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The saying is funny, but oh so true. I don’t catch feelings. I catch flights. This statement makes me chuckle, but it’s really sad when you think about it because so many people aren’t going anywhere great because they stay in their feelings. Only a person who’s not interested in going places would allow their emotions to keep them from taking off in life! Hope that’s not you. Made me think this morning – How often do we let negative emotions about someone or something dictate how far we go? It’s really sobering to consider that there are some mountains you should have climbed and conquered. There are some circumstances you should be over, but you keep checking with your feelings to see if it’s ok for you to actually grow up. There are some real conversations you never had that you should have had by now, but your feelings are too in charge to get over “it.”

There are some opportunities that could have helped you level up; but your feelings and emotional issues wrapped around them keep you from walking into a new level of success. Some of us are getting entirely too old to keep letting our feelings run our lives. You could actually have some quality people in your life, but you continue to avoid relationships with anyone who challenges your mentality. Mentally, emotionally and spiritually you need to be in environments that stretch you, but your feelings tell you to stay in the shallow end of the pool of life. So you settle for surface associations with clueless people and wonder why you feel so stuck and grounded. I know there are even a lot times you don’t want to hear all the stuff you know you need to hear. That’s because your feelings are the boss, and they counsel you to settle for low level interactions. The ones that keep you from addressing anything that makes you walk in truth. Play it safe, they say. You would actually rather feel good than experience genuine transformation. So sad. If you asked me that’s all kinds of wrong!

It’s funny how you say you want to take off and fly high. You keep saying you want to elevate your life and ascend in your growth and wisdom and your relationships. But what are you doing different to attain this new level? You can’t be content busying yourself to impress other people while inside you are just as insecure and vulnerable as you were ten years ago. If you aren’t willing to change within it will be virtually impossible for you to grow and take off. Your emotional core has got to be stronger than it is now in order for you to be ready for your ascension. You’ve got to be more resilient for the next level, more confident, more disciplined. You’ve got to have more insight and more knowledge about yourself and what makes you tick before you encounter shrewd, competitive people who will study you and develop a strategy to ruin you all because they know you are controlled by your feelings. Don’t you know wicked people love to mess with you when they know they can? Stop allowing them so much power over you emotionally. Don’t give them access to your emotions anymore. If it’s business, keep it a business relationship. If it’s personal, make sure you’ve vetted them before you offer them access to you at an emotional level they aren’t eligible for. If people can’t handle you with integrity at the ground level, why are you giving them access to you at the penthouse level? No wonder your emotions are all over the place.

My advice is simple – Get your feelings under control. Get some help to manage your emotions. Go to church, therapy, the gym, meditate, go on a retreat. Decompress and recharge. Study people who operate at high levels and see how they manage to handle intense warfare without becoming an emotional basket case, drug addict or alcoholic. Study how they handle conflict and manage their emotions without letting that stuff make them crazy. You can do this. You can have a successful career or business without letting people manipulate you and your emotions. You don’t have to allow anyone including yourself and your unchecked feelings to ruin another thing in your life. While it’s okay for you to have feelings, never let your feelings have you.

Always keep a strong gauge on who’s running the show! Is it wisdom or your emotions? Remain a self controlled person no matter what is happening around you and don’t let people destroy your sense of vulnerability in the process. Don’t become some cold robot who never has a moment of transparency or sincerity. Don’t become a fake person trying to say that’s how you control your feelings. Determine not to let external chaos interfere with your internal peace and you’ll be fine.

You are going to be sad, angry, irritated and annoyed sometimes. I said sometimes. Not all the time. Just sometimes. Learn not to allow negative emotions to destroy your moment. Don’t let your feelings get in the way of your destiny! Future opportunities are pending on your maturity and willingness to deal with how overly sensitive and weak you are when it comes down to people who trigger you. Most of the people who need to read this are super sensitive and if you’re honest it could potentially ruin your reputation. Once people categorize you as someone who can’t handle conflict or anything that makes you uncomfortable; they’ll avoid you like the plague. No one has the energy at higher levels to be talking to an adult infant. Make sure you’re carrying yourself with dignity and behaving like someone who’s ready to go the distance in the marriage, company, or team. People that are always trying to progress and move forward need more individuals who are connected to them who aren’t going to dance around issues but who have the emotional capacity to go to the next level without repeated meltdowns. Are you that kind of individual for those who offer you a seat at the table? Are you solid and able to communicate without losing it? Are you working on ways to better interact at the next level?

