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I pay attention to the things that people say to me and when I’m about to take off on an airplane, I’m always happy when I hear the flight crew say;

“If there is anything we can do to make your flight more enjoyable, please let us know.”

While drinking my coffee this morning, I began to think how we all should be making this flight more enjoyable for the people we’re traveling through life with and they should be doing the same for us in return. This idea of reciprocity in relationships definitely makes the journey called life more enjoyable. To be surrounded by people who make it their business to think of ways to make your life easier is an amazing quality for people to have that stick around you. It’s a sad reality that most people are surrounded by the total opposite. They are literally smack dab in between people who intentionally do things to make their lives miserable. Some have even been convinced that they get some moral recognition for putting up with obnoxious, ungrateful family and friends. What a lie! There’s no Medal of Honor for allowing people to treat you like trash. Hello! As a matter of fact, people who stay in abusive romantic, family and work relationships suffer miserably. They often have high levels of anxiety, depression, mental and emotional issues and physical illness as a result of the people in their lives who work to make things so un-enjoyable.

My advice to you today is look around and take an assessment of the people around you. Who’s making your life better? How can you reciprocate your kindness to them? Also, look at who’s sticking around making it worse? Who in your life can you honestly say you’re helping them go to their next level? Who are the ones who you know you’re bringing down? Be honest. Then do something radical to move beyond assessment. Some people stay too long in the assessment phase. They love to admit they need to change and never do anything to change. It’s time to move beyond confession and complaint. Actually do something to help yourself and the people in your life grow. Help them get there! Don’t be the reason someone continues to underachieve. Don’t be the reason someone is insecure or afraid to try. If you don’t have anything nice to say, sometimes it’s best to say nothing at all. Don’t be the source of constant aggravation and frustration for anyone. This flight called life is difficult enough. No one needs to be surrounded by people who aren’t going anywhere and who aren’t doing a blessed thing to try to help people go anywhere!

See, the possibilities in life for success and happiness are endless. There’s a zillion ways you can improve the quality of the lives around you. Smile. Be nice. Walk into a room and actually have a good attitude and outlook. Support someone today. Promote them. Teach them. Inspire them. Give them a hand. Speak words of life, hope and encouragement instead of always being negative and critical. Invest in them. Pray for them. Bless them! Feed them. Hug them. Truth is, there are a lot of people around you on this flight. When are you going to ever actually help them take off? Today’s a good day to get involved in making this flight called life better for someone who’s about to give up. Be the reason someone smiles . This world is full of people who just need a helping hand.

Are you Enjoying Your Flight? Yes or No? Leave your answer in the comments. Thanks for taking the time to read this and if you feel inspired, SHARE IT. Sharing words of wisdom and encouragement is part of making life more enjoyable. 🤗

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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If you’re going places, be sure to let your bank know! If you don’t alert them of your travel plans, you could end up getting your card blocked for your own protection. Now this may seem a bit excessive to think that as a grown adult you have to notify other people when you’re going somewhere; but there is a great deal of wisdom in being an accountable traveler.

Accountability is being responsible for what you do and able to give a satisfactory reason for it. Of course you don’t argue with the bank when it comes to making yourself accountable do you!? You don’t cry and moan saying the bank is trying to control you. Nope. You go right along and you make yourself answerable to them. And the only reason you make yourself accountable to them is because you need them to give you access to your money. But think about the other people in your life you should be accountable to when you’re going somewhere and yet you’re not!! Could it be the only people you make yourself answerable to are those you need? People crack me up, especially some of these so called “leaders.” The ones who are selective when it comes to their accountability to others. It speaks volumes about their integrity if you asked me. Accountability pretty much boils down to your sincerity and substance. It’s a character issue. It says a lot about your real heart. If you would inform your bank of your whereabouts but not the people you’re in relationship with then what does that say about you? To me it says you have convinced yourself that your accountability is only required to the extent that it benefits you.

