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New Year, new you? Talented much? Full of potential? Remarkable, average, useless? What’s your attitude with the life you have? I can bet you demonstrate your attitude in how you handle the 24 hours you’re given, how accountable and faithful you are to things you said yes to, how you handle the relationships you give your energy to and the way you care for yourself.

Check your schedule and see how productive and profitable you are and don’t base it off of what other people are doing.

Seek God for your life and the purpose He has for you 💜 #happynewyear #newyear

Matthew 5:33-37 “And don’t say anything you don’t mean. This counsel is embedded deep in our traditions. You only make things worse when you lay down a smoke screen of pious talk, saying, ‘I’ll pray for you,’ and never doing it, or saying, ‘God be with you,’ and not meaning it. You don’t make your words true by embellishing them with religious lace. In making your speech sound more religious, it becomes less true. Just say ‘yes’ and ‘no.’ When you manipulate words to get your own way, you go wrong.

This is such a deep passage of scripture yet so simple. Stop being a fake person and choose your words wisely. The church and family has become so wordy instead of impactful. Making yourself sound good but not actually aiming to do good is what we do when we are operating from a place of ego. When you want to live an authentic and genuinely pure life, you don’t say anything you don’t mean. You cease to fold under religious programming and pressure to say what isn’t actually true to you. Even in this culture, it’s easy to follow people on social media and spew out disingenuous words that flatter and sound nice, while simultaneously backbiting and critiquing the same people. The problem is not saying good words to others, but it’s actually not meaning it in your heart. 

A person who operates with integrity doesn’t say they’re checking on a person when they’re actually just being nosey and trying to fish for information. A person who really wants to pray for you, give to you, or appreciate you; will do just that. They won’t feel the need to be sneaky, manipulative or use flattery to trick you into serving some other purpose for them. It’s time we start being more integral in our relationships. Just say yes and mean it. Or say no and mean it, but don’t play games with people. 

Life would be so much sweeter if we could depend on one another to be real and clear about where we stand and what the heck we want.


Felt like blogging today!

There is an uprising of people who are becoming more and more clear about who they are. 💜And this is not easy in this day and time where groupthink and being part of the herd is encouraged more than self differentiation.

Those of us who have identified our struggles, and are intentionally working on healing from our trauma and codependency aren’t out here looking to be accepted and affirmed by the “elite” or the “pack.” We don’t need your permission to be. We are human beings. Not human doings. We don’t focus our lives around doing stuff to make ourselves worthy. We are not forcing our way into the circles of people others are pressed to be around.

This standing up for yourself and being yourself in a culture that wants to control your life; creates a problem for the egotistical people who consider themselves the DOOR. All too often, the people who feel like they’re anointed to accept others,…don’t accept themselves.

The people I’m finding myself more and more connected to are just normal people who aren’t trying to get on with a celebrity or network. They’re just regular people who are comfortable in their own skin and not worried about titles, numbers and popularity, but genuinely are out here trying to pour out what’s in them from an authentic and pure place.

I feel no connection to or desire to hang out with people who only care about an endorsement or being co-signed by a particular group, race or brand. I vibe with genuine people who aren’t impressed by the stuff most people are. I am attracted to real people and organic, empowering relationships! Feels so much better in those than the opposite. Conversation is different. Ain’t no competition here either. We are all cheering for each other! #sherapy #selfawareness #mindfulness #beyourself #authentic