Catch flights, not feelings! It’s much more beneficial for you and everyone on this flight called life who want to fly with you.

Copyright ©️2019 Sherry Grant

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The CEO of United Airlines released a statement some time ago saying “the airline waits for no one, not even famous people, in its quest to be on time.” Since then, the company has had to justify some instances where they didn’t follow the CEO’s initial statement. They had to come back and say that the gate agent has the right to use discretion on this. Wait, WHAT? So now I’m confused. Does what the CEO say go or the gate agent?

While drinking my coffee this morning, I began thinking about how many times like United Airlines, we make official statements and policies regarding our lives and yet we have “gate agents” who use their discretion to do what they want instead of what we’ve established. Whew! This constant dissonance is one of the reasons why many of our ideas and plans never ever really take off. So many of us would literally be a lot more successful in our pursuits but sadly we never get off the taxi ramp of life because we’re saying one thing while the others are doing what they think is best. How many of us have people on this flight with us saying something different?

This got my wheels turning because the harsh reality is; how can your plans ever really take off if you’re working to implement excellence and quality and the people who are supposed to be helping you do this are constantly making exceptions and excuses why they don’t think it’s necessary to follow the protocols and systems you’ve put into place? Really? I want you to think about that. If you’re seriously trying to have a great marriage and you went to marriage counseling and the counselor suggested keeping your nosy family out of your affairs and you and your spouse agreed to those terms for your family. Yet, you get married and insist that your family is the exception to the policy and they need to know everything! What you’re doing is breaking the agreement you made for success. Does that make sense to you? If you started a business and you put a strategy in place, why are you allowing people who at the end of the day really don’t respect where you’re going; why do you continue to allow them to keep misrepresenting your brand? My point is, it’s time for you to decipher between those who are helping you and the people who are hurting you. Look around and be real with yourself. Who’s doing you a “favor” showing up when they want, being sloppy and casual with your vision? Once you come to the realization that these jokers are destroying your brand and the culture you’re trying to create, ask them to stop. By all means try to get them on the same page with you. But if they refuse to cooperate and do better; remove them from your team. You can’t go anywhere with people who don’t want to go anywhere! (Insert churchy “well!”)

See, most of the people who think they’re helping you are “gate agents” and the gate agents are important. You need help but they can’t be egoistical and that’s hard to find. The gate agents must have the right spirit because they usually have more interactions with your clients than you. So if their attitude is not right they will really end up doing more harm to you than anything. They will sabotage your take off with their lack of accountability and integrity. They will make you look like a joke and then laugh. You’ll be wondering why your plans never go anywhere great, when it’s because you’re saying one thing and they’re saying something else. Stop allowing the “gate agents” in your life to have that much control. They are changing your blueprint.

Please hear me when I say this; some people don’t mean any harm, and some do. Some people are evil and they don’t want you to take off. Then there are those who really don’t mean any harm, they’re just not going anywhere themselves. You’ve got to know the difference and you need to realize that the ones who are struggling with their own personal issues are just as dangerous as the evil gate agents. You’ve got to come to the harsh reality that if a person’s actions are harmful, you can’t take flight with them. You need to politely release them from feeling the need to support you until they can come correct. Whoever they are. Sure it might seem like things will be harder for you without them. But the truth is, they’re not helping you now. Things are hard with them. You’re struggling now and you are not going anywhere great at this moment so their hanging around is only making you feel better psychologically. You somehow have convinced yourself that they’re part of your “team.” Maybe it makes you think you’re more impressive having them around, but if they’re rewriting your vision and making executive decisions without your approval; they’re not right. Can I be honest with you and tell you those kind of people have a bad spirit and are really undermining your vision!

Don’t continue to allow your ascent to be delayed for anyone. NO ONE! The airline waits for no one, not even famous people. Maybe you should identify the people who think they’re so famous in your life that they don’t have to listen to your vision and follow it. These are the ones who have some serious head issues. It really boils down to inflated egos and puffed up people who are motivated by arrogance. Ask them who they think they are? They obviously do think they can just show up whenever they want and do whatever they want. Issue a statement to them today. Let them know you’re done waiting for them. It’s time for you to take off!

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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My husband told me a delightful story about a man he observed traveling with his very young son yesterday. He said he watched in amazement as this little two year old (without anyone telling him) walked over to the security check and spread his feet, raised his hands in the air and waited for the green light to move along. He said everyone was smiling, captivated and going on and on about how knowledgeable and well traveled this baby boy was. Everyone standing around was in sheer amazement seeing such a young child who was so prepared for take off. He was definitely used to going places!! Go figure!

