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You ever miss a flight?

Yesterday, my son Chris missed his flight back to California and ended up having a full day of waiting. The wonderful part of the missed flight is Chris has an amazing inner quality where he has learned to masterfully maximize and navigate through every situation he finds himself in; even the good, the bad and the ugly. While waiting, he got some needed work done, made a lot of important phone calls and even managed to sneak away from the airport to have a meal with his mom, ME! 🤗

This got me to thinking about how even missed flights aka missed opportunities are really just blessings in disguise meant for us to pause, exhale, reset and learn some much needed lessons. Waiting, actually opens up the door for those of us who are going places to still soar! See, when your mentality is so focused on your purpose and the divine plan for your life and your destiny; no matter what the snafu, you find in it that you are still resilient enough to make something wonderful even out of a missed flight. This is how a person learns how ready and qualified they really are for the next level. This is when you miss an opportunity and as a result of that you find out that you’re NOT going to have an emotional breakdown, but instead you are learning to take responsibility for what you did to miss it and moving forward. I’ve observed that too many people who want to go places stay stuck on the proverbial ground of life, constantly complaining and blaming their missed flights on everyone else. When you stay putting your life and future in the hands of everyone else, you can be assured to never get off the landing strip of life. You’ll stay watching other people take off. People who didn’t miss their flights like you did this time. One of the wisest things you can do is study the habits of people who never miss their flights and do what they do. Most people who never miss their flights make intentional efforts to get to the airport early, while those who stay missing their flights are always pushing the envelope and testing the limits. Let’s be honest, you know traffic is not reliable and more than likely you can expect the unexpected when you’re leaving out the door at the last minute. So, if you’re really trying to get on your flight, remember the rules of Murphy’s law and act accordingly.

Murphy’s Law; A rule that states, “If something can go wrong, it will.”

Now I know this is not the most positive way to approach life and probably not what you expected to hear from me. Of course you expect me to tell you to be positive and hopeful and optimistic, and while that’s still true; I really do want you to be realistic. After all, don’t forget, I am the realest life coach, and in real life, you can be as optimistic and positive as you want

The reality is life is almost always unpredictable.

So, when you’re trying to go places, understand that you will be traveling alongside people who don’t have the same mindset as someone as mentally, emotionally and spiritually WOKE as you. So my advice to you who don’t want to keep missing your flights is simple;

1. Don’t sleep your “flight” (life) away

I hate to get all Old Testament on you this morning, but I can’t help it. There is this great scripture in Proverbs 20:13 that even if you’re not a Christian it will help you and keep you lovers of sleep from missing out on a lot of opportunities if you’ll hear it for what it says. “If you love sleep, you will end in poverty. Keep your eyes open, and there will be plenty to eat!”

While I’m not telling you to never get any sleep, some of you who have great potential love sleep entirely too much. Sure, sleep is necessary and required for every human being to be able to successfully handle life physically and psychologically. But what I am saying to you is don’t sleep your “flight” away by making sleep, rest and even entertainment and recreation your main focus. Some people want to be great, but all they do is look for ways to slumber and stay away from doing things that push them ahead and , move them towards transformation and maturity. If you’re elevating and evolving you should be someone who loves to read, write, create, work, study, and learn much more than you love sleeping, resting and watching tv. The bottom line is, don’t spend more time sleeping than you do taking flight in life.

2. Stop Cutting it Close

If you’re ever going to get “there,” you should discipline yourself to be more intentional about every place you go and every decision you make. No more of that silly “fly by the seat of your pants” way of thinking.

To ‘fly by the seat of your pants’ is to decide a course of action as you go along, (playing it by ear) using your own initiative and perceptions rather than a predetermined plan or mechanical aids.