My advice to you who are going places; Never make anyone a leader or an important player in your life who has selective accountability to you. These kind of people can’t be trusted. Character is how you treat people who can do nothing for you. But we live in culture where so many fake people only want to be around you if you can do something for them. Never waste your time with phony people who only like you because they want something from you. These people will never be genuinely accountable to anyone. The person who can’t be forthright and upfront in relationships with people unless they’re rich or powerful; steer clear of these superficial people. These individuals have serious character defects and they always have something to hide. See, anyone with pure intentions and motives will have no problem sharing their location. When I say location I’m talking about more than your physical address, but I’m even talking your location spiritually, mentally and emotionally. My experience and observations in life have shown me that the ones who are sneaky and secretive about “where they are” are already telling you where they are. You just need to pay attention. If a person can’t be accountable about where they’re going and who they’re going with, make sure you don’t give them close access to your heart. Because I make it a point to be accountable and upfront with the people I’m going places with, I expect the same in return. People who play games and pick and choose when they want to be transparent and sincere don’t get the same access to me as those who have proven to be consistently accountable. If you switch up and withdraw and act strange when it fits you, you are passively communicating that you want to go in a different direction and that’s ok. Sadly, there are some grown ups who lack the ability to grow up and have courageous conversations so they have to resort to articulating their heart in vague ways. They express their mentality sending hazy clues like becoming cryptic, silent, cold and distant. Silly! Don’t ignore their cowardly communication. Truth is, many of us already know these shallow relationships aren’t going anywhere; we just don’t want to have the uncomfortable talk.

The bottom line is, there’s nothing you can do with people who want to travel and leave you in the dark. There is something we can learn from the bank though. The bank gives us wisdom that if you can’t let us know where you’re going; you get blocked. 💥 BOOM! No really though. It’s time out for this disrespect from people who know better. Make them accountable and stop allowing them to treat you so dishonorably. If they can call the bank and communicate their whereabouts, they can tell you where they are on this flight called life. A simple I’m in or a simple I’m out is the least you deserve. Take a deep breath and stop stressing over people who can’t even be real with you and let you know where they stand.

At the end of the day, people can go wherever they want and do whatever they want. At the same time, you need to be reminded that you will be perfectly okay taking flight without some of these flaky people who lack integrity and accountability.

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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I’m not going there! That’s what we often to say to people when we see them coming with their antics. It’s a great way to avoid foolishness and maybe keeps you away from behaviors and personalities that clash with your ascent. But you can only do that for so long. Truth is, there are literally some people who love to keep mess going and some of us have determined that in order for us to grow and take off in life we need to be absolutely clear on who these characters are in our life. These people are the ones we call toxic!

Toxic- used to describe a person who is tainted by a subconscious malevolence or psychosis that affects the lives of those who come into contact with them.

Toxic people come in all shapes, sizes, ages, races and religions. If you’re going greatplaces in life you need to understand this. See, no amount of life experience, education and resources can change the fact that some people are just full of poison. They can’t seem to get themselves together for nothing. Always being messy. They love gossip and drama. It’s like they can’t breathe without chaos and confusion. Sometimes it’s you. Sometimes you are the toxic person. We all have been that to someone at one time or another if we are honest. True growth is when you start being honest with yourself and then and only then can you begin the process of getting better. If you always look at everyone else and point the finger and blame them for their toxicity and never accept responsibility for the poisonous habits you possess and your patterns of dysfunction; you’ll actually stay missing out on some good relationships. Sure, some people are not good for you. But let’s be honest, where you are mentally and emotionally today, you’re not so good for them either. We often have a tendency to be attracted to people who mirror our mentality. What kind of people are drawn to you? Seriously! Think about the qualities of the people who you spend the most time with. If all of them are “the problem” what does that say about YOU!? This kind of self reflection is only for those who want to go to the next level. Is that you? Do you really want to take off? Do you really want to step up and be a better leader? Do you actually want to be in a healthy relationship? Do you want to elevate in your field or your business? If the answer is yes, then go there. Go to a place of truth in your dealings with yourself and with the people in your life and stop calling everyone and everything toxic. Your not wanting to go “there” is not helping you ascend. The higher you go, the more you’re going to have to deal with the interesting personalities that go along with your elevation. The higher you go, the more thick skinned you have to be. See, the same low level stuff that used to get under your skin at this level shouldn’t phase you where you’re about to go. If you’re going to be great you can’t keep letting stupid stuff bother you. You are bigger than the pettiness you have been allowing to take you out of your place of peace. Stay in your zone.

