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People know what they’re doing. They know the energy they bring when they come around you. They know when they’re being supportive. They know when they aren’t. Don’t ever let someone make you ignore what you see going on right in front of you. You’re not crazy when the same people who smile up in other people’s faces look at you like you have five heads when you speak. It’s time you stopped going where you’re tolerated and start being intentional about relationships and atmospheres that celebrate you!

There is this tendency in many people to make concessions for people, to be more accommodating of crap than you’re required to. Maybe it’s the programming that tells you to be a bigger person. What does that even mean anyway? It’s going to be extremely difficult to take off in life if you’re constantly tolerating the dishonor and foolishness of people who know what they’re doing to you. In the meantime, you’re teaching people how to MISTREAT you and setting yourself up for a lot of regret later. You’re going to one day realize you deserved to be treated better than you allowed yourself to be treated. There is this sad and distorted programming that society, toxic families and even religion has taught us and that is to lie. Lie about how you really feel. Pretend you’re ok with things you’re not ok with. Let people slide when they keep showing you that you’re not important to them. If you asked, that’s no way to live. There’s no way you can reach your highest level of potential pretending not to see all the fakeness around you. The insincere smiles and the people who half love you. You see that. The ones who want you to be there for them, but the love is not mutual. There’s no way to advance and become the person you were destined to be hanging out with people who can’t be real with you to save their life.

It’s time out for tolerating passive aggressive people who never tell the truth but instead use outright meanness, negative body language and silence to punish you for being you. Let people choose the people they respect. Kindly remove yourself from friendships and family fakeness and choose environments that encourage you to be your true self. Psychology teaches that we show people what we like about them by what we encourage and at the same time we discourage them when they say and do things we don’t approve of. Your friends and family do that. As long as you meet their needs they love you. The minute you are no longer available or helpful to their agenda you’re the worse person in the world.

Could you be suppressing who you are because you feel the covert rejection of people around you who don’t want the real you to show up. Instead, they would prefer a version of you that serves them best. They want you to lie on your back and let them dictate the terms of the relationship. No thanks! I’m not willing to play a role for anyone. Nobody. I’m not willing to continually help people ascend and take off emotionally and mentally and they never offer anything of substance back to me. I am not the one. People want you to help them become stronger and bolder in making their way to their next destination only to find there’s no reciprocity in return. Let’s be real – Some of our bonds are not healthy. There are people who devalue all the good we do for them, meanwhile in their minds they can only find respect for the people in their lives who they think are worthy.

I’m good at this point with accepting things for what they are. That’s an important part of life. Accepting reality and people for who they are. Some of these bougie wanna be people around you are attached to you because you are the only person who resembles real. They live their fake lives pretending to have their act together when in private they are on the verge of a nervous breakdown. Let them deal with their duplicity. Let them pretend to be so together for Instagram. We all know the real deal. As for me, no longer will I force anything. If seeing is believing I can see who’s flying with me and who’s looking for a more beneficial way up! Opportunist. The religious world is filled with people who love to get close to people for the purposes of stealing and cloning. It’s all good though. We need all kinds of people to help us evolve. We need the people who try to act like they’re down with us for as long as they can to get enough courage to try to do what we do. I see it all the time. They can steal your recipe but it never turns out the same.

At the end of the day; we all need to grow and come to the realization that no matter what we are to people it doesn’t guarantee they’ll be that back to us. As real as I am to some people, it doesn’t mean I’ll ever get that back. I still press on being the most authentic and genuine version of myself possible. I encourage my real life coachable friends to do the same. Breathe. Look around. See people for who they are. Don’t be so naive either where you let your efforts get trampled on by people who aren’t interested in valuing you and what you add to their lives. You’ll thank me later. These are your travel instructions while grounded.

Copyright © Sherry Grant 2020

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If you don’t want to do it, DON’T. That is if you’re actually working towards being an authentically REAL person. Sad part, a lot of people are practicing just the opposite. While we are in a time of social distancing, it’s amazing how many people are practicing personal distance. I call it personal distance. That is, the practice of being as far away from being your genuine authentic self as possible. Some people engage in relationships that encourage them to be this way. Be like your mom. Be like dad. Think like your family of origin. Fit into a mold, box, a title or position that keeps you from ever being comfortable in your own skin. Too many people are always stuck in situationships that encourage them from ever becoming close enough to themselves to ever be honest and real. They stay close to other pretenders and create false scenarios in their head, based on society or the cultures idea of perfect. Personally, I have no desire to participate in anything that makes me act in a way that dishonors my true heart and purpose in life.

