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a particular attitude toward or way of regarding something; a point of view.”

Your personal perspective has a lot to do with how you live your life. It has a lot of impact on how you see things and how you look at situations. Your perspective has an enormous affect on the way you view the people in your life. If you’re not careful your perspective on life can ruin the quality of your life. There are some people who, as a result of their messed up perspective; create ideas and viewpoints in their minds about life that adversely shape their outcomes and their realities. There are people sitting around right now, not speaking to or enjoying the company of people that could bless their lives. They are sitting disconnected from people they love because they have a warped sense of self that’s placed a wedge between them and people who could positively influence their lives. Much of our suffering in life today is not happening because we needed to learn a lesson. I’d even venture to say, you’re not suffering because God is trying to punish you. The bottom line for most people is they are suffering because of a wrong perspective and view of self and life. If your perspective is shame based and you think for some reason you deserve to be going through what you’re going through, UNLEARN THAT! Some of you are making yourself sick trying to make sense out of why you’re going through hurt and pain in certain relationships when all you need to do is leave. Some of you ought to stop it. There’s no medal or award waiting for you for being a martyr to poor treatment. You will not win a Nobel Peace Prize for letting people manipulate you and mistreat you. What you will get is a lot of heartache. You will end up bitter and broken and fragile when the point of trouble in your life is for you to get stronger. Can I tell you, there is no strength in letting people harm you over and over again. There’s no strength in letting people take advantage of you. Whoever taught you that you need to go through a lot of crap in order to get to a place where you finally get to enjoy life lied to you.

There are even some of you reading this who’ve you’ve been conditioned to think “no pain no gain” in every sense of life. This is not a healthy way to live. It’s not good for your mental health to think that in order to have your Prince Charming you’ve got to kiss a bunch of frogs first. Start being selective and raise your standards and refuse to be put through a lot of chaos as a prerequisite to happiness. It’s not healthy for your mind to believe that you’ve got to be used and abused first in order to find support and encouragement from people in your life. Of course life happens to us all in one way or another. It’s no secret that people disappoint, they disagree with us, some leave us, some of our nicest belongings fall apart, some of our plans and dreams don’t quite work out; but that doesn’t mean you have to sign up for a life full of suffering in order to get to your desired destination. Change that mentality that says you have to be hazed first in order to be accepted into friendships and relationships. Start thinking like someone who has the power to control their destiny. You and I do have the power to choose who we love, where we live, where we work and who we hang out. No one is forcing you to suffer through life and be around people you don’t want to. No one is making you go into any setting or environment you don’t want to go into. You are not a slave to a life you don’t want to live. If there is something you don’t like; change it. Stop suffering in the name of love, family, loyalty, friendship,… Stand up for yourself today and choose to be a victor instead of a victim. Stop saying you’re being prepared for something when you’ve subscribed to a life of pointless suffering. Those are not your people. That’s not your dream job. This is not the life you saw yourself living. There’s nobody on their way to save you. Save yourself and map out the steps and strategies for you to start seeing your dreams and hopes manifest. It’s not going to happen by osmosis. Get up and change your perspective!

I’m The Realest Life Coach and I approve this message.

Copyright ©️ Sherry Grant 2019

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