You can’t change toxic people, neither is that your job! You are the captain of your own destiny. Stop wasting your time on dumb stuff. Keep soaring to your destination and relax your mind. I’m so excited for you. You’re rising above the pettiness and baby you ain’t seen nothing yet!

Copyright ©️ Sherry Grant

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A lot of people want to travel but are insanely afraid to leave their family and friends behind to go somewhere great. It’s pretty pathetic and sad too. When you think that some people literally aren’t taking off in life and going to their desired destination because they’re so tied to people who are stuck on the ground. I sure hope that’s not you.

I’m sure you’re thinking that’s crazy to stay where you are and not move because you need to make everyone around you happy. But I want you to think a little deeper about your own life. Think about how much further you could be if you weren’t always trying to appease the people in your life. Think how much more you could accomplish if you didn’t continue to plan your life around people who refuse to go to their next level. Some people sit around miserable because they feel responsible for a bunch of deadbeats they love! Say it ain’t so?!! But some of you have wasted years sitting around and trying to accommodate low level thinking. There’s even a tendency for some of you to begin to lessen and lower your life goals and expectations to keep the people around you from feeling bad about their existence. Some of you grown ups reading this are so enmeshed in your dealings with people that you can’t even broaden your horizons without the permission of these people you say you love so much! It’s insane! Especially if you think you love them more than you love yourself. If you’re trying to rationalize why you do this crap, you could actually be one of those people. Let me ask you a few questions; Is there a degree, upgrade or certification you keep putting off because you don’t want to offend people? A job you won’t apply for so you don’t intimidate someone in your life? Do you really want to grow and evolve in some area of your life but you’re too afraid to step out because “they” might think you’re showing off or feeling yourself? Afraid to move because you’re stuck taking care of folk who are doing nothing to help themselves?

In order for your life to become what you dreamed it would be you need to feel safe and supported pursuing your dreams without the fear of disapproval from “them.” It’s time you stop being so tied to their expectations of your life and take off. When will you stop trying to please your mom, dad, sisters and brothers and start doing what makes you happy? Even if you’re married, your spouse needs to support your elevation and you need to have the courage to say what you want and where YOU want to go! There’s no use in living in fear and regret of the reactions of you being bold and stepping up! Take the leap of faith and go as far as you can see for your life! Stop asking for their permission. And be mindful that you are not going to go as far as you can if you’re connected to a bunch of negative and selfish people who want you to stay on the same level all your life because it benefits them. Truth is, some people want you to succeed, they just don’t want you to leave them. The harsh reality is no one has the right to love you and control you at the same time. Its not genuine love when it’s meant to dominate your destiny. It’s like saying I want you to go far, but stay where I tell you because you need to succeed as long as it makes me comfortable.

The bottom line is you need to be free to travel. You need to be free to date people you want and take opportunities that scare the people in your life who think they know what’s best for you. At the end of the day, no one can live your life for you but you. If you allow other people to micromanage your life you will end up in regret and frustration. But, if you take the risk and go somewhere great, even if there’s some turbulence, you’ll get there! I’m rooting for you! I’m cheering you on this flight! Just be courageous and drown out the voices of fear and anxiety and TAKE OFF! Greatness awaits the courageous!!! You just need to be free to travel as far as your heart desires!

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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No matter how many times you fly on a plane; you still aren’t going to be equipped to do what the pilot can do. Right? Not unless you make the same effort the pilot made to become who they are and do what they do. See you can try to get as close to them as you want; but you will still be without the skills necessary to take flight.

