You can’t help everyone. There is a class of people that will be drawn to you and some of them are deadbeats, while some are sincerely trying to take off and ascend. Know the difference. Some of you have been burned helping people before so you’re saying now; I refuse to let people use me. I will not be someone’s errand boy or errand girl. They have money. Let them figure it out for themselves. If you’re dealing with a person who has the pathology of a user, that’s not the one for you to be helping get around. But if you know they are genuinely moving forward and just need someone to pick them up; help them. Distancing yourself from people moving towards take off is stupid and a waste of time and resources. Make sure you’re operating with the right mentality! You’re definitely not thinking the way someone going places thinks if you still can’t decipher between people with the right agenda and wrong motives.

See, the average person can’t grasp this kind of stuff I’m talking about. But you’re not average! You’re headed somewhere and greatness is awaiting you; but you must change your mindset now and be prepared to meet King’s. In order to take in this concept you have to start looking at the people in your life with a different perspective. Start to esteem the people around you and stop being so common with everyone you know. Your normal way of thinking is to bring people down to your level. Right now, you actually have people in your life and you treat them like they’re nothing. You think, Oh that’s just Mom. That’s just my Dad. That’s just my Boss. That’s just my mentor, coach or Pastor. But, if the people who pour into you and bless you mean so little to you; you’re essentially saying you have a low view of yourself. The way I see it is; anyone who pours into me and improves my life is IMPORTANT and they should be treated that way by ME. So with that being said, let me go now and prepare to majorly bless the people I’m picking up today. The bottom line is, no one can use you without your permission anyway.

Someone once said “If serving is below you, leadership is beyond you.”

Check your ego on the way up! If your head is too big as you ascend, it could be the same thing that’s responsible for bringing you down.

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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Google is hilarious. You can type in anything including

“How to travel on a plane” ✈️

Seems pretty self explanatory doesn’t it? Well DUH. Clearly, if you want to travel on a plane you have to buy a ticket, pack a bag, then get to the airport and get on board. Oddly enough, it seems like you shouldn’t have to explain process to people, but believe it or not; there are some individuals walking around who need you to tell them everything step by step. To me this speaks to a person’s capacity or lack thereof.

There are simply some people who we are trying to engage in relationship, intimacy business, and even conversation who just don’t get it. You know those people who don’t understand the basics. No common sense at all. They are out to lunch, the lights are on but nobody’s home, the elevators stuck and won’t leave the first floor. Some people don’t see that there are steps that are required in order to go places. They don’t see that process is the only way to take flight in life. Taking flight requires a strong commitment when it comes to following protocol and order if you want to get ahead.

The harsh reality is that some people need the help of google on how to do everything.

And if it’s not google helping them decide their process, it’s their mother or father, sister or brother. Some people can’t think for themselves and if they use google for everything do they actually have a brain of their own? If they need google to tell them how to think, what will they do when the internet connection fails? Truth is some people will get help from everywhere but within and even after they do; can you deal with the reality that you’re left with a person who lacks the substance to be able to take off in life and in their interactions and commitments to you? If you’re going places in life, the wisest thing to do is be honest with yourself. Before you get attached and deeply connected to anyone; please make it a point to get to know as much as you can about them.

I can’t stress enough to you how important it is for you to really do some work to see what their capacity is first. Can they contain you and all you bring to the table? Can they handle conversations with you, your interest and the reality that comes with being connected to someone with your substance and depth?

Some people like the idea of you but can’t deal with the weight that’s associated with a go getter like you.

You are going somewhere great. This is why you must ask the people who will get on the plane with you, some hard questions. Like, what are the steps they think it takes to get on a plane? Not just an airplane but the plane or the level that’s required to take off with you. No point in doing business with someone who you’ll never have anything in common with. No point in trying to get married to someone who can’t even understand you while you’re dating. The way a person gets to their destination has to do with their decision making process.

Do you even know what your decision making process is? If you’re not clear on that, my advice is simple. Stay on the ground for now. In the meantime, figure out how you plan on getting to your next destination. You must have a process in place before you demand someone else to. Stop relying on google and outside sources for your process on moving forward and look within. You will get far. You just need to figure out the basics.

Copyright ©️2019 Sherry Grant

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Have you ever wanted to travel to one destination and the people you’re rolling with wanted to go somewhere completely different? What happens when two people are together physically but mentally, emotionally and spiritually they’re going in opposite directions?

Is there an easy way to book a flight that pleases everyone? Or is this just too expensive of a feat? Do you even have the time or energy to keep trying to appease people who want to go skiing when you love the beach? At what point do you stop trying to make people agree to go along with you when you know they would rather be somewhere else? When going places in life, all of these questions are vital when it comes to the people you choose to take flight with. It’s really a major waste of years and in many cases tears to sit around accommodating everyone else around you, only to look up and be bitter and resentful because you never got to go where you wanted.

Those who are going places in life have to be free of the fear of people. No longer should you be preoccupied worrying about who likes you and who agrees with you. This is the equivalent of trying to go two places at the same time. It’s not good for your mental health. I read a quote the other day that said “The person attempting to travel two roads at the same time will get nowhere.”

