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The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves.” – William Penn

Envy happens when you see somebody else experiencing something you’d like to have. Envy is not cool at all and is not the way me and my real life friends operate. We absolutely want the best for others, especially the people we care about. We want them to achieve their goals. Truth is our goals are not the same, which is another reason why envy is not part of our MO aka mode of operation.

It would be better for you to be inspired by the people you see taking off in life than wanting what they have. There’s something wrong when people sit around and discuss how you live and what you have like this is some kind of game or competition. That is not okay at all. If anything, we should be busy achieving something impactful with our lives instead of counting other people’s blessings. Why should it matter how often someone else gets to travel, go out to eat or do something exciting and fun? All this comparison stems from a place of negativity. It’s rooted in competition and rivalry. This is one of the main reasons why so many people who happen to be living their lives authentically are challenged in the area of quality relationships. Who is really genuinely happy for us? Who really is smiling a real smile when we share our plans and goals versus the ones pretending to be happy? People in this culture and even in our family and friend circles are often not being real and honest. Some of the smiles and congratulations they’re giving out are shallow and surfacy! Some of them are followed by sarcasm and shade. Some of the people you share your dreams with aren’t willing to admit that sometimes they’re trying to keep up with you rather than share life with you.

This is where the spirit of jealousy and envy is incubating in so many people’s heart. Jealousy is not a good characteristic. It says “I want what you have, and until I have it, you shouldn’t have it either.” This is why some of your “peeps” won’t actually support your endeavors. This is why they won’t promote your business. This is why they don’t applaud your elevation like they do Beyoncé or their favorite celebrity or restaurant. You could even be offering the same thing someone else is and they have no problem backing the stranger but not you. They’ll pay top dollar for something that they could get from you. The problem is it’s you and they’re jealous of you.

I said it. They are! Otherwise, why wouldn’t they click like on your YouTube page? Why do they read everything you do but won’t subscribe to your page or blog? They don’t want your name to be out there? They don’t want to help push your brand and the root of it is jealousy. Meanwhile, your hustle inspires them, but they won’t give you credit for that either. You could even be a great public speaker and instead of pushing your talks, they’ll promote someone with millions of followers. It’s almost laughable. Why wouldn’t they take the same time or energy or money they give to people who don’t need it instead of watching you struggle for dear life to make something amazing you thought of a reality? They won’t buy your stock until it takes off! It’s sad but they don’t want you to get there before them. I know. You’re thinking no, that can’t be true. They’re not like that. Meanwhile, they are proving that to you over and over again they don’t believe in you. In many instances it cost nothing to push the people you know who are doing great things, but they don’t. It’s sobering, but nonetheless it’s true. When people around you have the resources and ability to push your dreams and don’t, trust me – they’re saying a lot. It’s not an oversight. They didn’t forget. It’s not that they didn’t know how to subscribe or like your post. They aren’t stupid. Well maybe some of them are. True story; some people comment on my posts and never click like. 🤦🏽‍♀️ Anyhoo. Most of these people get it. They actually do have a clue and the results are in – They just don’t care to help you take off any higher than you are today! It’s that simple. And trust me, the core intention is actually evil. While many of us think there are at a least a few people in our lives that should wholeheartedly believe in us first, they don’t. And when they don’t, I’m suggesting we just go ahead and accept the truth that’s right in our face. They either don’t believe in our dreams or they’re jealous. Inhale. Now exhale. I know it’s a lot to take in because neither one of these realties are easy to accept,…. but it is what it is.

Make the decision today to stop wasting time on people who insist on being in a secret competition with you and those who fake believe in you. If they’re into those kind of head games, let them play alone. You have too much to accomplish and there are people out there who will believe in you. You’re just wasting your time on fake believers. See, your purpose and plans won’t happen in the company of unbelief and doubt. Stop inviting them in and sharing your plans with them. Let them find out what you’re doing some other way, but stop making them think you need their support when they’ve proven they’re not going to be anything but unsupportive. You can’t accomplish anything with those type of people anyway. Even Jesus couldn’t perform miracles in a place where people didn’t believe in Him. Insert preach!

And just think; you had started to think something was wrong with you? It’s not you, you’re just around people who are trying to make you second guess yourself. This is not good for your mental health either. It’s gotten so bad that some of you are beginning to question your dreams. They actually have you thinking you’re doing too much. They have some of you thinking your ideas are stupid and now you’re starting to lose your confidence and courage around them hometown people. Snap out of it. It’s not you. Dreams and those who dream like you and I need the right environment to thrive and take off. You need to surround yourself with people who will help facilitate your take off. You’re not asking for much either. Don’t let them manipulate that way either. They will go and volunteer for causes they actually believe in and do whatever is needed to support them. Don’t let them make you feel bad for being a dreamer. Some of these people don’t believe in themselves and you think they’re going to believe in you? Believe in yourself and don’t let these people who feel so familiar with you discourage you.

Just because they don’t believe it, that doesn’t mean it’s not amazing.

Some of these people won’t see it until they can actually see it. Those are not the kind of people you need around your baby aka visions and dreams. Keep them away from your ideas if they’re not encouraging and supportive. I don’t care if it’s your momma, your daddy, children or your spouse. Keep going and never stop dreaming until it is real. Don’t let the jealousy, envy, insecurity, doubt and competitiveness of other people dampen your enthusiasm and excitement. If you don’t get positive energy from friends and family when you’re moving forward with great things, stop giving them access to your plans. They’re dream killers and you don’t need that in your life. I encourage you to surround yourself with love, light and positivity. You’re going somewhere great and the difference between you and them is your heart is not infected with the same disease as some of these people on this flight with you. You’re not achieving your goals to prove anything to anyone. You’re not trying to achieve and succeed to heal your childhood trauma. You’re different than them. Your motives are pure for moving forward. If you’re like me, you do what you do to inspire and bring hope and healing to others. I could literally sit around at this point in my life and focus solely on me. I could virtually spend my days and nights pursuing things that only bring me enjoyment and pleasure. But my purpose is to help others take off. It’s a pure purpose. It’s bigger than me so it’s worth the frustration that comes with it. Please, don’t let the nastiness and negativity of others interfere with your take off! You’re so needed in this world. Keep going.

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