I am learning that one of the main reasons so many people hate being “stuck at home” is because they have a harder time being distant from other people than they do with themselves. Be honest; When was the last time you enjoyed time alone with yourself? When was the last time you made a decision based on your own choice? When was the last time you allowed your own personal convictions to determine what you do and what you don’t do? Why do so many people need the involvement of others in a life that they’re the ones responsible for their own advancement? This time of self isolation, lockdown, quarantine should encourage us all to learn ourselves at a deeper level. Who are you? What do you want out of life? And if you can’t accomplish it on your own, I’m pretty sure that’s the reason why social distancing is so hard for you. When your identity is so wrapped up in other people’s approval, it’s hard to start thinking for yourself.

Today, make it your business to practice personal closeness as the world learns social distancing.

Copyright © Sherry Grant 2020

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How did this world get so nasty? I’m not talking about the Coronavirus, but the people. Do you hear the tone of everyone talking? So mean. So unkind. No regard for one another. Let’s just admit it. This proves that long before this virus we had our share of mental problems. We don’t think right and therefore we don’t talk right. In a day in time where people are panicking I post that everything is going to be alright and people who claim to know God are upset about that? WOW! What happen to us as a people? We have lost it and this is not about the virus. This is about us. We don’t care about each other anymore. The emotional pain and meanness you hear people spewing out of their mouths make me sad. People don’t respect marriage these days. They don’t respect family. They don’t respect community. Where is the love? Where’s the compassion and concern for others? Neighbors don’t speak to each other. Families meddle in the affairs of people they act as if they own. This world was contagious long before the Coronavirus.

We have women who talk like sailors and men who have no integrity, conviction or backbone. The world is in an uproar and people have no respect for authority. The same people who have no control over their appearance, family or lives want to lash out with their opinions about what needs to be fixed on a global scale! Really? How you look telling people what to do and you don’t have your act together? And what’s the reason you think anyone will listen when you speak with no apparent love?! We are not creating a good environment for peace or healing.

Some things are out of our control but being kind isn’t.

I’m determined not to let this toxic talk and these hostile tones infect, affect or effect me. I will continue to speak life no matter what it looks like. I’m determined to make my contribution a good one in spite of what the masses are tweeting, posting and ranting about. There is still Hope. There is still a light at the end of the tunnel. If not for anyone, I speak life for my children, in hopes that we can survive this pandemic so they too can have children one day. And when they do, their children won’t see that we are the virus. With our lack of grace and our inability to be sensitive in a time of crisis. I am praying for this world. We are going to come out of this. I believe it. I just hope the damage won’t result in a slew of traumatized children because they listened to the lack of faith out of our mouths in a time of crisis.

The airlines are considering shutting down. This is sooo concerning for those of us who love flying, but the danger of travel is too serious to play with. Think about it, it’s too scary to be going anywhere right now. The airlines are considering that flying is no longer a good idea right now. It’s just not safe.

The flights are even so cheap right now that the airlines have concluded that it cost too much to take off! It’s not worth it. Makes me wonder how many people we are trying to go somewhere with and it’s just not worth it. Some of these people we are trying to do life with, are a bad investment too. Some flights have been taking off with only three people on the plane. It’s not worthwhile to keep going on like that. Insert preach!

I want you to consider, how many people are you trying to take off with and you’re spending more than you can afford to keep going. You’re spending too much on some of these people who are a bad investment. There are people like family and friends and I use that word loosely who you keep trying to go somewhere with and that’s why you’re so depleted of energy, money, life and hope. This has got to stop. I’m not doing it anymore. If there are people who think I’m putting my time and resources into them and they’re nothing more than a bad investment; they’re sadly mistaken. I know better. I am honest with myself. I know who is really a good friend, family member, neighbor and who isn’t. This time of crisis is showing us all. The reality is, I’m not so pressed or thirsty for attention to allow myself to constantly be mistreated by people who don’t even value me enough to honor my presence with dignity, respect and kindness. Why should I? I wasn’t born to be abused and dishonored by jerks. You weren’t either. There are some people who want you to take off with them and sacrifice your dignity and self respect for them. Why? What makes people feel entitled to waste your time with their disrespectful behavior? Nah fam. That’s not a good investment of my life and time.