Too many people who want to take off into greater pursuits live by this method of operation and it’s not a good idea because it’s in opposition of your take off in life. While your talent, charismatic personality, good looks, popularity and intellect get you by in most cases; imagine how much a better experience and outcome you would have on this journey if you were not always winging it and relying on “luck” or prayer alone to get you by. Faith without works is dead! Listen, this even goes down to deciding what you’re going to wear everyday, which can actually take up a lot of your time and ruin your chances of making your flights. Remember when you were a kid? Your mom laid your clothes out the night before. There is such a sense of calm and organization that takes over your mind and day when you begin to purposely plan what you’re going to wear and where you’re headed for the day. Even when you know what you’re going to be eating throughout the day it will dramatically improve your life, health and finances. Unplanned purchases and consuming foods that you happen to see, literally create spur of the moment, impromptu decisions which lead us to experiencing added chaos into a life that’s already full of stress and anxiety.

3. Be intentional and take more control of your life

Stop putting your life and it’s outcome in the hands of others. Blaming your spouse the Uber driver, your kids or traffic for making you miss your flight is delusional. Think about it, you are the one who paid for the ticket to get there; therefore you are in charge of getting you to your final destination. This life is yours to live. If the quality of your life is poor, you are responsible. If the quality is good, you’re responsible as well. Change your mentality from always being a victim. No one is leaving you; you are leaving yourself. Living your life to the fullest means making wise decisions that take you higher and ensure that you are not left stuck on the ground saying DARN IT! I MISSED MY FLIGHT AGAIN!

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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When it comes to traveling and experiencing new places; a lot of people have a great deal of concern about whether or not they’ll be able to get around because of the language barriers in front of them. If you’re someone who wants to see the world, one of the first realities is; everyone is not going to speak your language (insert can I get an amen).

This got me to thinking this morning about how difficult it is for a lot of people to grow and become the best possible person they can be; simply based on their lack of understanding when it comes to other people. Most relationship problems boil down to communication issues also known as language barriers. Too many people are trying to relate to each other from two completely different places and lack the ability to understand what the other person is trying to say. What’s even worse than not understanding the person you’re in a relationship with, is not trying to understand them. Now let me pause and say it’s no use in expecting people to understand you when you don’t know how to communicate at all. Good communication skills are imperative for healthy relationships to exist. If you are of the mentality that the people in your life should be so in tune with you that you don’t have to speak up and say what’s on your heart; then you my friend are completely delusional and you will have to suffer with the reality that you are the one who is ruining your chances of having success in regards to quality people in your life. Quality people will grow tired of drama queens and kings who want people to put up with their head games day in and day out. Listen, you will wear yourself out along with every good person who comes in your life if you think people will live under constant warfare of this kind. It’s seriously draining and just too much. I’m trying to tell you that no matter how good looking or successful you think you are; no one wants to deal with a person who doesn’t know how to communicate properly. If as of today, you’ve convinced yourself to think this kind of mindset is acceptable, I guarantee you at some point in your future (sooner than later) you will come to grips with the fact that you have alienated exceptional people from your life because you play too many mind games. You will be left alone and will have to deal with the reality that you have nothing but a bunch of failed relationships as a reminder that you’re not getting it. This kind of behavior is a problem and a sign that there is a huge language barrier when it comes to you and people who are trying to go places. Someone with a great future can’t be tied to some head case who refuses to accept that not everyone speaks passive aggressive. See, some people are not out here relying on the silent treatment to make points to the people around them. There are people who are genuinely going places in life and no matter how much they love you, the last thing they need to be tied to are people who always want to play silly games. People who are growing and maturing need people who know how to “use their words” as we say to the children when they’re crying about something they want when they’re in preschool.

People who are going places are those who are looking for relationships with grown ups who aren’t into being manipulative and dramatic. There is nothing more aggravating than dealing with an individual who looks like an adult but acts like a 8 year old. Sadly, this is a humongous language barrier that a lot of successful people who are trying to take off in life are having to deal with in their relationships. This kind of pathological thinking can infect and effect family, romantic and business relationships; because all of these connections require maturity and a desire to be reasonable. People going somewhere in life need to be linked up with likeminded individuals who are willing to make the effort to try and understand what the other person is trying to say.