My husband said the little boy’s father turned to everyone nonchalantly and said “He’s a frequent flyer.” Well I almost had a Baptist fit when he told me that part and I’m not even Baptist! 😂 The two year old baby is a frequent flyer! How many of us can say that? How many of us can matter of factly say that it’s nothing for us to be at the airport about to go somewhere great,…on the regular?! Or better yet, how many us are used to leaving our comfort zones and stretching ourselves beyond the status quo? Judging from this little boy’s life, it takes good leadership to prepare you for your ascent! So even if your parents didn’t prepare you when you were young, what are you doing to support your elevation in life? Are you still surrounded by a bunch of dead beats who have no goals and plans other than getting high and drunk every weekend? Are the people you find comfort being around conditioned to stay doing the same stupid stuff they’ve always done; no-ones going anywhere?

As I drank my morning coffee, the word of motivation I have for you today is drawn from this illustration of this father and his young son. You’re a leader! I told you everyone is. My dad always says everyone has influence over someone and that person who’s following you is taking note of how you operate. They’re following your cues. They’re watching how far you go. What limits you, what inspires you, what scares you, and how you do what you do. So knowing that, it’s up to you to be a good example. Your assignment is to get them prepared and knowledgeable and used to going places. This father couldn’t be training his baby son to travel if he didn’t already have his own life in a rhythm of movement and progress. You’ve got to get yourself together and in a position to show people how to live. That there’s a quality life available to them free from struggle and sad stories. This man’s son certainly isn’t old enough yet to book a flight. He doesn’t have money yet, but his daddy does. We must develop disciplines that model good leadership to the people coming along behind us. This kid doesn’t have it all yet, but what he can do he does. He’s clearly intelligent enough to grasp what it means to take off and go places at his level. Work the level you’re at until you can get to the next one. Promotion comes once we master the level we’re at. This kid has learned how to do what he can do at his level. He knows he’s not at his father’s level yet, but he’s doing his best to follow the template and do what he sees him doing. This is important for us all. Know what you can do and do it.

Even when I was raising my kids, I always had the rule that I would never do for them what they could do for themselves. Even if they had a hard time doing it, I would let them get frustrated until they figured it out. And some of you are doing the people you lead an injustice because you keep doing for them what they should be able to do for themselves. This father with his son at the airport could have picked up his child up and tried to help him through the security check; but he didn’t. He stepped backed and trusted that his son was intelligent enough to do what he saw him do. That’s a word! There are some of you who need to help people grow by letting them go through some things on their own. Let them see if they’ve learned anything from watching you. See, when we release people to take off on their own that’s when they began to learn what their true capacity is. The truth is, people are a lot more resilient and capable than you think they are. But if you continue to do everything for them, you make them dependent and reliant on you, never reaching their destination without your permission and support.

The second thing about this father and son that blessed me is hearing about the reaction of other people when seeing him operate. People were astonished by this kids comfort level and understanding when it came to the protocol of going places. He wasn’t afraid or unaware of what it took to take flight and go somewhere different. He was moving like someone who’s not afraid to step out and go somewhere he hasn’t gone before. He was ready to learn and take on a new experience. His father prepared him for that.

My question for you today is : What are you preparing the people you have influence over for? Stagnation, the old same old, route and routine? Or are you stretching them to have a mentality that takes them beyond the mundane. I literally had this realization when it comes to the organization I lead and the team I coach; that if we are going to go anywhere greater than where we are today, I need to prepare them like this dad is preparing his son. I started to think that if people don’t look at the people I lead and say WOW, how are they so knowledgeable and at ease going the places they’re going? Then I need to do more! I began to say to myself maybe I have become too lax. Maybe I was allowing the culture and the times and the way other people and other organizations are moving to dictate the pace of how quickly we have been pursuing purpose. It literally dawned on me how easy it is to allow the people around you to keep you basic. Worrying about overwhelming people and putting too much on them. That’s literally what I was doing. Letting people’s apprehension and lack of readiness for the future; that was blocking me from pushing and implementing the vision I’m responsible for. Could you be the same way? Waiting on other people to get ready. Afraid that you might be too much for some people. Believe it or not, that’s how you become basic. I had to check myself and remind myself that whoever is supposed to go with me to the next level and whoever is going to help me move my message to the next level will show up and whoever isn’t won’t. And it doesn’t make anyone my enemy or my hater if they’re preoccupied with something else. My point is, don’t become basic for anything or anyone. Don’t let your fears or worries about what may or may not work hinder you from being great either. Don’t wait for your family or friends to get on board before you go either. Some of your “people” are the reason you’re still basic.

