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On any given day when you’re traveling on this flight called life, you’ll see people dealing with their issues. Sometimes you want to stop and help them, other times you realize what they need help with is above your skill set. The point I’m making is, you’ll never get to your destination if you’re not focused enough to prioritize what’s your responsibility and what’s not. If you keep stopping trying to assist everyone you see who’s dealing with a problem, you’ll look up and see that you’ve missed out on the opportunity to live your own life to the fullest.

As I sat and enjoyed my morning cup of joy, it made me ponder how many of us are distracted by things that are none of our business. Like seriously, you have a plate of your own and instead of focusing on your plate, you’re obsessed with trying to cut up everyone else’s food and feed them. By the time you get to eat, your food is cold or no longer appetizing. This is a picture of a person who’s too busy taking on the concerns of others to do what they need to do to take flight. Can I tell you that what you’re doing is not a good idea?!

There was a story in the Bible about this dude name Moses who was the “leader” of a group of rude, unthankful, double minded people. He was sincerely trying his best to do his job well but they were not good for his mental health. They were only concerned with their needs. Night and day, day and night they bombarded Moses with their problems and as long as he made himself available they kept it coming. Finally, Moses’ stepfather Jethro showed up and observed this toxic relationship he had with his “people” and said this is not good for your mental health. He basically told them they were going to be the cause of him losing his mind. He went on to say at the rate you’re going, you’re going to burn yourself out. This is sooo important for my real life coachable friends to catch. Don’t let responsibilities that don’t belong to you put you in a position where you crash and burn. Sure, you have a big heart and you love to help people. The harsh reality is you can’t help everyone and neglect yourself. At the end of the day, you’re no good to anyone if you’re burned out and stressed out.

Take a moment today to write down the things you’re responsible for and the things you are not responsible for. I can guarantee you that concerning yourself with the emotional well being of another person is not your job. Don’t worry about whether people like you or anything like that. Their opinion of you is not your business. Get on with your life and stay focused on your take off. It’s not selfish. It’s self care. You’re no good to anyone if you’re drained and exhausted from helping other people all the time. Today is the day for you to do something for yourself. Read a book, take a nap, go on a hike or jump in the pool. Watch a movie, go out to eat, do something you like. Whatever you do, make sure it’s within the realm of your responsibility. This flight called life is challenging enough. Don’t complicate it trying to be the savior of your dysfunctional family or your ratchet friend circle. Save yourself from the unnecessary drama and the toxic demands of impossible people. Your take off is awaiting you. Don’t waste another day taking on tasks and assignments that are not your responsibility. It will get done. Just make sure it’s not done by you. Dive into your purpose and do all you can to make this flight an inspirational experience for everyone aboard.

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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6 thoughts on “Don’t Crash & Burn

  1. mwaters18 says:

    Wow this said alot! Can’t help everyone. Focus on what’s actually my responsibility, and live my life. 👏🏿 Thanks for sharing!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thanks for reading my blog!!! ✈️✈️


  2. Danielle Whitehead says:

    (Turns whole blog yellow with highlighter) This one had me yelling as soon as I started reading it!

    This part tho 👌🏼 “Sometimes you want to stop and help them, other times you realize what they need help with is above your skill set.”
    YES!! I’d love to help but its above me now

    Liked by 1 person

    1. The whole page gets the highlighter! I promise you, no one give me feedback like you! You’re going places!!! ✈️✈️✈️♥️


  3. Muriel Johnson says:

    Praying always that Peace is what I see. Made up Mind to keep it. No distractions

    Liked by 1 person

    1. No Distractions!!!!!! That’s a great mindset to get you to your next destination!!!! Thanks for reading my blog post and commenting!!! I am humbled to get feedback from you 🤗✈️✈️✈️✈️✈️


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