The sad truth is a lot of people don’t understand each other and simply aren’t willing to do what it takes to get an understanding. So, even when two people don’t quite get what the other person is trying to verbally communicate, many resort to another way of expressing themselves called body language and gestures. A lot of people love to throw off and express what’s going on in their heart and mind by using body language also known as caveman talk. See, some people use caveman talk because it’s easy and even if you don’t understand the words that are coming out of my mouth, you can certainly understand the cues I’m sending you physically and the attitude in which I do it. This is how the unskilled in speech pretty much get all of their ideas and feelings across to those who they often don’t think “get” what they’re trying to say. See, you know when you’re talking to someone and they’re in agreement with you because they normally respond by smiling or nodding. But when the person you’re speaking with is not receiving what you’re saying, they often frown, avoid eye contact,..you know the caveman techniques. Don’t act like you don’t. We all know what we are doing when we’re sitting there rolling our eyes, twisting our faces and grunting and groaning when someone is trying to talk to us about something we don’t want to hear. You know you’re sending a strong message to the person you’re supposedly “communicating” with.

Not opening your mouth and working to get past the language barriers you’re having with another person is the highest form of ignorance and speaks to a person’s immaturity and lack of desire to take off and ascend. Sending out subliminal messages and never confronting a person about how you really and truly feel can only lead to even more hostility, confusion and misunderstandings.

So here’s my advice today for all of you who are going places. First, work on improving your communication skills and your capacity to embrace and understand other people who don’t think and operate like you. Change your perspective when it comes to thinking that your way of doing things and seeing things is the only way that exists. Be mindful that a lot of people have been taught different than you have and realize that different is just differently. Just because someone speaks another language or has different goals or ideas than you, they shouldn’t be looked down upon. Someone not too long ago in a joking way called me ghetto. My first reaction was to be offended, but what harm could they have meant? It was a joke after all. Or was it? Anyway, I quickly recovered and laughed. I laughed because that probably was their true heart about me and no matter what I’ve done to help them soar, I understand I can’t change how they perceive me. I laughed because maybe I am ghetto to them. But, what if that person just doesn’t speak my language? At the end of the day, other people’s assumptions about who you are can only be based on their limited perspective. I laughed really hard because in all honesty, I helped that person a great deal in getting to where they are today. So if I’m ghetto, what are they? LOL. The lesson from all of this is, some people will place barriers between themselves and others and once that happens they ultimately limit how far that relationship can go from that moment on. O well, you can’t soar with everyone; especially someone who thinks they’re better than you. There’s a popular quote and I’m not sure who said it but it goes;

“The greatest distance between two people is misunderstanding.”

To all my coachable friends, Whatever you do, try to understand others. And when you humble yourself and approach people with that mentality, I’m sure you’re soon headed for a clear take off in life!

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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Last week, WOW airlines abruptly ceased operations and canceled all their flights leaving their passengers stranded on both sides of the Atlantic. The airline announced the sudden closure in a statement posted to it’s website on Thursday. It advised passengers to book new flights on other airlines and said some may be eligible for compensation.

Now that’s a real WOW isn’t it?!

The fact that they literally left more than 1,000 passengers hanging is shocking to say the least. The head of the company released a statement saying, “I’m very sorry about this as these are people who have supported us. I’m disappointed not to honor our commitments.”

The saddest part about this whole story is one reoccurring theme that’s probably happened or happening in all of our lives. It’s the same narrative of this airline that took people on a trip that they weren’t able to bring them back from. This got me to wondering why so many people lack the integrity to stay true to their commitments? Why are we constantly making commitments and then leaving people stranded?

Stranded- to leave (someone) without the means to move from somewhere.