My challenge to you is the same one I made for myself. Make the onlookers say WOW! When people see your enthusiasm, your passion, drive and dedication for elevation; make them stand in awe like my husband and everyone around this father and son were. Dare to dream bigger than ever because no matter what other people are doing around you; you’re really intended to go somewhere great! Greatness is not achieved being casual and ordinary. Greatness is not achieved trying to make sure everyone is okay with every move you make and it cannot be obtained working around everyone’s schedule. Greatness is achieved when you step into your stride and flow with the power and gifts inside of you. There are people watching you. Give them something to see that inspires them. Not everyone is able to do the things you’re able to do, so it’s never a good idea to let them dictate the pace you move. If everyone is moving slow, pass them. Don’t apologize for moving at your pace. Don’t water down your excitement or ascent because everyone else is relaxed and being lazy. Your life is your responsibility! Your ascent is your assignment. Stop trying to manage the unmanageable. It’s a waste of your time. Don’t let broke, apathetic, uninspired people keep your dreams from taking off. Don’t let anyone stop you from getting there! Prepare for your departure. Prepare the people that are actually following you, and I’m sorry to tell you everyone who says they’re following your lead is not. Wise up. Watch what people do, not what they say. Get your bags packed and keep moving until you see what you dreamed of become a reality! Get ready to become a frequent flyer.

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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It’s really okay to speak your mind. I know, you feel like you might not go far on this flight called life if you say the wrong things. You think you may limit your elevation in life if you offend someone important on your way to your desired destination. This is a real issue for many of you because deep down within you want everyone to like you and you don’t want to tick anyone off. Impossible! You don’t want to make anyone that could open a door for you uncomfortable or upset, so you look for validation and approval and you downplay who you are so you won’t ruffle any feathers. Instead of saying how you really feel, you do whatever it takes to go somewhere; even pretend to be someone else in order to get there? Well, isn’t that what you’re doing if you’re constantly toning down who you are to make other people happy? Aren’t you essentially giving up your right to be authentic just so you can go wherever you consider to be a great place?

While being authentically who you are could definitely create some external difficulties for you, even make some enemies and put you into the category of being a difficult or rebellious person; think about what it’s doing to you. It’s eating you up. Honestly, think about how much internal dissonance is going on in your heart and mind every time you fake it just to make it. Hear me out, many of you want to go somewhere great right? Sure that’s already been established by how many times you didn’t speak the truth. Because you want to be successful, rich, and you want everyone to know your name, you suck it up and hold in your feelings. Which by the way is not good for your health; mentally, emotionally or spiritually. Yet somewhere along the way you started believing that because you have these great 5, 10, 20 year plans and you are determined to go far in life, you have resolved that you are obligated to say what people want to hear, even if you strongly disagree. Your ambition has you saying yes when your heart says no. You actually think you’re expected to always say the “right” thing in order to get to your desired destination!

Here is my question of the day for you; What happens when you get “there” and you make a mistake and reveal that you got to your destination being phony? What happens when you get “there” and realize that you’re not happy being what they want you to be, saying what they want you to say, doing what they expect you to do? What happens when you come to the shocking reality that you only arrived to that place of accomplishment and success because you did what they told you to do and because you lied to get there. And what’s even more sobering is the fact that you’ll have to keep lying to stay there? Don’t you know at some point you’re going to get tired of putting on this act and the real mask is going to fall off? You’ll be caught. Everyone will know you’re not so nice even though you pretended to be. It will be obvious to everyone that you’re not really professional, not sincere, not a good person. They will all know you’re a fraud.

