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Most people have been on a plane with their family before. It’s very exciting and all. And then they make an announcement about what to do in the event of a crash. If you’re the one who feels responsible for them in the event of an emergency it could potentially make you anxious. Even if you’ve been the one to sit in an emergency exit row, you know that one of the commitments you make before you can even be allowed to sit there is that you are willing to assist those around you in the event of an emergency. 

This is the exact reason I’ve never agreed to sit in an emergency exit row. Laugh all you want, but I am not going to lie. I will not be the one to turn into a hero should the plane go down. Honestly, I don’t know what I would do if the plane started to crash. So therefore I refuse to say I’m going to help someone else when I’m in the midst of that kind of crisis and panic. Judge your mother.

One of the other things they tell you after you agree to be the one to help save lives is; before you try to save anyone else, put your mask on your face and save yourself first. Well the first time I actually heard that announced on a flight I almost wanted to get up, wave my hand and yell “Preach!” The reality is simple, it’s going to be impossible to save anyone else if you haven’t been saved first. 

I think this is very important for those of us who are empaths. Empaths are people who feel everything going on around them. These are the ones who absorb and take in the emotions of other people. If that’s you, you know that it’s easy to get so caught up in trying to save other people and keep them encouraged and happy all the time. In playing this monumental role you find that giving all that attention to other people can sometimes leave you without the oxygen to actually live your life after the crisis. How many of us are constantly trying to save family and friends in the name of being “a good person” only to find us unable to breathe. 

Drained. Resentful. Sick. Depleted. Bitter. All in the name of saving the ones we’re “flying with.” It is not your job to save people if you’re in crisis. Before you can help other people learn to breath, relax and ride out those bumpy moments of life; Save yourself! 

It’s not selfish, inconsiderate, or rude for you to care for yourself first. It’s called wisdom! And at the end of the day it makes no sense for you to be the positive voice for everyone else when the journey is strangling you. So yes,…Save yourself first. Take care of you. Put your mask on first. 

Instead of letting panic and anxiety from life and the people you’re riding with, I want you to breathe and enjoy the ride. Find new ways to reach UP and grab what you need so you can be there to help save others one day. But for now; SAVE YOURSELF. 

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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8 thoughts on “Save Yourself

  1. Tiara Evans says:

    I absolutely felt encourage by this . It was like looking in a mirror!


    1. I am so excited for you that this blog encouraged you. I believe 2019 is going to be a year for you where you have more CLARITY and focus and you will be more and more empowered to walk in confidence!


  2. Muriel Johnson says:

    Beautifully illustrated in Words. How very true as you take the ride and count up the cost to volunteer to save yourself but before that. Your job is to Save others first. In the final Word. Save yourself is so true. Thank you for your blog. I Love reading them. Up and Away I Go to Save Me first.


    1. Thanks for taking the time to read my blog and for your kind feedback mom!!! 2019 we are riding through it ALL!


  3. Talena Ray says:

    Yes, Yes & Yes I have come to learn this so well. After many years of emonitional drama I’m free. Learning how to save Tilly has become one of my greatest joys. Wish I would have seen this sooner, but I got it (my mask is on)


    1. Tilly you are amazing for finding the strength to save yourself. I think we are taught in this culture to “die for a cause” and yet we never learn that it takes someone who’s ALIVE TO DO that. We allow ourselves to die a slow death of bitterness and resentment trying to help other people when our first job is to save number one then we will have the strength to serve others.


  4. angelarobinson2806 says:

    This is so for real, hard lesson and as I was reading I even realize I am trying to save people that aren’t even trying to fly with me or that wouldn’t save me if the tables were turned. Getting oxygen in 2019 every day. I value your words of wisdom!!!!


    1. Thank you for your incredible feedback! And here’s what I know about you; You can’t go wrong where you’re headed because your motives are always pure!! Even when people don’t honor your efforts to help them; it still blesses you in ways you’ll never really know. Your experiences have helped you to see people for who they are and in 2019 your clarity to see who’s genuine and who isn’t is going to get sharper and sharper! You’re getting better everyday! Celebrate that! You’re on to greater and as your real life coach, I CELEBRATE WITH YOU

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