And wait,…just hold it right there! Before you get all judgmental about what WOW did to their passengers; be honest with yourself and think back on all the times you’ve been guilty of doing the same thing to people in your own journey. Think about all the passengers you’ve left hanging in your relationships and day to day interactions. This got me to thinking about times where I’ve personally for whatever “good” reason I had, taken people places and left them stranded in mid air because I didn’t have the emotional and spiritual resources within to be able to carry them the distance. The truth is, we have all issued some “wolf tickets” in our own lives. Wolf tickets are promises we make to others where we oversell what we have to offer knowing good and well we don’t completely plan on doing what we said. This kind of stuff will inevitably leave the people we’re dealing with shocked and disappointed in the end. And let’s say our initial intentions were good; it’s still wrong to hype up what we’re going to do if we have no real intentions of giving 100% regarding what we said we would. My question is, why would you sign up to be a leader if you’re not willing to go the distance to produce what leaders produce? Why would you sign up to be a husband or a wife if your intentions are to be selfish and stay stubborn only wanting to do things your way!? It’s like selling a wolf ticket, or better yet a WOW ticket. WOW tickets are when you essentially leave another person shocked in a bad way because you said one thing in word, but your actions leave them stuck and stranded. It’s never a good feeling to be left stranded.

Sure, there are times where we all really did plan on taking whatever we committed to all the way, but the work and investment that goes along with carrying some people is sometimes more than we anticipated. Truthfully, some people are special cases, absolutely overwhelming and unreasonable. We have all encountered people on this journey that are just way too much.

So what does a person who’s going somewhere in life do when you find yourself dealing with someone who makes it impossible for you to honor your commitments?

First, let’s be clear about what someone “going somewhere” will never do no matter how unreasonable someone else is. Someone who’s going places won’t ever make excuses for being trifling! See, someone who’s fighting against their own elevation and promotion will mishandle the right people and devote their lives to investing in the wrong ones and that’s a major WOW. They will constantly take on people projects with those who aren’t interested in growing and changing for the better. Most of the time these kinds of daily interactions will in some odd way make them feel better about themselves. They will get some sort of a rush about always being the one who’s helping save their pitiful family and friends because somewhere in their warped mind; their extremely damaged and low self esteem is wrapped up in them having the upper hand. It’s the power they get from being the fixer and problem solver for everyone. They enjoy hanging out with people who are doing worse than them. The person who’s in conflict with their own take off will never openly express themselves and communicate how they feel like a grown up. Instead, they will typically say what they want by “acting” different, strange, weird and off. These people seriously lack the communication skills and maturity to speak up so they do things to try and make other people react to their foolishness. They have an extremely hard time having the conversations necessary to improve and resolve situations, so they resort to being passive aggressive and nice nasty. Because they often lack the courage or grace to be authentic and express themselves appropriately; they begin to use body language and defensiveness and distance to help make their point. This is sadly the strategy of those who can’t afford to finish what they started.

Anytime you’re in relationships with people who demonstrate such dishonor to your presence in their life, sooner than later they will sabotage things and run away what was once a blessing to them.

This is why it’s imperative for those of us going places to be realistic about what we are willing to offer others from the start. Don’t delude yourself into thinking you can carry on a healthy relationship with anyone committed to holding onto an unhealthy mentality. Be sure to admit you’re only willing to give of your time, love and all to people who are headed in the same direction as you. If you told someone you would be something,…live up to your commitment. If you signed up for an assignment DO IT WITH EXCELLENCE. Stop leaving people stranded. Stop issuing sorry statements. No one needs your sorriness.

Sure, there are times in my life where I’ve been guilty of selling WOW tickets; but as a growing adult we should all come to a place where we’re no longer willing to keep being sorry. While I’m not proud of the times in my past that I’ve been irresponsible and I’ve admittedly carried people half way, I realize I only left them them hanging because I overcommitted to them and under committed to myself. Thankfully, as of today I am proud to say I DON’T handle people or things that way anymore. My commitment as of now is strong in that the only WOW I want to hear from people regarding my impact in their life is “WOW, she helped me go places!”

My advice to all my coachable friends today is simple; Shock people with something other than wolf tickets, wow tickets, excuses, disappointment and I’m sorry. Stop leaving people stranded along the way. Sure up your commitments and make it so that the people who encounter you walk away saying WOW, that person is someone who’s truly going somewhere great!!

