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I never see any of my critics at the airport! Ha! It’s funny, but it’s true! Have you seen any of your haters at the airport? Nope! I know! See, the reason they’re not ever at the airport is because the peanut gallery never goes anywhere! To make matters worse; they’re forced to sit around and have to watch those of us who are actually going places. That’s got to be so sad. Those of us who are genuinely going places in life have no problem seeing others take off, because we are busy traveling to our next destination.

This got me to thinking about how a lot of people never take off in their own lives because they’re too consumed with drama and stuff that has nothing to do with them. If you’re always worried about a bunch of people who you aren’t even responsible for; how will you get any closer to your purpose? Your purpose is waiting on you, but you’re overly involved in the affairs of other grown people who need to be on their way and taking flight in their own lives. There is a serious level of codependency in operation in many people’s lives and it’s seriously detrimental to forward movement.

My advice is so simple. Don’t waste another day on social media minding others people’s business. Stop being the family detective. Let people live. You’re not required to be the source for everyone you love. Let them make their own choices on this flight. Your life is your life and their life is theirs to live. Do you even realize how much pressure you are putting on yourself that you don’t have to? Think about what you could be doing with all that time you’re sticking your nose in other people’s lives! Time wasted where you’re all wrapped up and consumed with what other people are doing and who they’re doing it with,…

You could be cleaning your house, car, credit. You could be making money, writing a book, play, movies. You could be building something of value. But no, you’re sitting around zooming in on people’s pictures; criticizing their clothes, hair, and shoes. Talking about their family. Putting them down because of their relationship choices. All the while what’s up with your life? You got all that time to talk about their life while yours isn’t looking too impressive. And sure, if you compare yourself to some people you know, you’re not doing so bad. But at this stage in your life; why are you comparing yourself to anyone else? WORK ON YOU! Take off! Go somewhere and stop criticizing other people for once in your life. They are going where they need to go. Meanwhile you,…you’re stuck at home in front of your computer, broke, frustrated and faking for a bunch of people who still aren’t impressed by you. They don’t care because they’re at the airport on their way somewhere. So, with that being said, you really should worry about your life and pursue your passion and purpose; and when you do, you won’t be worried about what anyone else is doing.

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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People are going places and the choices are endless. There are tons of airlines you can travel with. You can go almost anywhere in the world; it’s just a matter of your preferences. Oddly enough, people will select an airline and a destination and jump on board and proceed to complain about everything from start to finish.

It’s as if someone forced them to go where they’re going, but we all know that’s not the truth. This flight called life is all about choices; your choices to be exact! You can literally have whatever life you decide. Whatever you can imagine, you can have it. Wherever you wanna go, you can go. So why go around crying and complaining about the selections you made? I would advise you, the coachable ones, to start choosing to think better about yourself first. Pause and think about that. Who am I today? Who do I want to become? Am I making room for that transformation? These are important things to reflect upon because change doesn’t happen by osmosis. Anyone growing and transforming into their best self is someone who’s intentionally doing so. Most people only dream, imagine or think about becoming better. Not many are committed to making the choices and changes that lead to growth.

Once you begin to develop a different value system; you won’t be disappointed by your choices anymore. Your new self will begin to inspire you to never go back to the place you left. Yes, once you know your worth and make the necessary selections on this flight called life that represent who you are becoming; you’ll begin to create a luxury lifestyle. It’s really as simple as it sounds. Make better choices and your journey will become an experience you won’t have to complain about another day. As you evolve, the kind of people you find yourself next to on this flight will reflect your new mentality. They will share similar values and goals. You won’t have to waste your time crying about who you’re stuck with another day. No, you will find yourself connected to people who are genuinely interested in making your journey one to remember!

I’m excited about where you’re going. I’m hopeful about the choices you will make and I believe you will soar to new heights as your choices line up with where you’re headed in your life!

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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In your travels, you’re sure to see a lot of people doing things and wonder; do you have any real friends? This flight called life can be hard, but the quality of your journey can be improved by the company you keep. There’s a saying that “Only a true friend will say to your face what others say behind your back.”

