i'm not mad. i'm a writer.

There was this airline called WOW and one day they were set up at the airport doing business. One day they were taking people up and getting them to their destination and then literally the next day they were gone. Gives a new meaning to their name WOW! Just like that no signs of them anywhere!

You know people like that don’t you? One day they’re all up in your face. One day they’re your bff, you can do no wrong, they’ll never leave your side, they’re your ride or die, friend til the end; then the next day where are they? These same people; the WOW people in your life – VANISHED. I used to continue trying to stay in relationships with WOW type people. Then one day I realized how important it is to keep my personal commitment to myself and that is never beg anyone to be in your life Sherry! Not anyone! I just woke up one day and realized that forcing WOW relationships of any kind went against everything within me. This goes for friends, family, church, community, business,…if it doesn’t organically work, I don’t force it. Not friendships or anything for that matter. If it’s not a mutually reciprocated connection, it doesn’t mean anything is wrong, it just doesn’t make me want to go there!

This made me think about how much further we could all be on this flight called life if we stopped wasting time trying to make connections with people that don’t genuinely care about us or want to stay in touch with us. See, anyone can act as if they’re busy and say they want to be in your life; but as my mother would say “whatever we love to do – we find time to do!” It’s so true. Don’t buy the load of crock that comes from phony people when they say they miss you and do nothing to make time for you. No one is that busy! There’s always time to connect with people you want to connect with. Once I found myself always being the one reaching out and making the effort I had this peace in my spirit that said just STOP. Don’t explain yourself. Don’t try anymore. You’ve been the one trying all along. You ever felt that? And no I’m not talking about becoming some paranoid or suspicious spooky person, but you can almost feel the other person not being sincere in their pursuit of a commitment to you. This type of discernment is so important for those of you who are going places. You’ve got to develop that deep sensitivity and insight to see the heart of people you’re dealing with. You’re going to need to be able to discern if the person is having some head issues that’s above your pay grade. See, the problem with some of these people is not that they don’t like you. The issue is they like you too much. And when you find a person who can’t stand your guts, no matter how much you try, they can’t be your friend let alone go to the next level with you. You can’t do anything great with someone who’s secretly jealous of you. Some of these people can’t stay in touch with you and be in your life consistently because they don’t like how blessed you are. There I said it. They don’t want to hear all the good stuff that’s happening in your life. They can’t call you or text you because they’ve been talking about you and the guilt associated with speaking to you with your “pure heart” eats them alive. I’m telling you that you need to settle your spirit and stop letting your imagination run wild about maybe something you’ve done. The only thing you’ve done is offended them with your advancement. That’s why they stopped talking to you. It’s not you. It’s them. Their insecurities won’t let them stay connected to you. It’s no accident you’re reading this article today, you needed this confirmation about why even some family members have pulled away from you. It’s not because you’re going to church now or back in school getting your life together. It’s because they’re hating on you. It’s not because you’re married now and they want to give you space to be with your spouse. It’s not because you’re a new parent and your kid is beautiful, healthy and doing well! It’s because they’re upset about your take off! Stop feeling obligated to keep kissing the behinds of fake people who don’t even have enough depth to be happy for you. You! After all you’ve been through they can’t celebrate you? That’s the sad part because as long as you were struggling they didn’t have a problem with you. But now they’re suddenly too busy to hear about the good things happening in your life. Don’t keep tolerating their emotional mismanagement of your heart.

Family is more than just tradition!!! As a matter of fact, family and friendship is much more than a network of obligations! It is a deep commitment to treating other people the way you want to be treated. Made me start asking myself; why do I have to always be the bigger person if you’re supposed to be committed to me too? Nah fam. That’s not cool. If I’m going somewhere great and I am, I need to take note of how people handle my heart at this level. If you can’t honor me now, don’t expect to have an opportunity to be close to me when I get promoted.

Today is the first day of August! This is a day of promotion. This is a the 8th month representing new beginnings. Don’t start a new beginning doing the same stuff that broke your heart in the past. Make a commitment to stay close to people who stay committed to you. These vanishing connections aren’t good for your mental health. Take care of you and then take off on your haters!

Copyright ©️2019 Sherry Grant

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6 thoughts on “Take care of you and then take off on your haters!

  1. Danielle Whitehead says:

    Firstly, The title is magnificent! Then this part hit so hard “The only thing you’ve done is offended them with your advancement” Ima just print this one out and laminate and frame it!! Thanks for sharing!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Hahahahaha! Your commitment to excellence and creativity in your commentary never lets me down! Thanks for always reading my blog. I love your engagement and feedback! Continue to TAKE OFF!!!


  2. Muriel Johnson says:

    Oh My God you said what is in my heart. You are right. Whatever you love you will find time to do. Awesome Blog. Does make my heart sad that this behavior is happening even now. I love your Blogs

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thanks for your wisdom down through the years! It’s a blessing to have some of your very own words to share in my blogs.


  3. Angie Marrero says:

    Another good to share with my Hispanic friends and family… thank you pastor

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you Min. Angie! I am honored you took the time to read my blog and share it with your family and community!!! Keep soaring in every area of your life!


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