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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Because I’m someone who loves to fly and the theme of my blog is to inspire people who want to “go places,” I’m always reading about travel and airplanes and going somewhere new! Well, this morning while sipping on a nice cup of coffee (with a little cinnamon on top, yummy) I read an article that said something that sparked my thinking. The article said that food service on night flights can be delayed until the flight crew sees more people fall asleep. Interesting right? Well, wait until I tell you why!

The rationale behind them waiting for more people to fall asleep means less work for them to do! Wow! Absurd right? To think that people who are supposedly there to serve passengers and help make their flight as memorable, comfortable and enjoyable as possible are literally thinking of ways to gyp their customers out of what they paid for; ultimately so they don’t have to do a job they signed up for. It basically boils down to them cleverly thinking of ways to do as little work as possible for the same pay. How many of us do the same kind of crap to other people, but are appalled when it’s done to us? Where’s our integrity? Maybe it fell asleep as it relates to our entire culture. I’m just saying.

This immediately made me think about how this is the same ratchet thinking a lot of people have when it comes to their approach on their lives and everything they touch. Sadly, it seems like a lot of people have this same trifling, lazy mentality as these underachieving flight attendants. It’s almost appalling to think that people are so inwardly depraved and selfish by nature. It’s disheartening that there is so much dissonance in the hearts of those who will sign up for “service” and then not give it their best effort. This is a really disturbing mindset a lot of people seem to have that actually say they’re about “feeding” people and making their flight aka life better, all the while their hidden intentions are revealed because they can’t wait until more people “go to sleep!” They can’t wait until the people they’re supposed to be helping to go places get distracted doing something else. This truly speaks to a leader who is not what or who they say they are.

This made me put together a few questions for you to ask yourself. Like, how many people are around you with the same mentality as these wolves in sheeps clothing? And who are these imposters in your life? Are you one? How many people say they are somewhere to help, serve, assist, aid and support people or a cause and yet in their heart they are just sitting back calculating, plotting and planning ways to do as little as possible when it comes to actually helping others take flight. To me it’s very wicked and twisted conduct and I search my heart daily not to be a Dbag when it comes to my involvement in anything.

The flight attendants who sit back and wait for people to go to sleep so they can basically cheat passengers from getting a meal that’s owed them are nothing more than the same as disingenuous leaders and those who have something they can help sustain and grow people with, but instead they withhold it because taking time to do their job is going to take effort and fake people hate to put forth whatever actual effort it takes to do their job. They want to look like they’re nice and kind; but they never really produce anything. So are they really nice and kind? Or is it all just a show?

There’s a scripture in the Bible that spells it out and describes these kind of folk; it says they look good on the outside but their inward hearts are not right. That was just me paraphrasing, but you get the point. Another passage says they love to say a lot, but even their speech betrays them. You know people like that don’t you? Ever wasting time and never developing the people they’re supposed to develop. All they want to do is cover them up, keep them warm. These kind of people love watching their passengers aka family, friends, associates sleep. They get some kick out of covering up the people they should be teaching, training and serving, with blankets of excuses never confronting their bad behavior and challenging them to do better. Because for the people like the deceptive flight attendants, confronting the people in their lives in order to help them mature and change for the better is too hard. It’s just too much work. So they continually put to sleep the destructive issues they see in others and make accommodations for them to stay that way; because helping people get strong and doing anything beyond babying them requires pulling up your sleeves and actually doing some work. And these kind of helpers, don’t really want to help. In fact, they certainly don’t want to do what they’re assigned to do. They seemingly just want to wear the uniform and look the part. It’s a shame so many teachers, parents, aunties, uncles and leaders do the same foolishness as these irresponsible flight attendants; never assisting others in getting where they need to go. Could YOU really be the reason why your “peeps” never take off?