I think this is so true. It also speaks to the reality that many people are without true friends. The reason I say this is because so many won’t tell you what you need to hear to grow and be your best self! Most people are surrounded by those who are content in allowing you to walk around looking and acting like a fool. And maybe it’s not that they haven’t tried to tell you the truth before; maybe you just don’t respond well to the truth. Maybe your reaction to truth makes people continue to lie to you. Maybe you really can’t handle the truth, so you surround yourself with people who tell you what you want to hear. The sad reality is, most people are looking for yes men, not real friends. A real friend wants you to grow and challenges you to do whatever it takes to go higher. A real friend will help you think better about yourself. A real friend loves you enough to tell you what others are afraid to tell you about yourself.

My challenge for you today is for you to ask yourself; WHO ARE MY REAL FRIENDS? Who are the people who help push me closer to my take off? Who are the people who keep me from my take off that I still call my friends? Why am I allowing them to do this to me? Am I even a friend to myself?

I guarantee you will only attract what you are. Your friends are a reflection of you. If they are all no good, maybe you need to upgrade your mentality.

Your life is happening right now and you are either enjoying it or not. Be honest, are you enjoying your life? Are you looking for other people to make you happy when you really haven’t learned to love yourself? When are you going to take responsibility for the quality of your life? Stop putting all the control in the hands of your so called friends. Be a friend to yourself and put people where they belong in your life. Destiny must take priority over history! Some people have been around for a long time and they’re partly the reason you’re still on the ramp and haven’t taken off yet. When they continue to make excuses for your stagnant mentality, they’re not being your friend. When they coddle you and make you weak; they’re actually an enemy to your success. I challenge the coachable to take control over your life and be good to yourself. Others will take your cue and see how you treat you. Once they see you’re loving to yourself, what other choice do they have but to follow suit. It’s up to you? Look outwardly or look inwardly? If you don’t love you, why do you expect others to?

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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Isn’t it interesting when you run into people in your travels and find that some people haven’t changed one bit. I wish I meant in a good way, but unfortunately it’s usually no improvement in who they are as a person that makes them the same. Still rude. Still bossy. Still sneaky, selfish, critical and insecure. Do you know what people really say about you when you’re not around? Are the reviews all the same; that you haven’t changed one bit?

Sure, some people say you haven’t changed one bit as a compliment. They say that if you still look youthful and good for your age. And yes, that’s pretty admirable if you’re someone who’s been able to take care of your body; but life is much more than your physical appearance. Life is more than the superficial. It’s a sad thing to see a lot of people getting older, but not changing; not growing, not improving. The last thing I want to leave as a legacy is “she stayed the same.”

Take an honest evaluation of your character today. Look in the mirror and see what you look like, but this time look inwardly. Are you still procrastinating, lying, faking, jealous, divisive, mean spirited? If so, work on removing anything that keeps you from getting to your desired destination in life. You know your issues better than anyone; so fix them. It’s a great day when you are able to see your own growth! When will that day come for you? When will you look at your life and say in all honesty,…I’m on my way!!!! It’s truly about time for you to do some inward work.

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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My therapist asked me a powerful question today. The question was “How far are you willing to go for people when it comes to your empathy for them?

It started my wheels to turning. I began thinking about the distance I’ve traveled for others. Because I was concerned about people in my life; I’ve gone places I’ve never intended, only to find when I’m about to crash and burn, the same ones were nowhere to be found. It didn’t matter how pure my intentions were at the time, but feelings have a tendency to change on this flight called life. Also, it made me think more about how I ended up feeling when I gave to others what I couldn’t actually afford to give them. This really made me re-think about how far I’m actually willing to go now. Now that I know that some people want to you to go far out for them and still have no intention of reciprocating or even changing and growing up. I thought about how far am I willing to go now, knowing all I’ve learned from then to now. It got me to thinking about how far I’ll go for people who won’t do a blessed thing for me when I’m struggling. What’s my attitude when it comes to users, narcissists and people who take and take and take? The bottom line for me now is that I am only willing to go as far as I choose. In other words, my decisions are in my hands and no one else’s. Defining that made me feel soooo empowered and strong. To say that I choose what I do and who I do it for. Oh, and I know that sounds so obvious to some, but think about how many of us haven’t been living this way up to now. I’m talking about living your life like it’s really your life. Not your parents, family, friends,…you get my drift. I’m empowered to articulate it and say it loud; people don’t get to manipulate me into being a “good person” just because it benefits them and their self seeking agenda. To say that I choose to decide how far I’ll go when I see someone in a situation. That if I feel compelled to step in and help I will; but if I don’t, no amount of guilt or manipulation will make me change my stance. And listen, I realize that this doesn’t protect me from deadbeats and leeches. I realize that I still may find myself being taken advantage of and used by others so to say. But the greatest knowing in all of that is; people can only use me with my consent, participation and permission.

