Someone is always gonna have something to say about you and your life!
You’re never going to please everyone! And why would you want to? People pleasers never feel like they are making decisions that benefit them. When we constantly check in with everyone around us and deny our own feelings and needs, we begin to lose ourselves. Have you ever done “everything” you could to make your family happy only to find out that they now think they are in control of your life? They begin to think they have a say on everything and that’s not love. Love is saying even if you don’t do what I think you should do, I am ok with you. When people start to demand you do things to keep them happy, they have lost their minds.
Healthy relationships exist when even after you see things about me you don’t necessarily like, you still hold space for me to be me. Imagine forcing someone to do what you want them to do and thinking you’re loving. That’s why we need to check our judgment of others and investigate how much of this is about us. So many people judge others because they feel bad about something in them and that’s projecting. Try not to label someone as bad if they make choices different than you would. Do you know all the details? Of course you don’t. At the end of the day if people would mind their business and sweep around their own front door life would be a better place.
There’s a scripture in Proverbs about a person who can’t see the beam that’s in their eye because they’re so busy pointing out the speck in another persons eye! It’s the best way to sum up the nosey meddlesome busybody who is so self righteous they think they can speak on someone else’s life. The old quartet song says “Sweep around your own front door before you try to sweep around mine!”
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