If a person wants to do something, nine times out of ten, they will. They’ll make time for whatever they want. They’ll find the money for whatever they want. They’ll make the changes they need to get what they want. That is if they want it bad enough. The point I’m making is, if you genuinely want something bad enough, you’ll do whatever it takes to try to get it. You know, you’ll stop at nothing to get something that you actually value. You’ll even stop doing things that stand between you getting what you want. And even though it’s not that easy to do, you will do all you can to try.
What I’m noticing more than ever these days is people are just NOT trying. They’re saying they are, but we all know when someone is putting forth the effort and when they’re not. What’s that old saying “Where there’s a will there’s a way.” It’s really true. Even when you consider that it’s almost a brand new year. What’s stopping you from your transformation? See, anything you say you want to work on is within your reach. The real question is WHAT RADICAL CHANGES ARE YOU STILL UNWILLING TO MAKE TO SEE A NEW REALITY?
Who needs to go? What mentalities in you need to go in the trash? Who’s in your ear and what are they saying that’s making you comfortable in your mess? I remember when my oldest kid was a toddler. All of a sudden, he started becoming agitated and uncomfortable with a soiled pamper. Whereas before, a pamper full of crap didn’t bother him, now he was not okay with it. His face would express discomfort and uneasiness. He would walk funny and aggressively do things to get that pamper off of him. That’s when I made the courageous decision to stay in the house the entire weekend and get him into big boy pants and out of pampers. I realized it was going to be a job. To get him out of this habit was going to require some new systems and regimens. The same is true for you. You can’t expect to change a crappy life and keep doing what you’ve always done. What needs to change for you to experience a new life, maybe not free of crap, but at least it won’t be on you?
After an entire weekend in the house filled with victories and defeats, it worked. In three days my kid got it. He figured out in 72 hours that if he went to the potty, he wouldn’t have to walk around with crap on him anymore. Preach!
I draw my advice for my real life coachable friends from this lesson with my kid back almost 30 years ago. If you don’t want to walk around smelling, feeling and carrying your crap, learn where to drop it off and keep it moving.
Develop a daily discipline that keeps you from ever getting comfortable living in mess another day. But, if you want to rationalize carrying your mess around with you, that’s your decision. But those of you who are sick of being the toxic one who’s always in the same drama, chaotic relationships and mess, do something different. Change yourself. What a concept.
If you don’t change yourself, you will constantly be at the mercy of other people. You’ll be sitting around uncomfortable waiting for “them” to come and clean you up. Aren’t you too old for that? You’re way too old to be taking a dump on yourself and expecting the people in your life to rescue you or better yet pretend they don’t smell it.
Quit stinking up the atmosphere with your crap. This is the beginning of a new weekend. Stay in the house and work on you instead of going around everyone with your smelly circumstances pretending as if you don’t have a load of crap on you. Get yourself together and when the weekend is over, hopefully you will have a better strategy when it comes to getting closer to your life goals. At least at the end of 72 hours, I hope you will have figured out how to change yourself.
Copyright ©️ Sherry Grant 2019
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One thought on “you can’t want change and won’t change”
A Change Must take Place. Or you will be a retard or disfunctional person. I will not be either. Great Bog