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I don’t do well pretending. I actually do my best to engage with others from an authentic and sincere place. Sometimes, this life goal and objective of mine can be quite daunting. In this plastic culture we live in, trying to remain real and honest with some of these jokers out here is hard. It can make having relationships with others extremely complicated, especially when most of the people you find yourself engaging with are those who choose to exist in a land called superficial. How many superficial people have you had to put up with today? I’ll wait.

I mean let’s be real, it’s not like you can just magically zap all the fake people away and put them on an island. That would be such a big place! I know it would.

Superficial people are everywhere. I just got a message from someone who never speaks to me publicly, but has the nerve to send me this friendly text message like we COOL! What? Bye Felecia! That’s superficial. I don’t do superficial. While I know how to behave myself and can be cordial in a public setting to almost anyone, don’t ever be dumb. I see you! You are not someone I consider a real one. If it was socially acceptable I would text back GO AWAY DUMB PERSON! I know what you’re thinking. She’s so immature. (Judge your mother unless you’re one of my kids reading this 🤣🤣🤣). No seriously, I can hear some of you. But this is the realest life coach blog, not the phoniest life coach. Maybe the person texting me today should start that one. I’m sure they would have plenty of followers. Seriously tho. If you never speak to me and make people think you’re my enemy, why would you even think it’s ok to text me. So fake. Go away! My body reacts adversely to superficial engagement like this. It makes me cringe. Disgusting!

There’s something that makes me feel soooo tired and exhausted when I’m speaking to someone who only wants to talk at the surface level. When there are apologies that need to be made, explanations that need to be given context to. Don’t come at me like we are going to be buddies when you haven’t handled me well. Now don’t get me wrong, not every person or engagement or conversation calls for a deep discussion about life, but most do. For me, people who choose to chew the fat over pointless topics, I have no problem with that. It’s just not my thing. I love being around people who care about more than low level relationships with no substance. I love people who care about others deeply and don’t wish to live in a place of pretense. I love people who are concerned with life and things that cannot be ignored. There is nothing pretentious about talking to people who understand the importance of saying sorry when they’ve wronged you. I love people who genuinely care about your feelings,.. yep I do have feelings and refuse to let other people invalidate them. I love people who take time to listen to the perspective and thoughts of others. I can’t do shallow, vain banter. It literally drains my energy.

Today, I invite you to take special notice of the real people in your life. The ones who energize you versus those who drain you! If you give authenticity out, the best thing you can do is find people who value it and give it back to you. Some of you are like me and your circle is getting smaller but the quality isn’t. Kudos to you for making the courageous decision to engage in relationships that are based off of more than titles, status and power. Look around. Check the people around you and make sure you’re taking off with people who will lift you and not drag you down.

Copyright © Sherry Grant 2020

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4 thoughts on “A message for the real ones

  1. Danielle says:

    This part had me yelling
    “ There is nothing pretentious about talking to people who understand the importance of saying sorry when they’ve wronged you. I love people who genuinely care about your feelings,.. yep I do have feelings and refuse to let other people invalidate them.”

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  2. Muriel Johnson says:

    Deceit. Deceitful. Deceptive. People are like this. They speak but the spirit is off. My momma said you can smell a rotten potato. Great Blogs Sharing

    Liked by 1 person

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