If you want to fly you have to let go of the things that weigh you down. Insert rolls around the floor and has a baptist fit! No seriously though, this is half the reason why so many people never take off. Carrying too much! Too many people’s opinions, criticisms, even suggestions. Some of this stuff is heavy and it’s difficult to go somewhere great with all this stuff on us. Sometimes the people you love are part of the problem when it comes to what’s weighing you down. You ever realize how toxic some people can be? Like forget how much you love them, are they good for your mental health? Do they uplift you or make you feel more confused and burdened and weighed down? It’s so not cool if your relationships are the source of all your tension and anxiety. They should be life giving. They should lift you and not drain you.
I challenged myself and a group that I coach to work on removing negativity from our conversations and thoughts for the rest of the week. Five days of no negativity. A fast from it and whatever makes you think negatively and feel bad. What a difficult task! See, no matter how motivated you are to stay free from negativity and toxicity, you can’t control what people say or do around you. So while some people mean well, they’re still being judgmental and critical when it comes to you. Why aren’t they like that with everyone else? What makes them feel so comfortable with you that they can just keep it so real? Some of your relationships have gotten so raw they’re no longer edifying, now they’re just negative. When you find yourself constantly fixing people rather than enjoying the journey with them, something is seriously about to go south.
So how do you navigate through your day, week, life without letting negativity get to you and take you off track?
You can try and be fake positive and smile and pretend to not be annoyed when you are. But that’s not successfully making it through a day without letting negativity get the best of you. How do you genuinely remain unbothered when people around you vex you? When they make it their business to compare you to others or jump to conclusions about you,.how do you stay in peace? I wish I had a better answer for you but – All you can do is work on you. That’s probably not deep or intellectual enough for some people, but it’s literally all I got. I’m seriously learning to remain real and show up as my authentic self no matter what anyone else does or feels about it. I have made a career decision to spend my days encouraging people. I coach and push people to their highest level of greatness on a regular basis. I make it a point to speak life and support others. Am I shocked when that is misconstrued and turned into something else? Sometimes Yes. But the cold hard truth is, some people will resent you for helping them. I know it sounds crazy, but I’ve helped some people to the point where they have made me their adversary or opponent. At the end of the day, it is not my duty to fix people’s heads. I’m so determined NOT to take the bait of negativity. If you’re like me you are a spiritual person who’s discernment is high. I will often see more than I want to see. I’m learning to walk away from what I see and sometimes it’s a challenge. But I see me doing so much better. If you’re seeing that growth in yourself celebrate it. Growth takes time. We don’t get the way we are overnight so we won’t heal overnight either. Give yourself some grace. I am learning when it comes to negativity, bad vibes and shady intentions not to give it my attention anymore. Why should I waste my time on that when there is so much more I can be doing with my energy?
Life is too short for nonsense and negativity. Choose to release any ill will you have for anything or anyone that’s weighed you down. Forgive yourself and others quickly when you slip into that old way of thinking. I told the group I coach this past Tuesday night that I read somewhere where someone said Complaining is like praying to the devil. That woke me up! I therefore will not be doing any of that (complaining that is) about my life or anyone or anything for that matter. I am too blessed to be stressed and life is too good for me to dwell on anything negative.
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