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The average coach seat on an airplane is crouchy as my 17 year old would say. That just means it’s super uncomfortable, unpleasant and awkward to be cramped up in such tight spot for hours. And to make matters worse they pin you up so close to strange people who you don’t necessarily want to share such an intimate space with. But, if you want to get to your destination you will sit down and cooperate so you can take off and get to your destination! After all, isn’t it silly to waste a bunch of emotional energy focusing on the parts of the trip you don’t necessarily enjoy when the whole point is moving forward not being a diva about how you get there. Why not spend your time getting excited about the fact that you’re going somewhere great rather than being annoyed about everything along the way!?

It made me think how much attention we give to nonsense, like the seat we sit in. This attitude spills over into our daily lives too. We obsess over who our office mates are going to be, instead of thanking God we have a job. We sit around and become anxious about who the usher sits us next to in church, or the movies, who our neighbors are going to be. We let all kind of thoughts and questions control our minds. Will we like them? Will they like us? Will we be comfortable with them?? Will they be comfortable with us? Even when it comes down to the family members we find ourselves doing life with, we allow them and their issues to dominate our lives and that’s not good for our mental health. We become so consumed with trivial matters like where we live, what we drive, what we wear, what we eat,… it’s nonstop, the soundtrack that plays in our head. Womp, Womp, Womp! We can’t even focus on the real reason we’re on this flight. Can I remind you it’s not about luxurious living! It’s not all about having super perfect conditions, or even liking everyone we sit next to, but our existence is supposed to be centered around accomplishing something significant. So what if everything is perfect and meets your grandiose standards of comfort and luxury?? After that’s what’s next? Throw in some vacations, shopping and dinners out with friends. Is that all you think your life is about? No!!! This flight is not about accumulating stuff! As a matter of fact, this flight called life is about you making a significant contribution to the world!

It’s about you letting go of your need for anything trivial and superficial and finally tapping into your real life purpose. Go right ahead and get you a husband or a wife and a kid or two. Buy a house and your dream car, but I need you to understand that’s not the real purpose of your existence! Your purpose is not attached to people or things. Even the fact that you were born alone and die by yourself is a reminder of that. Your purpose is not wrapped up in someone else’s identity, even your spouse has their own brain. That just lets us know everyone is responsible for how they think and what they do with their life. Life after we accumulate stuff is really all about being the answer to an problem that will ultimately help heal and transform the world. I’m sure we can all agree that this is a cold world. Someone has to figure out ways to change that. That someone is you and me. And I’m writing this today to tell you that until you tap into your passion for whatever that is, I’m afraid your comfortable luxurious living is only going to distract you even the more. It’s only going to lull you into an even more empty sense of satisfaction where you’ll still feel a void until you create a solution to something bigger than you. The bottom line is that you need to get off of this bandwagon of needing to keep up with The Jones’s and accumulate a bunch of stuff. Stop begging for validation from the people around you. Grow up. You’re not on this flight to make people jealous of your Instagram page. Who cares how many shoes, belts and handbags you collect? Are you happy though? Material things can’t fill a void in you. No wonder so many people in this shallow world we live in are depressed! They’re missing the point.

This world needs more people who are enthusiastic about contributing to the communities they’re a part of. I mean significantly contributing. Not just volunteering like a volunteer. Not this obligatory help we give to things we say we’re a part of, but sincerely giving back and inspiring others to create and think bigger than the average person. Be honest, admit it; the average person is only concerned about making sure they have their needs met. That “God bless the child who’s got his own” mindset is the American mentality that perpetuates greed, jealousy, selfishness, competition and comparison. It’s a sick world. And don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying you need to go start a shelter in your home or a soup kitchen or pantry in order to give back. That’s not necessarily helping people become independent and self sufficient. We have enough programs that enable people to become dependent on someone else and never take responsibility to care of themselves. The point is we ought to be mentoring people so they can mentor people. We should be challenging the people in our lives so they can do the same for someone else. All I’m saying is that all of us should be doing something that takes the attention off us. We should be doing something to elevate the community we live in. There’s something you do almost effortlessly that can help change the world. When I say you do what you do effortlessly it doesn’t mean you can approach anything attached to your purpose without effort, enthusiasm, excellence, integrity and purpose. What I am saying is, the things you do well don’t come as easy for anyone else. That’s how you know it’s what you were born to do!

To my real life coachable friends – get on your way to purpose and stop overcomplicating everything.

Think about the things you think about. Rate them based on the level of priority and importance you really need to be giving them. If they’re really simple, unimportant trivial things you’re placing too much emphasis on, remove them from your list of priorities.

Put your priorities on paper and don’t allow anything or anyone to distract you from doing what you said is important to your purpose. If it’s not advancing you in your life goals, don’t do it. Stay focused and watch your life become more purpose driven than ever.

Copyright ©️ Sherry Grant 2019

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2 thoughts on “Guilty of Overcomplicating Things?

  1. Danielle Whitehead says:

    Love love love this!! Feels like it was right in time! Thanks for sharing

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  2. Muriel Johnson says:

    Bravo well said. I had been thinking we come into this world alone and with nothing. And we leave again the same way. But I thank God my mind and heart is to do my Purpose Big!:Will Share. Thanks for the Word

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