Ironically this is what keeps people taking off in life and suddenly crashing and taking off again, and crashing again; over and over and over throughout their entire life. People go from job to job. Pretending to be nice to get there; only to become exhausted and one day say I’m sorry, I got to be me now. People do this in all types of relationships. My advice is this:

Don’t say what you think they want to hear. Say what’s true to you. Don’t act in a way that paints a false picture of who you are. Not unless you’re a great actor and you don’t mind living the rest of your life putting on a show. It’s not going to benefit you or anyone else if you go through life being anyone but who you sincerely are. That fake stuff will eat you alive. It will have you feeling bad. It will effect your mind and you will eventually blow up one day and say what you really feel. No filter at all. Instead, just be real. Be genuine and sincere. This takes boldness and courage. You can’t be a wimp if you want to go somewhere great. You can’t be afraid to upset people. Sure, you don’t want to ruin your reputation everywhere you go. But believe me, there’s an audience and a people who will connect with your message and what resonates true in your heart. Don’t water down who you are for people who will never accept you anyway. Some of you are currently experiencing major rejection because you want to be accepted by a group of people who you aren’t really assigned to. If you have to lie to impress them, they aren’t your people. Look within. Get quiet and become more self aware. Who are you for real? Some of you have been trying to make everyone happy for so long you forgot to think for yourself. You’re this old and everyone thinks for you. Everyone decides what you ought to say and how you should say it. Isn’t it time you invite the real you into the room and this time make no apologies for who doesn’t like you. You have permission to be you! It really is time for you to take off. And this time when you go somewhere great, you won’t have to be fake when you get there and you won’t be worn out from pretending to be something you aren’t along the way.

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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Before you can board a flight and go anywhere, you’ve got to follow some instructions. Maybe you don’t like the instructions; but if you want to take flight on the aircraft of your choice you’ve got to let go of your idea of how it’s supposed to be done and submit to the way they do things. Sounds like a simple concept, right? It really is. Yet some people are literally unable to ever go anywhere great in life because of their refusal to follow simple instructions.

Following instructions is crucial on this flight called life and helps to make tasks easier, to ensure things are done effectively, to eliminate confusion and to save time. When instructions are properly followed, things work out better. Take an honest moment of reflection over your life and ask; Do I follow instructions? Or do I have this insatiable desire to do things my own way? Has your life turned out the way it is because you insist on doing everything your way? Have you lost opportunities because you’re so stubborn and dead set on doing things the way you prefer? Have you sabotaged quality relationships because you refused to follow the guidelines set for a successful outcome? Are you still trying to prove your independence and individual freedom on a flight that requires cooperation with others? It doesn’t take long before a person in their right mind looks around and realizes they’re the one responsible for their own delay in life. If you’re carrying yourself like a complete idiot, at some point shouldn’t you be tired and make the intelligent decision to snap out of it and start following instructions? Nothing works out right until we all come to the place where we are willing to relinquish our need to always be right and accept the fact that following someone else’s direction is not going to kill us. I seriously think some people are so bull headed that they will literally limit the enjoyment of their own journey because they refuse to ever listen to the wisdom of anyone else. You don’t know everything! Your way is not always the best way! There I said it. You can be mad at me if you want, but I’m probably the only one courageous enough to tell you this. No one is giving you the opportunities to do things you think you should be doing, because you don’t listen. It’s not because you aren’t talented and gifted and creative. It’s because you’re not in the flow. You want to do what you want and you don’t represent something outside of yourself well having this renegade spirit. If you’re part of a team, you’ve got to learn to follow the directions. But this is why people end up sitting on the sidelines and losing their spot; because every chance some of you get to do something, you go off script and start making up your own lines. No one asked you to improvise.

Funny thing is, some of the most non compliant people love to smile and act as if they’re part of the team until it’s time to follow instructions. See, you can pretend to be in agreement and actually never comply with the protocol and guidelines set before you. You can live the rest of your life “bucking” the system, never cooperating with other people and sadly you will have to watch other people take off while you stay stuck at the gate. When traveling on an airplane, you can’t even get past security if you can’t comply with their rules. Some people are the same way in real life, stuck arguing with TSA because they insist on taking things along with them that are not allowed!

Check your life today and ask yourself what am I determined to take with me on this flight called life that’s keeping me from being someone who follows the instructions? Am I trying to go somewhere great but determined to take a bad attitude with me? Am I working hard to be successful but my habits are bad and in complete conflict with my desired destination? Do I actually expect to become something bigger and better than what I am today living a lifestyle that’s not helping me become that? If I want to lose weight, why won’t I stop eating donuts and cake? If I want a husband or a wife, why am I determined to be so weird and distant in my interactions with others. Why do I think I can walk around sloppy and not take care of myself all the while saying I’m ready for a special man or a woman in my life? If I want to be a leader in my organization, why won’t I just follow the directions that are set before me? Why must you make things so difficult? Follow the instructions! It’s not that hard to reach a certain destination. Many of you just have to get out of your own way and agree. Stop saying you agree and still doing the opposite. Do what’s asked of you to do and you’ll move ahead. Listen, if you’re constantly fighting and going against the flow, you’re not going anywhere great. Get in the flow. Follow the plan set. There’s a template. There’s a playbook. You don’t need to make your own up. For once in your life, cooperate with what you say you’re a part of. It’s literally going to change everything and you will begin to experience the kind of elevation you’ve been praying for. It’s a simple thing to do. You just have to stop doing your own thing. That rebellious spirit is not helping you go anywhere great!

