If you give a kid some money and tell them to take a trip, nine times out of ten, they won’t get very far. Our ability to take off in life has a lot to do with our level of personal leadership, experience, empowerment, independence and maturity. Made me realize a lot of people aren’t going anywhere because they have no personal leadership skills. They haven’t even matured enough to be able to decide small issues let alone the big details of life on their own. Basically a lot of people are not to a place of being well defined as individuals as of yet. See, if you’re still worried about what people will think about you, you’re not ready to go anywhere great yet. People will always have an opinion about your life no matter what you do. But if your sole purpose is to please anyone except God, you’re not ready. Most of the opinions of others will almost always be wrapped up in an agenda that serves them in some way. Most of your “peeps” are along for the ride with you frankly for what and how they can benefit from you. You think most of these people around you genuinely love you? Ha! Most people don’t love themselves. Majority of the people in your life don’t want you to leave them because you’re helping them in some way the longer you stay where you are. Did you know staying stagnant suits some people personally? Your lack of take off makes them feel better about their insecurities and lack of self esteem! Tell the truth, for your own good; most of the people around you are your biggest hindrance to going places. Most of us can’t even go on a vacation unless we make accommodations for our dog. Seriously, it’s hard to go somewhere different even when you consider your pets and their comfort. Now imagine the level of impact your relationships with people are to your ascent. This is really out of hand for some of you. Always worried about whether your parents will approve of your next move and will you have their approval, support and encouragement? Sad at your age. To still need the validation of people who you ought to respect as your peers. After all, you’re all adults. You’re not a child anymore. I mean are you?
See, this lack of self identity is why a lot of you haven’t moved to the place you really dream of going. You’re still sitting around letting people control you. You still are allowing the proverbial boogie monster of life aka fear dominate your life. Thinking about the what if’s and the worse case scenarios all the time. No wonder you’re self medicating now. You’re not reading this by accident. You are going places if you get liberated in your mentality. The way you’ve been carrying things is no way for someone with all your potential. You can still go far in life but you’ve got to change that thought life of yours. Your personal meditations always have to do with image and people pleasing. You can’t continue on this path. Change your mindset. See, the average person thinks about 50,000 thoughts a day. At least 70% of those thoughts are on autopilot, meaning your subconscious is in control. And the only reason your subconscious has taken over is because what you do and how you think is so predictable. So if you ever want to change the trajectory of your life, work on your thought life. Change! Change requires you doing some major work. Work on your environment and how you handle things. You need an overhaul. This is an internal work and so many people aren’t brave enough to do this. But you are! Most people aren’t like you. They’re so programmed by their families of origin they can’t break free and THINK FOR THEMSELVES. Sad, but that’s what makes you so much like a kid in your mentality. When you can’t go anywhere or do anything without the consent, approval or validation of others, that means you’re still a minor.
Minor thinking can’t get you major results!!! You want great, stop thinking so low. You want big, stop downplaying your dreams and start thinking like someone who has permission to soar. Now go! The sky is the limit! You are in charge of the rest of this trip. Where you go and how far you take it is up to you. I’m excited to see where you end up now that you’ve decided your life is in your hands. Anything else gotta go! Even if it’s your toxic ways.
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