It never ceases to amaze me the way some people’s minds operate though. Some people will attach themselves to you on this flight called life with a motive to copy what you do; then get frustrated when they don’t ever take off. Sad to say, some people aren’t connected to you for the right reasons. As I sat and listened to the birds chirping this morning, I wanted to share with you some professional advice as you get closer to your purpose. Whatever you do, don’t be sidetracked or disappointed by people who try to use your wings to go somewhere great. After observing some people who come around me and even listening to the things they have the nerve to say out of their own mouths; I’m truly convinced that some people aren’t genuinely around to be a support. How do I know? Well, it’s because they won’t support you. They’ll have a zillion opportunities to do something to help move things along in support of you, but they won’t. They’ll just watch you. They’ll watch you lose. They’ll watch you win. They’ll watch you laugh. They’ll watch you cry. The truth is these spectators only stick around you to see how you do what you do. Super annoying right? Yep!

So how do you handle these aggravating opportunists? How do you handle the person who poses as a supporter all the while they’re nothing more than a leech attached to you to try to suck as much inspiration and creativity out of you for them to later turn around and try to mimic you? I know, the first thought is to become indignant. The audacity of some people when you actually find out that many of the onlookers in your life don’t sincerely care about you and what you’re doing as far as your vision or life mission. They only hang around you because they want to learn how to fly like you do!

How do you handle it; knowing that most of your so called followers are only using your victories and failures as a template for them to get to their destination? Sobering isn’t it? To think that most of the “clappers” around you are just admirers who come along to take what took you years to master to help them get ahead. Well, after you process the truth; keep going.

1. Place people in their proper place in your heart and in your head.

2. Don’t confuse temporary people aka the users with lifelong friends. Some of these people will only stick around as long as it serves them. Too many times I’ve made the huge mistake in letting bloodsuckers get too close to me and that’s never a good lesson to learn.

3. I’m to a place in my life where I understand people better; and if these parasitic people want to learn from me professionally that they must come correct. They need to know my wisdom is not coming at a bargain price. That what I have to offer will not be generously shared with you like this is some kind of homeboy hook up.

4. I’m learning to teach people that my insight is not going to be handed out at a discount rate. You cannot benefit from my anointing by giving me a little bit here and there. You can’t go to anywhere you respect and offer them a payment plan on this flight called life.

Unfortunately, people have the gall to walk up to the creatively gifted and try to bargain with them to take flight off their wings. No ma’am. No sir! If people attached to you want what took you years to learn; they have to pay full price. They have to respect you as the professional they want to glean from. I am not one bit emotional about users and self seekers when I’m being compensated for my wisdom. At the end of the day don’t let these kind of people drain you. Don’t you dare let these manipulative individuals take up too much of your mental energy. You have to preserve your creativity and wisdom on this flight for what you’re actually here to do! You’re going somewhere great and the closer you get to your destination you need to be on the look out for people who have their own personal agenda and keep in mind not everyone has a heart like you. Guard your heart above all else; because you’re going places. A person who is going far in life will attract all kinds of people. Many are simply attracted to you for the wrong reasons. There I said it. Half these people smiling in your face are not your friends. They just want something. You’ve just got to become discerning enough to place appropriate professional boundaries around these imitators who want to sit all up in your face and never really invest in you.

Lastly, make sure you’re not making more deposits into people who refuse to make any investments into your life. You need fuel to make it to your next level and you definitely shouldn’t have to carry dead weight when you’re headed somewhere great in life!

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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My son is “taking off” today.

Literally! He’s going places. It’s that time for him to go to a new level in life and I’m so proud. He’s getting his Master’s Degree in Electrical Engineering from Johns Hopkins University. As we sat waiting for the ceremony to start, I couldn’t help but notice how me, my husband and family are surrounded by many other people who are here to celebrate their children do the same thing. This made me think how important it is to be surrounded by people who encourage and support you on this flight called life. I began to think how hard it is to get to the next level for anyone in this culture we are in; even having love and help from the people in your life, it’s still not easy.