I challenge you to take some time today to examine your heart. Make the changes needed for your own ascent. It’s directly connected to your ability to follow instructions. When you sincerely do this, I promise you are going to go far!

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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If you want to fly you have to give up the things that weigh you down. Simple right? Sounds so easy doesn’t it? Believe it or not, I coach and train people on a weekly basis who say they want to fly, but some of them are still in major denial. Some of them are saying they want one thing, while doing the complete opposite. It’s crazy. They actually believe they are going somewhere great, yet they are standing still. Their lives are stagnant and you know stagnant things stink. Some of these people who say they want to take off are slowly becoming bitter and frustrated; all the while they are the very ones who are holding themselves back from greatness. Would you even be able to admit that you’re the culprit if this is you? Would you ever actually admit that you’re the one who’s holding onto the very things that are keeping you from taking off in life?

Could it be that some of you are so devoted to things and people that you’re willing to sacrifice your own elevation to stay on the ground level with “them?” They say misery loves company and maybe it’s true. Could the company you’re keeping be the reason you’re not going anywhere? Are you actually going to continue to allow “them” to be the reason you never make it any higher in life!!? Say it ain’t so!!! It’s heartbreaking to watch people who have such great possibility within throw it all away because they are so committed to remaining loyal to people who aren’t going anywhere in life. Why would you give up your future for people who don’t have any goals or plans for success? You actually want to stay “down” with weirdos, sexual deviants, drug addicts and alcoholics? Oh, I guess that’s how you think you show your loyalty to family. FOE they say. Family over everything? Even over your own ascent? Family over you ever finding real love? Family over you ever becoming a functioning adult who’s not dependent upon their input regarding your life? Family over you ever having a savings account and money to fund your future? Family over you ever having a home that’s not full of squatters who never contribute to your refrigerator or mortgage? Nah fam! That’s crazy. You want to stay on the bottom level tending to people who are committed to staying crazy? To people who are stuck on stupid? You love the drama that much do you? That’s what you’re more committed to than your own destiny? Dead issues? You like that more than seeing your dreams manifest?! You would rather hang out with people who don’t want to grow up!!?

What happened to you? The you who used to have goals. What happened to the you who used to be hopeful and enthusiastic? You let those toxic people change you into this? See, if you’ve become okay with hanging out with a bunch of toxic people to the point now where you’ve accepted this as the norm; you’re not you anymore. The real you would have never put up with this mess before. Now you’re ok babysitting and supervising people who have no goals and ambitions in life? Now you waste hours of your time because you have to talk to these bottom feeders about stuff they should already know by now. They shouldn’t have to be told these things you’re wasting your breath telling them over and over again. How are you going to take off if you constantly have to monitor the mentally unstable? At the rate you’re going with them, do you think you’ll ever have the spiritual, mental and emotional stamina and strength to get started on your own life dreams.

On an airplane, you can’t carry anything on your lap unless it’s an infant. The same is true in life. If you’re trying to take off and yet you’re still determined to carry grown people on your lap; you’re going to continue to delay the flight. The plane won’t take off it you’re not willing to comply with the protocols for ascent. There is a protocol for those who are going somewhere. You can’t be delusional. You can’t make up special rules for the stupid and stubborn people in your life. Even if they have your last name, that doesn’t mean they’re your lifetime assignment. Unlearn that or stay weighed down. You can’t sit there and take up space and remain non compliant. You can’t take off determined to carry your adult children and nieces and nephews on your lap. You’ve got to get your mind right! Today is the day for you to make up your mind. Do you want to go somewhere great or do you want to sit around and coddle people who need to get their lives together!!? It takes a certain level of internal malevolence to know you’re the one holding up your own flight and do nothing to correct the problem.