There’s an incredible sense of power in knowing you’re not a victim to anyone or any circumstance. There’s a tremendous freedom in knowing that I’m here and I’m ready to be who I am on my terms. That I’ll go for others as far as I want. That I will travel the distance for whoever or whatever I want.

And if for some reason I think I made the wrong decision on this journey, I know how to get back on course and follow my life path with integrity and authenticity; because it’s my flight and my choice!

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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I went to a movie yesterday that inspired me and made me feel so blessed that I decided to do something totally different. Before I left the theater, I planned an excursion for my Tuesday night group. That’s right! Instead of planning to do what we normally do; I sent out a spontaneous and impromptu message to about 25 people I coach and said “ Meet me at the theater tomorrow night.”

Without having a meeting, a vote, or weeks of seeing who would be interested; I decided to just do it! I went ahead and took a leap and said let’s see who’s willing to adapt and go “there” with me! I was so moved by the presentation that I saw I didn’t want to wait. I wanted to take the inspiration I experienced further by sharing it with them collectively. Well, that is my entire purpose; to help people soar. Especially the people around me! The response was immediate and unanimous! My spontaneous trip sent a wave of excitement through my whole group! My excitement made them excited! WOW! What a concept! What a way to operate concerning everything I do, forever!!!

This got my mind going. I was thinking of all kinds of creative ways to keep this momentum going. I’m literally planning ways to inspire the people I coach and to keep them motivated from getting stuck in a rut and it all was sparked because of this little excursion. Wasn’t going to financially break me. As a matter of fact, some people in my group started sending me donations to help cover my faith move (insert can I get an amen!).

See, going places, even on excursions, is something we all need to do more often. It’s amazing what spontaneity will do for your marriage, organization, business; your whole life! Be honest, when was the life time you thought about going somewhere and actually went? When was the last time you changed up your routine and did something adventurous and new!? Taking these kinds of journeys are great because they remind you that even though you’re going somewhere great and you’re not there yet; it’s still ok to deviate from a regular pattern, path, or level of operation to enjoy yourself. I guarantee that you will feel better and the people around you will be encouraged and energized to see how you are taking risks and ascending to new heights. My advice to you today is simple:

Don’t lose your sense of joy on this flight!

Take time to enjoy your life and go on an excursion or two. After, you’ll be even more motivated to get to your destination. When you begin to take time to become more inspired and when you see new places, you motivate your group to think about doing the same. When you take time from your regularly scheduled program and agenda to explore new territory and to relax and loosen up along the way, you’ll set a new precedence. You’ll be surprised at how this will help you and others to see things with a fresh perspective. You’ll be even more excited about getting to your planned destination when you begin to think beyond the norm!!! Plan an excursion and watch how much more exciting this flight called life will be.

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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Before any flight can take off, EVERYONE has got to sit down. Yep! That’s from the pilot to the flight crew; everyone has to take a seat. Sitting down can be a difficult task for some though. Some people don’t feel valuable unless they’re in the limelight, but there are lots of assignments that are important but low when it comes to visibility.

