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Someone asked me today “what makes a person toxic?” Well, since you asked. A toxic person is anyone who is abusive, unsupportive, or unhealthy emotionally—someone who basically brings you down more than lifts you up. That’s a bad person and it doesn’t matter if they’re family or close friends with a lot of history. They’re terrible and you don’t deserve that. I’m sorry, it doesn’t even matter if you’ve had good times with them, they’re still toxic.

I often struggle like most people with the whole concept of “when is enough enough?” Like how much toxicity is too much. The bottom line for me, the more I live the less I’m willing to put up with. See, when you realize your “life is but a vapor” as the Bible puts it, you can’t afford to waste it on toxic people. And no, I’m not talking about flawed people. We are all flawed and imperfect in some ways. But I’m talking about people who constantly try to do stuff to you. People who can be available for everyone but you. People who know how to treat strangers but crap on you. Those people in your life who you give access to and they find some kind of way to dishonor you, control or manipulate you. The toxic people are the ones who consistently try to poison your life with their drama. Those are the ones I can’t waste my time on. Not anymore. I have things to do. Productive things and that toxicity is not good for my health. I will love you from a distance but as far as me investing my time and energy in people who are always doing the same crap to me. Naw. Don’t need it.

I have an emotional daily budget and I can’t afford you. You cost too much and there are some actual things I can spend my emotional energy on that are a more worthwhile investment than your foolery. Join me in making this healthy life changing decision. Make today the day where you assess where you spend your energy and if it’s on poisonous people, stop. Life’s too short for that.

Demand consistency from the people in your life and give that in return. No one should have to wonder how you are going to be today. Are you in a good mood or on that stuff. No one needs that. It’s toxic. Stop being that way to people. No one has to deal with your meanness. Get it together. Find a therapist. Go to church. Meditate. But stop mistreating good people. One day all the good people you been treating bad are going to wake up. Hopefully you do first and start valuing the people who lift you up instead of tearing them down.

Copyright ©️ Sherry Grant 2019

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