i'm not mad. i'm a writer.

Don’t expect a clown to come without the circus.

I asked a very not well known gospel artist to be in my first play. And the reason I asked was because I liked their music. They were good. But not as good as they handled me. Lol. Long story short, they turned me down. And it’s not like they had a legitimate reason. Now their schedule is always open. No one is booking them. As a matter of fact, they didn’t even turn me down. Actually they just didn’t even have the decency to reply which is probably the most insulting response a person can give you.

Well,… anyhoo. I moved on. This was back in 2000 and believe it or not the group Destiny’s Child was huge then. Some real life clowns aka haters try to diminish who they were as far as their fame back then, well mainly because they said yes to being in my show. You gotta love the passive aggressive invalidations some people try make to belittle you and discredit you. My point is – Destiny’s Child was big even then. They were regularly on MTV and main stages back in 2000 and believe it or not, when I reached out and asked them to be in my first play. They gladly said yes and treated me so nice. It was a pleasure working with them.

The irony is, some of the most conflicted in their identity will look at opportunities given by people they have little to no respect for and pass on them or do them with this attitude like they’re doing someone a favor. That’s your prerogative. I’ve been dissed by much better than some of the no name people who have no audience and no ticket selling power who act like my offers are not worthy or impressive enough for them. I make it a practice of mine to treat the people I work with well. And many if they’re honest will say they have come to my small production company and gotten treated better and paid better than the big name company’s they do their Stepin Fetchit act for.

It’s telling. So telling. The sad reality is that a lot of these people don’t have the integrity to ever really take off. Sadly, most of these superficial people have no clue who they are so they attach themselves to image rather than substance. It’s amazing how many broke people will turn down money and say yes to freebies. Especially if they get to hang around people who don’t respect them. Makes you wonder if people are more concerned with their social identity than they should be?

I am determined to keep pursuing relationships with people who are committed to authenticity. The real take off comes when you stop being an opportunist and handle people with dignity and respect no matter what you think they can do for you.

At the end of the day, if you wanna be a clown, be prepared to get treated like one. There’s no level up for low lives. This is true for all relationships. When you bring much to the table, don’t let anyone discredit you. It’s toxic to try and downplay what a person has done for you and been to you because they’re not famous. Don’t be a clown unless you wanna be treated like one.

Copyright © Sherry Grant 2020

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