So my challenge today is look around and make sure you’re surrounded by people who are there for you with genuine support. Like really! Not fake support. And let’s be honest; you know when people are sincere about being there for you versus that phony obligation. I don’t want anyone doing me a favor by being there for me. You shouldn’t either. Get a certified support system so that you can really go somewhere.

For years I allowed myself to be deceived by the sugary words of false supporters. People would come around and tell me good things in private. They’d say how much they loved my work, how I really needed to do bigger things and then whenever I did them they were nowhere to be found. Eventually, it became evident to me that I had placed people in my life who didn’t want to see me go places. If that’s where you are today, I’m sure this article is speaking to your core. Your whole life can take off if you have the right support. Isn’t it time you get in position to go somewhere beyond frustration and aggravation. I’ve found that there are some people who get a kick out of you being broke. They love hearing your sad stories of almost making it to the next stage and never really getting there. These people don’t want to see you graduate; yet there is a remnant who wants to see you win. There are people who are eager to scream your name when you walk the stage. It’s time you get “there” and take off to your next level!! I want to see you WALK to your desired destination on this flight called life.

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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Every week now there seems to be a new report about some prejudice person looking down on someone else and sizing them up with the idea that only certain people are allowed to travel first class. I read an article recently about an African American man who had his boarding pass in hand was in line to board when a Caucasian woman (who was a passenger too) rudely told him that he needed to get out of that line and go to the line for common people. He politely told her that she was wrong and that he was in the right line. He told her to be precise that he was there because he was a rich black man! I know she looked so dumb when he said that! 😂😂😂 Well who’d a thunk it; that in this day and time that no matter what you look like, you can still have the means to buy a first class ticket and go wherever you want??? Astonishing!

This made me think while drinking my morning cup of coffee, that I too have experienced a lot of these encounters in my life. Oddly enough, most of the people who told me to move out of my place “in line” were so called friends and “well wishers.” See, while they may not have ever come out of their mouth and said get out of the line; their lack of support, their negativity, and their inability to catch my vision and enthusiasm was almost equivalent to being told I don’t belong in this line. We live in a society where social and capital limitations are placed on people everyday because of their skin color, religion, gender and it’s disgusting and wrong on so many levels. What’s even worse is often we ourselves are guilty of buying into what society tells us about us. Where we can go and what we can do. Unfortunately, we seem to believe the culture when it tells us we can’t fly in first class. We believe our family and friends who shoot down our dreams to become something out the box and extraordinary. How many of you have dreamed big about something for your own life and instead of staying in line you let your bank account or the lack of investors stop you from stepping out on faith and becoming what you believed in your heart you could be?!

The rich black man told that prejudice woman who tried to tell him that he where to stand couldn’t believe he was where he was because her mind was warped and she thought she was better than him. But he told her “I’m not going anywhere. I belong here!” You too need to do the same thing when it comes to where you know you belong on this flight called life. Don’t let anyone tell you where to stand. Don’t let wicked people who are stuck in another time period tell you you can’t be where you are. Don’t allow your past or low self esteem to send you to a cramped seat when you know you deserve better. Don’t allow a circle of frenemies to keep smiling in your face all the while you know they don’t want to see you doing well. Don’t allow your mistakes or the fact that you weren’t born with a silver spoon in your hand stop you from going somewhere great in life! The rich black man said “I BELONG HERE!”

Well, everyone standing around who observed this exchange began to applaud him. They were in support of him standing up for his rights and telling the moron lady who had no right to be talking to him that way in the first place. Believe it or not, there are more decent people on this flight than you know. Not everyone is racist and disrespectful and prejudice on this flight. The flight crew treated this rich black man like royalty after seeing what he went through. And to all my coachable friends today I want to encourage to stay in line and don’t be moved by the despicable people in line with you. I promise you, there is always someone watching! (Insert Baptist fit)

And trust me, no matter what people try to to harm you; no one ever gets away with anything.

Today’s advice is simple:

Watch what you do and who you do it to! You never know how it will come back to you and bite you in the butt! Let it be said that only good stuff is coming back to you, because good is what you give out on a daily basis to all men.