If you have the support, counsel, wisdom and encouragement of people who you know genuinely want to see you do well, but you continue to resist making the necessary changes; you my friend are the problem! We can talk to you, preach to you, coach you and gather you all day long and nothing will ever change until you take the psychological locks off your mindset and do what you need to do. Stop funding foolishness. Stop babying grown ups. Get well! Because only a person with a deep seated illness will delay their own life to help other people remain immature. Stop helping people underachieve. Look at the wisdom of an eagle. She stirs her nest and then releases her eaglets and they rise to the occasion. No one in your life will ever rise to the occasion if you won’t courageously release them. Let them go. There’s a toxic mentality working in you when you insist on holding onto people and things that don’t belong to you. Your family doesn’t even belong to you. They are individuals who have their own lives and destiny’s. Let them fly!

The saddest part about this kind of obsessive behavior is the insatiable need for control of another person is probably the most wicked mentality a person can have. And then to call it love is even more demented. If you love someone; don’t weigh them down. Release them to think on their own, dream on their own, plan on their own, even fail on their own. The beauty of this is when you let them go, whenever they come back to you it will be because they wanted to. Let people come and go freely in your life. Not out of guilt or compulsion. Some of you are not in a relationship; you’re in a prison. If the people you say you love can’t make a move without your approval something is wrong. Weighing people down is never a good thing. It’s time you check your life to see what mindsets and attitudes are keeping you from going to your next level. After you examine your own life; there’s only one thing left to do. Fly! Soar! Go somewhere great! We are waiting to see you get to your destination sooner than later! Come and go freely! Who wants people around them because they have to be anyway? Not me. If they don’t want to be in my life, what’s the point of making them hang around? Let them go and watch them fly! Even if they don’t, I owe it to myself to be free to fly as high as I can, without anything weighing me down.

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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I’m so high. Yep! I am. The opposite of high is low and I am definitely not low. I’ll admit I’ve been low before, but never again. (Insert praise break) You will never catch me living low, thinking low, dreaming low. I refuse to engage in low level conversations or relationships. I can’t do it. Not since I experienced how it feels to stay high. Now that I’ve learned how to stay high on life I’m never coming down! Surely this high I’m on is not anything chemical. This high is not induced by alcohol, shopping, eating, sex or traveling. This high comes from within. It’s internal not based on anything external. It’s connected to me knowing who I am for real and realizing my life has great purpose. This high comes from a peace in knowing that I don’t have to accept anything from anyone that distracts me from my destiny. This is why I don’t tolerate foolishness from people. There’s no one who’s qualified to mistreat me or abuse me on this flight called life. NO ONE!

I’m not the sacrificial lamb for anyone. No one is entitled to cause me agony and pain, no matter what they’ve done for me. No one breathing on this earth has the right to cause me anxiety, stress, financial ruin, drama, heartbreak,… NO ONE GETS TO MAKE MY LIFE MISERABLE. That would just completely mess up my high. Nothing is allowed to interrupt this high on life I’m on.

See, this high I’m on can’t be disturbed by negativity and confusion. No one has the authority to make me feel guilty or ashamed for anything I’ve forgiven myself of in my past. This high is amazing. It makes me smile when nothing seems to be funny. It literally keeps me going. It keeps me encouraged, motivated and inspired. It keeps me from thinking low about myself ever. This high has given me the boldness to become my biggest cheerleader. I sincerely believe in me and all the gifting and uniqueness I bring to the earth. I no longer wait for anyone to give me permission to be authentically who I am. I don’t need anyone’s approval to speak my truth in love. I’m always high. It’s hard to believe I ever lived any other way. This high doesn’t allow me to ever stop pushing and believing in what may seem impossible to other people. This high gives me the freedom to support others without intimidation or jealousy! I celebrate others without ever feeling the need to compete with them. This high is constantly teaching me about myself. It’s teaching me that I’m born to mentor and train others. It’s revealing to me how different I am from the people who are determined to stay low in their mentality. I’m learning that the higher I elevate my mindset, the less I relate to some people and that’s ok. This high is teaching me that while I’m not better than anyone; I am a designers original and I just don’t have time to waste on dumb stuff anymore. I no longer care who wants to be my friend. I no longer look for validation from people who have proven they are not for me. This high is teaching me to be ok with people who don’t like me and I can still be cordial to them all thanks to this high. I literally no longer have time to focus my time on anything that’s not elevating me. I don’t care about superficial things. I don’t have the energy to put into fake connections with people interested in projecting false images. I’m too high. I’m too high to come down and engage in small talk with the disingenuous. This high has given me greater discernment and I’m fine walking away from people who disturb my spirit. I’m not interested in relationships with people who care about trivial stuff. I’m more concerned about maintaining this high. People who love to complain and talk about their issues take me down from my high. I can’t do them anymore. I would advise my coachable friends to avoid shallow people like the plague or you will risk allowing them to kill your natural high.