And this is very true. William Shakespeare said “To thine own self be true!” There’s such richness in that statement especially when you’re a person who’s got a made up mind and determination to go places. It’s so important to remember along this journey that if you lie about how you feel or what you want, you’re not not being authentic and true to yourself. So many people end up old and angry because they did everything in their power to try to make their family and friends happy only to find out they’re all miserable too. What a tragic end. To get to the last leg of your life and find out everyone you tried to please wasn’t happy either; because they were all following the same model or template for living. If you really want to get “there” start by learning yourself. Not the “you” anyone else pictured for you, but the “you” that you know you were born to be. Deep down inside, if you get quiet enough and at peace with yourself, you will begin to silence the voices of the people around you and hear what your divine calling has always been.

You’re going places. You just need to sit down and settle your spirit and your heart so that you can hear what the sincere direction is for your life. I’m cheering you on and believing your clarity and wisdom is going to increase. Start studying and reading more. See, the library and bookstores are already filled with “mentors” who’ve written books that have taken them years to experience what could change your life today. My grandfather used to say this quote often that he loved.

“When the student is ready the teacher will appear.” -Unknown

Who’s really ready to stop wasting their time trying to travel all these different paths with people who aren’t going where you’re going? If that’s you, let’s go! Greatness awaits you.

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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The other night I made an assumption that my husband and I were going out to eat, but because he had so much work to do when he got home, he declined dinner with me. Yep, he was too consumed to leave his desk and have dinner with me. SMH. Was I heartbroken? Was I devastated? Crushed? Absolutely NOT! The reason my life and self esteem did not crumble at his no, is because I am absolutely comfortable doing things without company. I realized a long time ago that while I’m on this flight called life there are some places I’ve got to go all by myself. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not making a big dramatic deal about eating dinner by myself. I wasn’t mad and even brought him a yummy meal back home from the restaurant that I was sure he would enjoy. This whole situation from the other night actually opened up the opportunity for some good ole’ reflection for me and all my real life coachable friends. I can’t emphasize enough how vitally important it is to learn to go places alone, with a good attitude. Going with the right perspective is imperative if you expect to get to your intended destination in life. At the end of the day, all of us have to learn to fly solo.

See, I could have found someone else to go eat with like so many people do when they lose a travel buddy along the way. Some people are seriously afraid to be by themselves. Some people are so codependent on others that they are scared to be alone with themselves. Not me! I learned a long time ago that there is a sense of satisfaction and joy in going places by myself!

I believe that it is not until a person becomes truly comfortable with self that they will ever be the best version of company for other people. Too many adults are so unaware of who they are that they must constantly be in the presence of other people in order to make them feel better about themselves. Some people need to constantly be surrounded by groups, cliques, tribes, family, whatever you call it. And don’t get me wrong, I wholeheartedly believe in the power of community, but to need to be around them all the time? Naw! I’ve become happy spending time with me. Be honest, there’s got to be something seriously off in the psychology of an individual who is always seeking approval and validation from outward sources. At some point that person has got to come to grips with the fact that they are trying to fill an emptiness that will never be filled by crowds and company. That’s the saddest part. To come to the harsh realization that most of these people who can’t do anything or go anywhere by themselves are actually surrounded by a bunch of other people in the same boat. See, Eagles don’t fly in packs. Eagles fly alone. They fly solo at high altitudes. Never will you see an eagle flying with a small bird. That’s how you know something is wrong with a full grown person who always has to run to be with their “peeps.” Who claims to be a leader or an eagle yet has such a low level way of thinking? These kind of people I’m talking about love to hang out with other people who have the mentality of a pigeon too. The mentality of pigeons is opposite of an eagle.

Pigeons love to stay on the ground instead of up in the air. It’s a positional thing and the position is in the way they think! Pigeons are also some of the dirtiest and most disgusting animals. They take anything into their system. Eat all kinds of scraps and mess, even their own feces (insert whole message right!). They love to hang out with other people who have the same mentality as they do and I’m finding that a lot of people even in their 40’s, 50’s and 60’s have the same mindset and way of living as pigeons. This is another reason why I have learned to love flying solo. Because, the last thing I or anyone else with a leadership mindset need in their life is time wasters who love to stay on the ground. These are the people who can’t move vision forward. They are always pecking at the dumbest things. Their focus is perpetually off. They’re determined to waste their time with foolishness and the others like them who are going nowhere. People who love crowds are constantly packed together, huddled in groups ever consumed with the same garbage like concerns and issues. Constant victims with a woe is me attitude. Nothing ever changes with these crowd pleasers. But a person who’s going places, spends time feeding their spirit and mind. No surprise why I love reading, listening to teaching and motivation. I love engaging in what inspires me and stimulates me to take off and fly! I can’t stand staying stagnate or listening to the repetitive hum drum and drama of people who stay stuck in the same cycles of dysfunction and never change.

The great thing about traveling solo is you find out who you are. When you learn who you are, you instantly become more valuable so when the time comes for you to join with others; it’s life changing! When this happens you are comfortable in your own skin knowing that you can be your authentic self and not worry about whether you’ll be accepted or not. After all, flying solo will teach you that if no one wants to travel with you, you can still be happy flying by yourself.

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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If the changes you’re making are bringing out the worse in you, you’re not growing. If the changes you’re making are moving you away from positive people and drawing you into deeper intimacy with people who are not transforming or even trying to evolve; you are going backwards and not forward! Time is not waiting for any of us and there is nothing worse than a stubborn old fool.

Make decisions that move you toward the best possible version of you not the worse. Choose to change your mentality from always trying and make a better effort to actually do what you need to do to change!