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Matthew 5:33-37 “And don’t say anything you don’t mean. This counsel is embedded deep in our traditions. You only make things worse when you lay down a smoke screen of pious talk, saying, ‘I’ll pray for you,’ and never doing it, or saying, ‘God be with you,’ and not meaning it. You don’t make your words true by embellishing them with religious lace. In making your speech sound more religious, it becomes less true. Just say ‘yes’ and ‘no.’ When you manipulate words to get your own way, you go wrong.

This is such a deep passage of scripture yet so simple. Stop being a fake person and choose your words wisely. The church and family has become so wordy instead of impactful. Making yourself sound good but not actually aiming to do good is what we do when we are operating from a place of ego. When you want to live an authentic and genuinely pure life, you don’t say anything you don’t mean. You cease to fold under religious programming and pressure to say what isn’t actually true to you. Even in this culture, it’s easy to follow people on social media and spew out disingenuous words that flatter and sound nice, while simultaneously backbiting and critiquing the same people. The problem is not saying good words to others, but it’s actually not meaning it in your heart. 

A person who operates with integrity doesn’t say they’re checking on a person when they’re actually just being nosey and trying to fish for information. A person who really wants to pray for you, give to you, or appreciate you; will do just that. They won’t feel the need to be sneaky, manipulative or use flattery to trick you into serving some other purpose for them. It’s time we start being more integral in our relationships. Just say yes and mean it. Or say no and mean it, but don’t play games with people. 

Life would be so much sweeter if we could depend on one another to be real and clear about where we stand and what the heck we want.


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