Copyright ©️2019 Sherry Grant

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My husband and I have regular talks about where we are going as a couple, as leaders in our family, in our community, even personally. We talk about the plans and goals we have and how we will get there. All the while, we never stop doing whatever we can to elevate our mentality and our lives along the way. No one ever got somewhere great without making plans to get there.

Unfortunately, there are people who sit around with their loved ones and friends and talk about their plans to never go anywhere. They have a language that they speak regularly to remind them of how bad things are and how hard it will be to get “there.” Saying things like “the struggle is real” “It’s always something” “Life is so hard.” Some people love to make these negative confessions on a daily basis and then act surprised why their lives are so bad. You literally can speak your yourself into better or worse.

See, you can want to go somewhere great all day long, but until you develop habits that lead to success and a mindset of greatness; you’ll continue to end up stuck right where you are. Look at how far you’ve gotten in the past year. No really look and assess. Have you made any strides to get anywhere beyond excuse making? I’m convinced that there are people who plan to do nothing more than go to work, school, home and repeat the same thing over and over and over. Nothing more. Nothing less. To only live your life in the same cycles and circles should make you dizzy! Don’t you ever do anything that stretches your imagination beyond doing the same old stuff? When was the last time you planned something that made you excited? Is there anything you’re doing today that excites you and that’s actually helping you go somewhere great in life? See, too many people are only excited by low level talk, doing drugs, taking shots, shopping, partying, getting laid,… How are any of these things helping you get any further in your life?! Some people sit around complaining about their problems, not realizing they are the ones who created them. Then you have those who constantly moan about how boring and mundane their life is like they aren’t the one who are responsible for setting their agenda.

Even though you know what you like and don’t like at this point in life; what if I told you that there’s a whole world of opportunity and goo gabs of people out there who have the substance you need to see your life change. That you broadening your mind to experience new things on this flight might be the way you find new things that elevate you and bring you joy. But you’ll never know until you step out and try something new. Don’t you want to improve your journey? Doing so, you’re sure to meet to new people. And yes, I know the ones you know now are great; but if they’re stagnant, complacent and not growing you could be surrounded by a bunch of friends who are just like you. If you have four friends that are boring, you’re probably the fifth one. LOL

Our relationships reveal a lot about us. If the people you hang out with are going places you should be going places too. No, you shouldn’t be competing with them or trying to keep up with them; but you should genuinely be motivated to pursue your purpose because you see them going places. They should inspire you. Look up the word inspire for more understanding. Anyone around you who’s not moving to the next level should be uncomfortable around you if you’re going somewhere great. My advice is: Plan to get better everyday in every way. If you’re honest with yourself you know you can stand to improve in one way or another. I encourage you to do just that. Improve! Elevate! Soar! When you begin to soar, others will take notice. There is something about people who plan for success. They actually end up becoming successful (insert churchy “well!”). On the other hand, if you live your life letting people distract you and pull you away from your focus, you will be sorry to see your plans interrupted by a bunch of losers and their constant nonsense. You may even think people are “with” you, but watch what happens when you start doing big things and thinking bigger. Those who liked to be around you when you weren’t as focused as you are now will begin to pull away. Believe it or not, your growth will offend some people because you will be seen doing more than they’re willing to do to take off in their own lives. O well! Too bad for them.

I’m seriously convinced that some people just love to talk about taking off, but they’re just bluffing. If they really wanted to take off they would, but too often they just want to stay on the ground in life. Taking off takes guts and courage. It’s not for the passive and cowardly. Anyone who’s committed to going somewhere great has it mapped out and planned. It’s called being a visionary. Can I ask you a question? What’s your vision for your life? You should have an answer in great detail by now. If not, get to working on one today. You don’t get to amazing places in life without making an investment to get there. And you won’t get there at brunch and happy hour everyday. I know you’ve convinced yourself you’re networking but you’re also becoming an alcoholic and that’s not going to take you far. You won’t get anywhere great addicted to anything. You won’t get there trying to be like one of the Housewives of Atlanta. You won’t get there broke, wearing all your money on your back and feet. Some people have invested more money in their wardrobe than their future. Glad you’re outfit is nice but sad to see that your future is bankrupt. Stop the foolery. Be wise. Be humble. Be authentic. Focus on your destiny, not the destiny of anyone else. You don’t just “arrive” in life! It’s a well thought out venture.

