My son and his wife took a trip for her birthday this week and when I picked them up from the airport they were telling me about a couple they observed fighting in first class. Not fist fighting but arguing. They said it was loud and heated. I started thinking, What could be so bad? Why were they handling each other so poorly? And why in the world were they doing this in front of everyone!? Who knows, but apparently they must have forgot where they were. Insert churchy organ music. Makes me want to ask my real life coachable friends the same thing. Have you forgotten where you are in life and how far you’ve come to get here? Did you forget how many trials you’ve had to overcome to be the person you are today? Seems like the couple in first class fighting had. Maybe they forgot about the times they didn’t have money to travel, let alone in luxury. Makes you wonder if the pursuit of “the good life” is all it’s cracked up to be. Especially if when you get there, you still wanna fight in first class.
This immediately gave me a clear illustration of what I will NOT be doing for the remainder of my life!!! I will not be arguing or going back and forth with anyone on this luxury, full expense paid journey called life that I’ve been blessed with. Not nobody! You hear me? No one will be able to pull me out of the good seat I’m in. I’m here and I’m not allowing dysfunctional people or warped mindsets to make me forget how much it cost for me to be where I am today. Also made me think how absurd is it to be going somewhere great, yet sitting next to someone you can’t get along with. Arguing and fussing and fighting with people on my life journey? Naw, that’s just a waste of time and energy. As long as there is breath in my body I am making wise intentional choices to spend my life enjoying this flight.
The couple who was fighting in first class reminded me that even if and when you’re taking off naturally, you can still be emotionally stuck; in your feelings, reckless and unable to come to a place of harmony with self and others. Got me to thinking that with only about a dozen days left in 2019, it doesn’t make sense to take off and be fighting with anyone. NO ONE! Could it be that many of us are not even in a fight with the people around us, but we are really fighting with our own personal issues? Could we be in such desperate need of making peace with ourselves that we are trying to blame everyone else for stuff that we haven’t healed from yet?? I started realizing that much of my conflict with other people had nothing to do with them. It was all on me! Why was I giving so much power to the people around me? My seat was not occupied by anyone else, so allowing others to get in the way of me enjoying my trip was ludicrous! I learned in 2019 to mind my business and stay in my seat. I learned that no one is in charge of my peace except me. I learned that I don’t owe people an explanation for why I don’t want to be around them. I’m not sorry for separating myself from toxic people. I’m not sorry for refusing to let narcissistic people mistreat me. I’ve learned that it’s not okay to be a doormat for users and emotional manipulators. When I started treating myself better, I stopped fighting with people around me. I have learned so much this year, even that my perspective does not always need to be voiced to everyone. There’s so much contentment when you come to the realization that you can travel with people and we could all have our own ideas and opinions and it not mean we have to be at war with each other.
That’s when I stopped fighting with people in my first class seat. This is my seat!
I invite you to do the same for the remainder of this flight. Sit back and relax and refuse to fight with anyone anymore. Take an assessment today and ask yourself; What relationships, endeavors, mentalities are you currently in that just don’t make sense? That’s literally what fighting in first class looks like to me; senseless!!! It’s pointless! You could have stayed home and been miserable. But since you didn’t, eliminate all hostility over what people are saying and doing and get on with enjoying your life! Look back and see who’s sitting behind you. There are actually people behind you. Don’t forget you’re a source of inspiration for someone who’s crammed up in those seats behind you. They couldn’t afford to sit where you are. So stop fussing and look around. They would love to be where you are. And yet, you have the audacity to sit there in first class and be upset and ungrateful? Naw! That’s not right.
This is how you know you’ve lost your sensitivity and gratitude. Look around you and see how blessed you are. You’re in first class. Your seat and position in life is BLESSED! You have room to stretch. How dare you sit there and fight with the people you’ve been blessed to journey through life with! How dare you allow your energy to be wasted on nonsense. Stop fighting who’s sitting with you. The people around you are not your enemy. At least not everyone. Don’t get me started on that.
Where was I!?
O! Yeah. Take a moment and reset. People are watching you. Heaven is watching you. Don’t make a fool out of yourself on this journey fighting with the very ones who want to fly with you. Love the people close to you. Talk to them. Listen to them. Laugh with them. Cry with them, but please don’t fight with them. Put down your phone and give them your attention. Stop being inconsiderate and unkind. Treasure the people who made a commitment to fly with you. You’re not the easiest person to travel with either. Okay! 👀
Today’s a good day to count the blessings in your life. Look around, you’re in first class. Stop being hostile and rude. Not everyone’s flight is as fancy as yours. Don’t take the luxuries in your life for granted. Whether it’s discovering peace and healing from your past, the people in your life, your home, job, community; remember you’re sitting in first class. Now act like it!
Copyright ©️ Sherry Grant 2019
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