The airlines are doing business and seriously counting the cost. They’re now considering what it really takes to go somewhere. I refuse to participate in relationships that are bad business. I won’t tolerate people who think I’m supposed to accept crappy treatment. This is a time where we are all in quarantine and it’s a good time to take an assessment of our lives. Was the way we were doing life aka business before this shutdown sensible? I can’t say all of it was for me. And I think I’m a smart person, but lockdown is teaching me to be more sober when it comes to the people I’m doing life with after this is over. I’m not doing bad business now or ever again. I’m learning in this crisis. How about you? Sometimes trying to travel with some people is just plain ole bad business.

Copyright © Sherry Grant 2020

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Jesus goes out of his way to make a stop by a cemetery in Luke 8:26-39. Apparently, someone needed his help there. Jesus will still go to some strange places to pull those that He loves out of trouble. Insert tears! 😭 Jesus gets there and sees the guy running around naked, screaming and harming himself.

The demoniac, as this man was described in the scripture had been living in total isolation for some time and by the time Jesus got there; life and being quarantined had clearly taken it’s toll on his mental state.

The result of Jesus’ encounter with that man: He was healed! Now he wants to stay with Jesus. He basically asked to be part of Jesus’ entourage after this experience.

Jesus responds this way; “Go to your own house and tell them what I have done for you!” That’s where I want you to make impact. You’re better off a healed husband or father than following me around. I’m putting this is my own words. Lol.

Quick Takeaway- This is the time for all of us to do the same in our homes. We should be intentional about touching the lives of the people we live with. Instead of preaching to the church, here’s a good time to let your life speak to the people in your house. Your family can benefit from the transformed you more than anyone else.

Let the people in your house see how The Lord has changed you. The real potency of what you preach will be demonstrated by your love and light during this crisis called COVID-19. Be nice. Show love. Speak life – in your own house. Luke 8:26-39

Copyright © Sherry Grant 2020

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I watch this show called Bar Rescue. It’s so good. So many peoples lives are changed as a result of his work. This guy Jon Taffer comes into struggling bars and observes and after he can’t take watching them violate so many codes and rules he shuts them down. The best part about Jon is he doesn’t just criticize them and talk down to them. He doesn’t just go in and point out what’s so wrong, he stays and invest in transforming the place before he walks away. Wouldn’t the world be a better place if we only opened our mouths to offer advice to those we’re actually committed to helping them take off and go somewhere great? Seems like the opposite in the world today. People love to tear down and offer nothing more.

Jon Taffer comes in as a professional who takes his field so seriously, that what he sees makes him usually so perturbed that he loses it. He gets upset by the lack of excellence people operate their businesses with that he demands them to be accountable. That’s because he’s invested. Don’t do this for people you’re not invested in. Be advised; Investing in people is much more than showing up when it’s convenient for you. While watching this particular episode Jon told the family who owned the struggling bar that he won’t do anything to help them until they cleaned their kitchen thoroughly. The co-owners response to Jon was so powerful. She said “I thought we were clean!”

She was literally blown away by what was obvious to others, but it actually took someone else coming in to tell her that they had the worse kitchen they had ever seen.

How often do we look at our lives the same way? We think we are so clean! We think we are so perfect and our lives are so together. It’s not until we become vulnerable and tell the truth, and open our lives up to scrutiny that we find out everything we do is not right. With observation comes truth and with truth comes awakening and the reality that we are not “all that” if we would be honest. If we want to take off in life, and I hope we all do; we should move beyond the veneer of image and the false appearance of being so awesome. Some of us aren’t taking off because we refuse to accept the fact that we all have some stuff in our lives that needs cleaning. Whether it’s our mouth, our attitude, our mentality,… we all could be better.

These are challenging times in the world. I’m so saddened to see how many unofficial expert opinions people have on other people’s lives. This is not the time to bite and devour one another. This is the time for more love, compassion and empathy. The world is in an uproar, hopefully you’re not contributing to it. None of us are so clean. Let’s be real. This virus spreading is proof that none of us are actually in control of what’s happening. You could be doing all the “right” things and still infect someone. Maybe it’s not with COVID 19, but maybe it’s with humiliating words, and judgmental comments. It’s none of our jobs to inspect other people’s lives. Not unless you’re Jon Taffer. Lol. I’m trying. Anyone else trying?

Copyright © Sherry Grant 2020

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