I recently fell in love with these plants called succulents. I think these plants are so cool. A few reasons I love them are because they’re real, they’re attractive and here’s my favorite part—-they don’t need a lot of attention. Insert speaks in tongues!
These plants only need to be watered like every 14 days and are super low maintenance. Seriously, this is the first time all of my plants are alive and doing so good without me worrying about them. I had gotten so discouraged at one point in my adult life that I had come to the conclusion that I must not be a plant person. Turns out, that wasn’t the truth. The real truth was I was trying to take care of plants that needed too much from me. Now that’s a word. This gave me a whole lot to think about it as it relates to life in general and the kind of people we connect with and things we spend our time and energy on.
Even as we approach a new year, it made me think about how much of my precious time I have to put into some things that are at this point in my life entirely too demanding.
The picture I have for my future doesn’t have to be the same as yours, but I know what I’m not trying to spend the rest of my life doing. I’m not trying to be stressed out and overworked. I’m not trying to overextend myself or prove any points to anyone. So with that being said, I’m super careful about how I handout my virtue. I am making decisions for my future that even if other people don’t think they make sense, I’ve got to do what’s best for me.
It’s just like the plants in my house. Made me think that we should all be a lot more discerning when we bring anything living into our homes. Can you maintain it? Do you have time to water it and feed it? Is it being exposed to enough light in your house? Preach!!!
It’s time out for bringing anything into our stewardship that we can’t keep alive. Whether it’s a vision or plant, do you have what it takes to keep it healthy and strong? Let’s be real, we are not built to maintain everything, but the things we are knowledgeable about and have time for will live. The other things, no matter how much we want them, they will wither in an environment and under the ownership of someone who can’t keep up.
See, I found out that some of the prettiest plants at the nursery, were way too demanding for me to keep alive. This made me realize that some of us aren’t necessarily bad leaders, or toxic friends or family either. Maybe the reality is that some of us probably aren’t even the socially awkward introverts we’ve allowed ourselves to be labeled as. MAYBE, just maybe it’s like me and the plants I used to buy that never seemed to survive living with me. Maybe we are constantly trying to bring home the kind of plants that we like, but we don’t know how to keep alive. Maybe the plants we’re attracted to need entirely too much attention for us to handle!!!!!
Let’s be real, some of these people we are trying to live with, hang out with, do business with and make important decisions with are people who need entirely too much attention. It’s possible, that even today some of you are drained and emotionally exhausted because with all your good intentions you are trying to water plants that are almost always THIRSTY!
People who always need you to encourage them, help them, give them a ride, give them a word,….they need too much!!!! Is it really your job to always be watering people who you just offered your strength to? You find yourself running back to people you just assisted thinking “how in the world are you needing to be watered again? I just watered you yesterday!” There is nothing worse than a thirsty, attention seeking person in your life who needs you to always be the one to keep them alive, motivated and going on. It’s not normal for people to expect you to always keep them alive, but some of you are there today and I come to tell you–stop watering people who don’t ever seem to be satisfied. You’ll end up frustrated and bitter or even worse, without anything to sustain your next set of instructions for promotion. It’s true! You’ve got to stop letting people who zap the life out of you in your house or intimate space, even your plans. Even when you consider some of the dreams you have. They may be for you later. Don’t start a project you can’t finish without counting the cost first. That’s biblical wisdom! I believe there are great things ahead for us all, but we can’t go somewhere expecting things to happen for us without putting together a strategy first. We don’t want to bring something alive home and let it die because we ran out of resources to feed it.
When it comes to those of us who are going places in life, there is no way we can get to our next level when we are continually overextended and unable to water what’s within our sphere of responsibility. Don’t bring so many living things in your house that you get too distracted to give them all the attention they need either. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to grow and build our dreams or even to help water and grow other people around you. That’s actually a great thing. You’ve just got to start surrounding yourself with the kind of people and plans who don’t require so much from you.
My succulents are amazing plants because they hold the water I give them inside of their leaves!
Isn’t it awesome to know that there are some people who are the same way? Some people have taken the time to do some inner work and store up what they need for their own take off so they don’t have to look outwardly for what they should have stored up within.
There are some people who expect their spouses, friends and family to constantly give them hope, peace, security and happiness but that’s not the responsibility of anyone outside of you. When people water you, be grateful and store it up. Don’t be entitled! Give them at least 14 days before you ask for more water. Soak up the light around you and sustain yourself as often as you can. This is low maintenance and makes it a lot easier for people who care for you to actually care for you. Let’s be real, we all have a responsibility to keep our leaves full and when someone comes by to water us, we are grateful not entitled. I pray you find ways to keep your heart and mind in the right posture so your elevation and your next level is not dependent on anyone outside of you watering you and keeping you alive.
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