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Women who have broken mindsets use their womanhood to do just about anything. They literally have a broken conscience and what helps them stay that way are people who don’t hold these women accountable. We really need to talk about this! The world won’t get any better until we address this. Starting with women and the evil agreement some of us make to act recklessly when it comes to our womanhood.

When a woman forgets that she’s another woman’s sister, she is unhinged. Dangerous. A menace to society. Women with broken mentalities do the most disrespectful things, especially to other women and expect them to be okay with it. But we are not. A woman with a broken conscience will work out her rejection and abandonment issues by acting out in the most disgusting and inappropriate ways. She’s the type to go around looking for love in the arms of married men. She’s the kind of woman who births sons and daughters as a way to prove someone wants them. But they don’t. She’s the kind of woman who becomes a mother to prove a point instead of nurturing and loving a little life. She’s the kind who has kids with whoever invites her into their bed. Whoever she can get a check from. She gives birth to children and when they try to live their life, she won’t let go. So she uses guilt and oppressive word curses and discouragement to control the destiny of those she should be encouraging.

A woman with a broken conscience can’t see that her life is not meant to be lived as a villain, but a female hero aka heroine! A woman with a broken conscience is dedicated to working out her insecurities by being troublesome to others. So she resorts to anything for attention; including manipulation, emasculating men, violence, dominating others, destroying houses, families, reputations,..

I don’t endorse women who use their womanhood to destroy and divide. Your womanhood is meant to be beautiful, but when it comes to the broken woman it’s not. Use your femininity to heal the world. Don’t be the woman who becomes the witch in another woman’s story. Don’t go around destroying lives and communities because you haven’t figured out your identity and purpose. Don’t do anything you wouldn’t want done to you. Not if you’re a responsible woman. Find ways to be more responsible with your womanhood. That’s a great way to make the world a better place.

Sherry Grant The Realest Life Coach aka The Realest Hope Dealer

Copyright © June 2020

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Just because I’m nice doesn’t mean, I’m going to be nice to you.

Some people are a trip. Meaning they will try you. Try you at the place of your make up. The way you roll. The whole time they will be sitting back calculating how you think and trying to figure out how to play you. When you know you’re dealing with someone who’s approaching relationship with you from that perspective, you’re not safe.

Get out. Run. Quick! People who play emotional games with you when you’re just trying to make a friendship connection or whatever, they are not playing with a full deck. There’s something missing there. Instead of racking your brain and trying to deal with them like someone who has the same heart and mind as you, leave.

Joseph had to do this when dealing with Potiphar’s wife. He’s in no way trying to do anything more than what he’s supposed to do, but this woman has other intentions. Joseph doesn’t have time to reason with her or stick around and try and see the good in her. This lady was not right and sadly there are some people you’re in close proximity to and they don’t have good intentions towards you.

Get out. Run. Disengage and save yourself. Joseph hung around this lady trying to remain professional and she got the wrong idea. Don’t let people get the wrong idea about you trying to prove how nice you are. Get away from toxic people and save your life. Joseph stayed long enough for Potiphar’s wife to feel like she was entitled to his attention. It cost him. Before it cost you get away from obnoxious people who don’t mean you any good.

Copyright © 2020 Sherry Grant

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The topic today is when you are fed up being a doormat and a people pleaser. If you are a people pleaser that basically means you constantly go out of your way trying to figure out ways to make everyone around you happy to your own detriment. People pleasers and doormats do what they do for others no matter how inconvenient, illogical or agonizing it is; all because they don’t want to deal with anyone being unhappy with them. They want everyone to feel better, so they will go out of their way to make it happen for the people in their life. If you’re like this, you probably have a bunch of people around you underachieving and under functioning, waiting on you to fix everything. After all,…isn’t that what you’ve taught them?

Why would they do anything more than what they do if they know they don’t have to,.. especially considering the fact that you’re gonna come through and save the day.
That’s a doormat and people pleasers way.

Then there’s the other extreme. Self centered. Selfish. Never doing any acts of kindness for anyone else. Only interested in your life and what you like. What interest you. The opposite of a people pleaser is someone who is One track minded. All about Me, myself and I. So, the objective is to neither be a doormat or a self absorbed jerk. The real challenge if we are working to become the best possible version of ourselves,… is to find a balance between being a self defined person who’s, empathetic, considerate and loving of others but who also has boundaries and a clear understanding that you can’t save everyone.

That’s the only way we can find hope in making it through Monday and getting to FRIDAY!

The only way we can find hope in our days and enjoy our lives while still showing concern for others is Finding the strength and courage to unapologetically live our lives and love ourselves others without trying to prove a point. Unfortunately, People who spend their lives being people pleasers and doormats for others usually don’t want to,…..

But the real motivation behind their neurotic behavior usually stems from something that happened to them when they were growing up. Maybe they had a parent or sibling or someone who at one time or another they didn’t make happy. And because they didn’t do what that person wanted,… they got some really harsh feedback from it and they vowed they never wanted to experience that again. So now they approach all of their relationships being the peace maker. Being the one who solves everyone’s problems. Being the one who never says no. Because after all, who wants to get deal with the stress and anxiety that comes along with not making the people they love happy?

So this explains why they’ve become the family doormat. Or the work doormat. Or the people pleaser in the friend circle. That’s the one who always has to be the designated driver. The one who always has to pay for drinks. The one who always lets their family or spouse pick what they want to. Because they don’t want to deal with anyone being unhappy with them again.

This is really an issue of self esteem and the only hope for change is that you make the brave decision to speak up for yourself and stop meeting everyone else’s needs and ignoring your own. The hope for a better week, a better life,…. is to Stop neglecting yourself so everyone else around you is happy.

This is about you deciding that if the people around you can’t accept you for who you are, that’s ok. How they feel is not your responsibility.

There is hope for you having a great week. But you need to reintroduce yourself to the people in your life. This time as The one who is not everyone’s doormat. And if they don’t like it,…you need to be okay with that. Let people think what they want about you. If you know you’re a good person and you like yourself and you do make it a point to be kind and loving to others, then rest in that. If they don’t like the fact that you said no to them. Or no to their disrespect and dishonor of you being you,…that’s fine too. Let them get mad. Let them talk about you and do whatever they want. You are not a doormat.

You know who are and you will no longer make it your job to respond to the guilt and negativity and manipulation of people who expect you to fit into their box.