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Matthew 5:33-37 “And don’t say anything you don’t mean. This counsel is embedded deep in our traditions. You only make things worse when you lay down a smoke screen of pious talk, saying, ‘I’ll pray for you,’ and never doing it, or saying, ‘God be with you,’ and not meaning it. You don’t make your words true by embellishing them with religious lace. In making your speech sound more religious, it becomes less true. Just say ‘yes’ and ‘no.’ When you manipulate words to get your own way, you go wrong.

This is such a deep passage of scripture yet so simple. Stop being a fake person and choose your words wisely. The church and family has become so wordy instead of impactful. Making yourself sound good but not actually aiming to do good is what we do when we are operating from a place of ego. When you want to live an authentic and genuinely pure life, you don’t say anything you don’t mean. You cease to fold under religious programming and pressure to say what isn’t actually true to you. Even in this culture, it’s easy to follow people on social media and spew out disingenuous words that flatter and sound nice, while simultaneously backbiting and critiquing the same people. The problem is not saying good words to others, but it’s actually not meaning it in your heart. 

A person who operates with integrity doesn’t say they’re checking on a person when they’re actually just being nosey and trying to fish for information. A person who really wants to pray for you, give to you, or appreciate you; will do just that. They won’t feel the need to be sneaky, manipulative or use flattery to trick you into serving some other purpose for them. It’s time we start being more integral in our relationships. Just say yes and mean it. Or say no and mean it, but don’t play games with people. 

Life would be so much sweeter if we could depend on one another to be real and clear about where we stand and what the heck we want.

SHERRY GRANT COPYRIGHT 2020

Felt like blogging today!

There is an uprising of people who are becoming more and more clear about who they are. 💜And this is not easy in this day and time where groupthink and being part of the herd is encouraged more than self differentiation.

Those of us who have identified our struggles, and are intentionally working on healing from our trauma and codependency aren’t out here looking to be accepted and affirmed by the “elite” or the “pack.” We don’t need your permission to be. We are human beings. Not human doings. We don’t focus our lives around doing stuff to make ourselves worthy. We are not forcing our way into the circles of people others are pressed to be around.

This standing up for yourself and being yourself in a culture that wants to control your life; creates a problem for the egotistical people who consider themselves the DOOR. All too often, the people who feel like they’re anointed to accept others,…don’t accept themselves.

The people I’m finding myself more and more connected to are just normal people who aren’t trying to get on with a celebrity or network. They’re just regular people who are comfortable in their own skin and not worried about titles, numbers and popularity, but genuinely are out here trying to pour out what’s in them from an authentic and pure place.

I feel no connection to or desire to hang out with people who only care about an endorsement or being co-signed by a particular group, race or brand. I vibe with genuine people who aren’t impressed by the stuff most people are. I am attracted to real people and organic, empowering relationships! Feels so much better in those than the opposite. Conversation is different. Ain’t no competition here either. We are all cheering for each other! #sherapy #selfawareness #mindfulness #beyourself #authentic

James 1:12-18

 Anyone who meets a testing challenge head-on and manages to stick it out is mighty fortunate. For such persons loyally in love with God, the reward is life and more life. Don’t let anyone under pressure to give in to evil say, “God is trying to trip me up.” God is impervious to evil, and puts evil in no one’s way. The temptation to give in to evil comes from us and only us. We have no one to blame but the leering, seducing flare-up of our own lust. Lust gets pregnant, and has a baby: sin! Sin grows up to adulthood, and becomes a real killer. So, my very dear friends, don’t get thrown off course. Every desirable and beneficial gift comes out of heaven. The gifts are rivers of light cascading down from the Father of Light. There is nothing deceitful in God, nothing two-faced, nothing fickle. He brought us to life using the true Word, showing us off as the crown of all his creatures.

James is encouraging us to keep the right perspective when we are going through. Whatever we are going through,….even this enemy COVID-19. It’s vital to remember that God is not trying to trip us up or catch us in a trap when life gets difficult. So remember this, even when times are hard that your thoughts have to be put in check. You and I can’t allow our days to be messed up by thinking wrong. Stay in your Word and in the company of people who have more wisdom and depth than you and you won’t go wrong. This is why community and support is vital to your healing and advancement. Those who take their relationships and those who they give access to casually are opening themselves up to unnecessary trouble and warfare. This kind of mindset will get you off your game. I love the part of this text that says, “Don’t get thrown off course.”

Who needed to hear that today? There are so many ways the enemy tries to throw us off course. Sometimes its by way of our family and friends. Some relationships become the doorway for us to become distracted, apathetic and unclear of our real purpose. If you find it easy to become consumed with other people’s problems, low living and drama then this message is for you. James says one other really important thing in this scripture that I absolutely love when he said “God is not two faced!” He is not like some people I know who say one thing in your face and another thing when you walk away. God is stable and it is encouragement to us as His children to remain stable and confident, trusting in Him to carry us through whatever we are going through today and in the future while putting into action practices that align with the life He desires for us.

SHERRY GRANT COPYRIGHT 2020

Never give up. If you need a coach to help you with goal setting and maintaining your boundaries and assessing the health of your mentality and relationships, reach out to me. http://www.therealsherrygrant.com

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