It requires your utmost attention. You can’t get “there” being average and sitting around watching television and eating nachos all day. You won’t get there if you’re out of shape and super unhealthy. You’ve got to plan for this. It takes a commitment to your destiny. Make up your mind today to put your ascension and take off on your list of top priorities and plans. The only way you can truly help others is that you’re in the right position to do so. What will you do today to get in position for greater success?

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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Recently when an Aeroflot jet came to a flaming emergency landing in Moscow, videos of the tragic accident were posted all over social media, showing that in the middle of the chaos and confusion some travelers apparently used precious time to grab their carry-on bags. Can you believe that?!!

Certain passengers literally slowed down the evacuation process because they were so determined to retrieve their luggage while people behind them tried desperately to exit the plane. Interfax reported that as some of these self-centered passengers reached for their bags, others were stuck in the single-aisle, Russian built plane. As a result of the selfish bag retrievers, at least 40 people died.

This is so upsetting when you think about the fact that there are still people on this flight called life who will do the same thing these people did on that flight. People who will jeopardize the safety and well being of others all because they are determined to hold onto whatever they think is important! Some people are so obnoxious that they only think of themselves and never take time to think about the people behind them. The flight attendants were enraged by these idiots. Who could blame them for being angry? Their job is to get people off the plane in an emergency, but they couldn’t do their job because of these selfish passengers. I’ve found in my experience that it’s extremely difficult leading people who are determined to do whatever they want. It’s frustrating and downright evil to stand in the way of other people who are trying to make progress and move forward. Yet there are so many people who do this. They actually will stand right in the way of progress and intentionally do whatever suits them while other people are destroyed.

People literally died on this flight because some travelers were so consumed with themselves. While meditating on this early this morning, I realized this same foolishness is happening in families, businesses, churches and communities. Innocent people are perishing because some of these people supposedly “on board” are complete narcissists and not one bit concerned about the other people around them. Make sure this is not you. Take your ego out of the equation and ask yourself:

Am I sincerely supporting other people on this flight?

The fact is, some people are only into themselves and they will even become advocates of people who are like them. Helping people who help your agenda is manipulative behavior. A good leader is someone who is helping other people stay alive and thrive; NOT helping destroy lives. I’m sure all the morons reaching for their bags were on one accord. They were probably all convinced what they were doing was perfectly okay. I’m always amazed at people who defend toxic people and say nothing about the carnage left behind from their deadly actions. If you defend abusive, poisonous people, please know you’re just as guilty as them. The blood is on your hands too! It’s time out for people in this culture standing back and remaining neutral when they see injustice. Excusing people’s bad behavior is a huge issue for me and what I believe to be the reason so many victims of abuse stay silent. They stay quiet about their abuse because their defenders will downplay their abusers evildoing. Many victims of mental, emotional, spiritual and physical abuse never take it to anyone sadly because they know no one will stand with them. From my own experience I’ve seen people who know the deal who will still be quick to make excuses and justifications for ignorance and all the while the people who are suffering are told to grin and bear it. This is an atrocity! Those 40 people that day shouldn’t have died. Not only that, there are people today on this flight called life who deserve help getting to their destination and they shouldn’t have to die because people are standing in the aisle focused on their own stuff!

I’m learning not to get on board with people anymore and to distance myself from people who I can’t trust when things get interesting and conflict arises. If I’m not sure if I will survive a trip with you, I’ll avoid you like the plague. I’m here for a great purpose and I won’t let people ruin me who are overly consumed with superficial things that don’t matter. I caution you not to travel closely with anyone who will leave you behind while they only take care of themselves on this flight called life.

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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