Last night I gave a team I coach a homework assignment and they were excited about doing it. It was simple. Write your bucket list and come next week ready to share! The point of this exercise was to get people to think about what they want to do and haven’t done yet. They were challenged to think about why they still want to do something and haven’t found resources to do it yet. The truth is, where you want to travel, who you want to spend time with, what experiences you’ve been dreaming of doing but still haven’t gotten around to; this can lead to regret. This is often how we spend this flight called life, delaying our plans for later.
Who’s to say you have all this time? It also should make you think, Why am I spending my time doing things that I don’t want to do while simultaneously postponing what I really want? Why am I wasting my time on people who are nothing more than a waste of time? People who play games and don’t ever get their stuff together. If you’re delaying your plans dealing with these kind of folk, no wonder you’re always so frustrated. And trust me, no matter how much you think you love them, they’re still not loving you correctly. So basically, as smart as you are, you are deliberately choosing to spend your precious life traveling with idiots who don’t value you the way you value them? Nah! I’m way too smart for that. I’m taking off free from all that baggage.
Some of you aren’t going anywhere great because over and over again you choose people who only value you when they want something from you. That’s not okay. I recently had a toxic person try to resume relationship with me after a long period of putting no effort into keeping the door of communication open and I decided no. It’s a no for me. I don’t choose to accept that kind of treatment. I’m no longer staying in one sided relationships. I’m thinking wait, this person is not the president, governor, mayor. This person is no celebrity and even if they were they still could maintain contact with me of some kind, if they wanted to. But I’m telling y’all, when you’re dealing with some of these fake people, as soon as you stop texting or reaching out to them you’ll see. Just wait and see how long it takes for some of these obnoxious people to reach out to you. They won’t. I’m not with it. It’s not acceptable. I am not about to be living in a whole new decade dealing with that drama. People know what they’re doing. They’re not stupid.
Bottom line is, before we make a list of places we want to go and things we have yet to accomplish, let’s soberly make a list of places we need to stop going. Let’s stop going “there” with people who don’t have any intention of being decent. They clearly don’t have a conscience. I’m amazed at how much crap people want you to accept from them that they wouldn’t accept from you. Toxic! Toxic! Toxic! I refuse to make this wonderful bucket list and ignore the fact that there are people who smile in my face but don’t handle me with any dignity or respect. I’m not going there anymore. That’s not cool. Before we can take off in life we need to be honest with ourselves. Take a moment to challenge yourself about the places you’re going now that make you feel like you need to escape. Dreaming of taking off, that’s great. Having plans for future success and accomplishments, that’s all fine and dandy but are you being honest with yourself about where you are now?
What’s keeping you from going somewhere great? Is it possible that you can actually go a lot further when you start addressing what you’re doing with your time today. What is keeping you from checking off that bucket list? Eliminate that and live!
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