Young children, people who are hyperactive and those who want to be seen all the time have a difficult time sitting down. It’s almost impossible for some folk to take a seat on this flight called life. It’s almost as if they feel like getting up and being busy and their worth are one in the same. Truth is, most busy bodies are far from productive or useful, they just can’t take a seat. This made me think about how so many people never take off in life, love, or their career, because they never learn the importance of sitting down. Some people are always up, sashaying around, showing off, trying to prove a point; only to find out they are the reason for the delay in their life. This speaks to a serious lack of self awareness; many don’t know how crazy they look always trying to be in the spotlight.

The missing ingredient of those who refuse to sit down is humility and it is the exact reason why these individuals can think very highly of themselves, but everyone around them are rolling their eyes when observing their antics. See, these people don’t realize that they are not only their biggest enemy, but everyone around them that’s going places can see it so clearly. They are often those who love to listen to training and teaching, but never apply it. If they only realized that they can listen to as much instruction, motivation and inspiration as they want, but they will still never go anywhere until they learn to stop being such know it alls who refuse to be critiqued, evaluated and coached. Sadly, some people are so busy moving about trying to be noticed but they’re really stuck. These people are not going anywhere and deep down inside they know it. If they could only stop it with their incessant desire to get attention; they would finally be well on their way. It’s tragic if this is you.

If you never sit down and become accountable to the people who you know can help you soar, you’re going to keep frustrating your own departure. Until you learn to listen and apply wisdom; you will find yourself taxiing on the runway of life never really excelling and going to the places you hoped for. Let’s be honest, we all know an attention seeker when we see one don’t we? We know those people who always want the spotlight on them; and while they crave attention from the crowd, the ones who go to great places are those who are not at all needy of validation and acceptance. The people going somewhere in life are the ones who aren’t obsessed with trying to prove their giftedness, because “when you got it you got it.” To those who are actually coachable; please sit down.

Stop allowing your ego and your never ending need for validation to motivate your every move. Study what it means to be humble and take a step back. Look at yourself honestly and stop admitting your faults like a badge of honor and do something about it. Grow up and stop behaving like an adolescent. If you’re really going somewhere on this flight called life; you need to take a seat. You could be the hold up for your own take off. Everyone is waiting on you to get out of yourself once and for all and take a seat.

Your seat is not the seat you see someone else in. You won’t do what you do the same way as someone else, but if you’re going somewhere, you will have a determination to do whatever you do in excellence. Arrogant people think they can do whatever they want and take off. Wrong! The take off is for those who understand what it actually takes to go to great places!

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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Didn’t get to post yesterday. Celebrated the life of a woman who was very dear to my family. Made me ponder a lot as it relates to the take off and descent of a life. Some flights seem to take off and arrive to their final destination quicker than others. For some, it really seems as if they’re just getting started and they are no longer here. The saying life is short is really true.

This made me also begin to think about how one going places, great places that is; has a mindset focused on doing what they say they’re set out to do. They must have a commitment to behaving and thinking like a grown up. I’m sure you’re thinking this is a given but trust me, it’s not. There are a lot of people who say they want to be coached and challenged to growth; but remain in a state of delusion. Delusional people love to talk. They spend the majority of their time talking and constantly imitating the people who they admire. They love to copy the glamorous parts from the lives of those who they see going places. Can I tell you that imitating the parts you like about the lives of successful people will never get you to your desired destination? When I used to watch soap operas, I would be so impressed by how they all sat around looking fabulous all day. They would be dressed in the fanciest apparel with maids waiting on their every whim. Sadly, we are at the point in this culture where some of us are completely obsessed with looking the part. Some people are committed to sounding deep, appearing as if they’re humble, nice, kind, genuine and acting out the image of someone who’s trying to make real changes. This is all a hoax for some and the results of their lives make it abundantly clear. People who are actually committed to change are changing. People who are committed to growing are indeed growing. People who are committed to transformation are not sitting around making excuses for being stagnant. If you want to convince someone that you’re growing; grow up. Seriously, time waits for no one and your take off is really up to you, but your descent is not so much in your hands or in your control. You don’t know how long you have to get your assignment done. So if you’re bull jiving and playing around; you’re only fooling yourself and wasting your own time. Take your assignment seriously because it’s no telling when your flight will come to an end.

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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