This also speaks to why a lot of people may even get to their destination but find themselves malnourished, starved and empty; unable to be effective when they “arrive.” If it’s your job to feed people, to provide substance and nourishment and fuel to their lives, you can’t be more focused on your comfort than their growth. Those who give their lives to serving others have got to be empty of ego, selfishness and hypocrisy. Those of us who step up and take on work in the area of helping others take flight have got to do a heart check daily, because people trying to take flight need sincere people in their corner who really want to help them to go somewhere; and when they arrive hopefully they have been poured into enough that they have the strength and supply to continue going higher even after you finish doing your part.

People deserve to be served by those who are sincere about feeding them; not by people in uniform who are waiting for them to fall asleep.

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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Did you know that American Airlines has a rule that says that they can refuse to carry a passenger (and pull him or her off the plane) if the person has “an offensive odor.”

Ha!

It’s true. No stinky passengers on their planes! (insert praise break cause that’s a real word). This got me to thinking about how we should all have the same policy in our own lives. We should unashamedly say that no one with an offensive odor when it comes to our success and greatness is allowed in our space, nor will we carry them! It’s probably one of the most incredibly wise decisions you and I could ever make and we could start today. I’m saying we all need to have policy and procedure in place in our lives where we quickly remove anyone whose mindset, attitude and intentions are foul and offensive to our elevation, even ourselves if need be. In other words, break up with your egotistical way of thinking. We all need to kick off anyone with a vision and agenda that’s not in alignment with where we are headed on this journey called life. Kick off naysayers and small mindedness. Kick off “The I can’t and I’m not enough way of thinking”. Kick off this perfectionist mentality that keeps you from ever doing anything except talk. Kick off friends that help you stay helpless. See, if you are honest with yourself, think about how much frustration, drama, confusion and conflict would be eliminated from our lives and how much higher we would go if we didn’t have to waste time and energy putting up with knucklehead, stiff neck, stubborn people with stinky attitudes, distorted facial expressions and disrespectful body language along the way. Historically, we’ve been taught to look past people’s dysfunction and tolerate their toxic behavior. We’ve been taught to “be the bigger person” while obnoxious idiots have kept us from going somewhere great. Many of us have not spoken up and said what was really in our hearts for fear of being called “emotional,” meanwhile we have been robbed of our identity. We have not been in places that encourage us to be our authentic self. Instead we have been told to accommodate the well meaning frauds in our life while they stay unable to make strides towards any of their goals either. Sadly, we’ve been conditioned to be tolerant and polite and to put up with crap we know we don’t sincerely agree with. We’ve looked for validation from the unvalidated. We’ve surrounded ourselves with cowardly people who sweep the actions of the other poisonous people around us under the rug. We’ve had to silently watch stinky people around us consistently make excuses for stuff that we know has been harmful to our ascent.

So at this point, this no stinky passengers on board policy is so where I am in life. No longer will I allow the people who rationalize and pardon pathological ineffectiveness, immaturity and carelessness with statements like “they really don’t mean any harm.” For those like me who are determined to get “there,” we will not allow the people who speak the type of language that stinks up the atmosphere to keep us stuck on a level we have grown beyond. See, smelling bad and being okay with it is expected when you’re a child; but when you grow up, you’re supposed to take care of yourself and spend time to see to it that your scent is not one that runs people away. What kind of people is your scent attracting?

At the end of the day, people going places have got to guard against being around those whose mindsets attract flies. Remember, flies are attracted to a scent too. We must be a lot more selective about who we allow to go places with us and we should demand that people around us are those who have a backbone and the guts to speak up to whatever is offensive to everyone getting somewhere incredible and new. Truth is, I know that there have been times where I’ve allowed myself to be hindered and slowed down by people with smelly thinking; but one day I said enough is enough! The sad part about all of this is if you stay in a stinky environment long enough it will cease to stink from your perspective anymore. Could it actually be that everyone outside of your circle can smell the stench of what you’ve become comfortable taking in; that is everyone except you and your crew.