The sad reality is, some people would rather look like they’re living good than actually live good. These are the ones who are clearly addicted to staying low. But me, I’m too high to let those people bring me down. The ones who are going in debt trying hard to impress people; I can’t entertain them anymore. I’m too high on peace. I get high on being in the presence of genuine people. Shady people and those who pretend to be nice but are really mean and rude; they ruin my high.

If you’re going somewhere great; make sure you stay high. Start becoming more aware of what makes you ascend mentally, emotionally and spiritually. If you’ve got to be at a bar, popping pills, smoking weed, twerking and being ratchet; you may actually be addicted to getting high. There are even people who are addicted to experiences and the only way they feel good is when they’re engaged in doing things that give them an adrenaline rush or going somewhere that makes them feel high. These same people unfortunately are super sad and depressed when they aren’t doing whatever makes them high. There’s a time and place for everything; but a person who’s truly high on life isn’t addicted to anything and doesn’t have to look outside of themselves to find joy and peace. We can get high off of peace and quiet, reading a book, saving our money, staying home, spending time sitting on the deck,… You get my drift? It’s not about stuff and being busy. It’s about finding joy within.

My heart is that you would get high on being who you were created to be. That you would find enjoyment in whatever your gift or purpose is on this earth. That you would know what your purpose is. That you would find genuine relationships that help you become more and more comfortable in your own skin and you would never have to depend on anyone or anything for contentment another day. That whatever and whoever comes into your life is just an added bonus to your high. But with or without anyone else; you are still flying high! I hope you go where you dream of going. But just in case you don’t get the dream relationship, the dream job, the dream family,… I pray you find a high within that keeps you soaring on this flight called life anyway.

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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You can literally tell when a person is going on a business trip. They just have this “businessy” look about them. Yes, I made up a word. Just roll with it. 😂 The business type of traveler is someone who seems to have a certain swag and focus that’s completely different from a vacationer. In my own observation of people traveling on this flight called life, it’s pretty obvious who’s about business and who’s trippin!

One of the hardest pills to swallow for me is that a lot of adults are not very mature. Yep! I said it. It’s alarming, but not many seem to be here to do anything more than play games. You have an overwhelming amount of men running around acting like boys and the same with women acting like little girls. It’s shocking. It’s not out of the ordinary to see a lot of people who should be serious about their future walking around acting like this is all a joke. You got people out here not using their words. Adults these days don’t communicate their feelings like grown ups. Instead, many resort to backstabbing, gossip and passive aggressive tactics to get their point across. When did this happen? When did it become the norm? To tell everyone how you feel about something except the person who you need to talk to? When did adults start failing so miserably in the area of adulting?

People don’t simply say no when they don’t want to participate in something anymore. Instead they resort to sabotage and covert aggressive behavior in order to say they are not willing to comply. Silence has now become the most common “adult” method used when someone is not happy about something. Makes you wonder what happen to the kind of adults who said how they felt and moved on to more important things? If you asked me, our society is in big trouble if the “grown ups” aren’t able to actually be grown up when it comes to simple everyday life issues. Truth is, disagreeing with someone doesn’t mean they have to become your enemy. Not wanting to participate in something doesn’t mean you need to resort to childish behavior. At the end of the day, if any of us here on this flight called life are going to go great places; we’ve got to learn to how to handle our business and stop trippin!

The same way you can tell when a person is all about business, it’s also extremely obvious when a person is all about monkey business! My advice to you today is check yourself! Are you an adult always caught up in he say she say? Are you still acting like a child but constantly bragging about how grown you are? My advice; Act your age, not your shoe size. There’s a lot of stuff you should be doing that will make you wiser and wealthier if you resolved to stop trippin. Aren’t you too old to always be engaging in constant petty conflict and drama? Aren’t you too old to keep playing dumb when you know good and well the way you operate is toxic? Don’t you think it’s time you admit that along with all your fake friends that there’s something off about you if you’re still drawn to that crap! It’s time to be about your business. Honestly, is the stuff you spend your time talking about and doing putting money in your bank account? If not, stop trippin. We are all older now than we have ever been. It’s time we get our business together and focus on whatever we need to get us closer to our dream destination.

Let’s go! It’s time to get your business straight and stop trippin!

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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