Today, I challenge you to do some spring cleaning and check the smell of what you’re trying to pack and carry along with you on this journey. Check the people around you and make sure you’re not moving about with stinky people in your circle. Fact of the matter is, if you hang around 4 stinky people, more than likely you’re probably the 5th stinky one!

Lastly, check yourself. The problem may not be everyone else around you. It could be that you stink and you definitely would not be allowed to fly on any aircraft that had high standards smelling like that!

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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Some airlines are known for their cheap fares and most people generally have a low level of respect for these affordable airlines. Ironically the same “critics” of cheap airlines will still book a flight and hop on board something they have absolutely no respect for!

This got me to thinking about how many people are supposedly “on board” with causes, movements and people that they have no respect for. Basically it’s just like the cheap airlines; you’re only with them because that’s all you can afford (insert well). This is the typical way of thinking in this opportunity driven culture today. People will ride on your coat tails for as long as it benefits them, and as soon as a better option presents itself, they are straight out the door. There is such an animalistic approach to relationships these days and I’m really wondering why so many people ignore the obvious signs when they know they’re dealing with an opportunist. People will literally link up with you and get your contacts, resources, information and your wisdom only so they can do what you do. Some people come to you because they know being connected to you affords them the opportunity to go places they know they would have never gone without you. Unfortunately, as soon as they “arrive” they will act like you never existed. In my life, there have been some people who I’ve given short cuts to get to places where it’s taken me years to get to. And just like the affordable priced airline, these same people don’t seem to value or appreciate what’s blessed their life. They won’t pay you for helping them take off, but they have no problem doing that for someone else they respect. Sadly, if it had not been for your favor they would have never made it into certain rooms. They would have never had the confidence or skills to express themselves if not for your mentorship or guidance.

Recently, we took a quick trip to visit my parents and booked tickets on a well known affordable airline. The tickets came in total to $309.00 round trip for three adults. WOW! That’s super cheap!! Of course you have to pay for your bags additionally on that flight. But what kind of a spoiled, entitled brat would I be to expect the airline to take an extra loss just so I can bring my bags too! This made me think even deeper about how we have people riding off of our reputations, connections and favor who have the nerve to invest so little in us and yet they still complain about helping to support what in the grand scheme of things is only going to help them in the long run. How insane is it for me to fly for almost nothing on these people’s plane and then grumble and fuss because I want to carry my baggage along too. It’s shameful the way we think! We want so much for so little.

My advice today for the coachable is simple;

Excuse yourself from any alliances that dishonor your worth. If people can’t see the treasure you are, let them know your significance is not up for negotiations. Don’t make any accommodations for people who want to treat you less than you deserve. The problem with selling yourself at a bargain rate is you’ll attract a clientele of deadbeats who can’t see your worth because their entire perspective is based upon how they see themselves. To a person who views their worth from the perspective of an underdog, downtrodden and rejected place; to them it’s going to be impossible to get anywhere because their vision of self is so warped. The way people see you is often a reflection of how they see themselves; so doing life with these kind of people is frustrating for someone going places. Do yourself a favor, leave them to someone else. Don’t make cheap people your project unless you want to stay on the ground.

When you are determined to go places one of the biggest challenges is deciding who your audience should be. Is that really the crowd you want to market your excellence to? Take your time and really ponder whether you want to work hard to sell a $20 ticket to someone who bemoans buying it, but will pay hundreds of dollars with ease to see something not even as good. Make sure you stop looking for approval from people who don’t approve of themselves. When you start seeing your worth, you’ll find it harder to stay around people who don’t.

Make up in your mind today that you will no longer try to make common people believe in your greatness. The truth is greatness always recognizes greatness. On the other hand, small minded people love to diminish others because that’s the way they feel inside about themselves. If you’re helping people to go places, do everything you do in excellence. Even if right now you’re known for selling what you have to offer for less than it’s worth; be assured that at some point quality people will show up in your life and they will gladly pay you more, because they’ll know what you’re offering is priceless!

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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