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Where are you going? Seriously? Where!? Are you going to get up out of the bed? Get dressed?? Leave the house? Then what? Where are you headed after you leave out the door? Who will you spend your time with? What will you all do when you get “there?” Will you only move if the people you’re connected to move? Is your destiny so tied to them that you need their permission to move? What kind of conversation will you have when you get there? How are you planning to operate? What are you planning to eat? How is what you take into your body and mind going to effect you when you reach your destination?

These might seem like silly, trivial, unimportant questions, but the people who go to great destinations ask themselves these questions everyday. You see, without a plan or a strategy for your day, week, life; circumstances and people will decide for you. People will quickly conclude that you’re not going anywhere important when they see how you spend your time, who you hang out with, how you think and operate. They’ll try to predict your future by the way you talk. They’ll take notice to the statements that you make about yourself, whether they are negative or positive. The reality is, after these people make their assessment concerning whether or not they think you are doing anything of monumental value; they will take over your life if you seem unsure about who you are. This is why you’ve got to know who you are! Study yourself and make adjustments to the areas in your life that are in direct conflict to your ascent. Can you accelerate and excel thinking like that? You’ve got to be ready to do some inner work if you’re going to answer some of these questions. Especially when I ask you the question of the day; WHERE ARE YOU GOING?

See, you need to know this before you let another person into your life. Some of you keep attracting users and knuckleheads because you seem too casual about your worth. The more you play around with who you associate with and where you go on this flight called life; the more it will impact your take off. Many of you are stuck on the taxi ramp of life because the plane can’t go to a place you won’t decide. Because your style is so blasé and relaxed, you literally have people sitting waiting on you. Some people are waiting on your leadership. Indecision is a lack of commitment to going somewhere great and it can keep you from going anywhere.

There’s a quote that says “Indecision is a decision.” Indecision is ultimately a decision to go nowhere. The longer you stay unsure about your life, the longer life will make all your decisions for you. If you asked me, it’s far better to make a bad decision than to get used to never making a decision at all. Many people who never take off in life have really done themselves and the people connected to them a disservice. An indecisive parent can teach their children to live their whole life in Indecision. Don’t allow the negative committee that meets in your head to keep you from making progress. Decide on something; but don’t you dare say I don’t know what to do about another decision you’re faced with. Stop saying you need more time. Some people love to say they’re going to pray about it and they use that as an excuse to never do a thing. That’s a defense mechanism that holds a lot of you back from greatness. There’s proof that lessons are learned by people with much more impact when they fail. So stop letting the possibility of failure keep you in indecision. Fail if you have to. Just make a decision for once and for all! Give someone a chance and go out on the date instead of remaining so clueless and indecisive about whether or not it’s going to work. You never know unless you try.

Pick a dress and wear it with confidence and stop analyzing why you can’t commit to a decision. It’s just a dress. It baffles me to see intelligent women become nincompoops on Say Yes To The Dress. They will try on dozens of dresses; waiting for a dress to make them cry before they make a decision! Really? Seriously? Just pick a dress already! Once you get married you’ll find zillions of reasons to cry. Trust me 😂😂😂!!! But really I’m so serious that it’s time you stop waiting on a feeling before you make a move. People have such a hard time making decisions and my belief is that this is due to fear. When it comes to selecting a house, car, job, school, church, gym, pick one! At the end of the day, you are the one that will decide the outcome of wherever you go! You decide to enjoy the vacation or complain about it! You decide whether you like the job or not. You decide whether or not you’re going to love the experience or hate it. The experience doesn’t decide. See, you can be in a desert situation with the right attitude and still find a way to be happy. On the flip side, you can be in a castle, living the life of the rich and famous and still be miserable. The choice is up to you and how you think. Your mentality decides where you go! Not what anyone else says or does can determine your outcome or outlook unless you let it. It’s your mentality that determines this journey you’re on. Often, we try to blame the circumstances we face on why we feel the way we feel, but it really boils down to the simple fact – YOU DECIDE WHERE YOU GO!

Stop allowing everyone to decide for you. The reason a lot of you let people do this in your life is so you can never take responsibility for where you end up in life. It gives you an out; and you can always place the blame on your mom, dad, family and friends if things don’t go the way you planned. But if you have the boldness to decide where you go in life, you’ll be able to say I’m where I am because I was courageous enough to spread my wings and make a decision. It’s your life and if it’s ever going to go somewhere great, make the decision for yourself that you’re not stopping until you see what others said was impossible for you!

Copyright ©️ 2019 Sherry Grant

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6 thoughts on “Where Are You Going? Don’t be Indecisive ✈️

  1. mwaters18 says:

    This is some serious Monday motivation! 💯 Its an area I struggle but it’s better to make a decision and fail then not to make one at all, least one can learn something from failing but nothing can be learned from not trying .

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    1. Stop struggling!! Make a DECISION to do something different and if it doesn’t go perfectly like you planned, at least you can be proud of yourself for having the courage to try! I’m cheering you on! Soar!

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  2. Danielle Whitehead says:

    Underline, highlight, draws red circle ⭕️ Around this part. (King Ahab voice “yea I decide, yes I DECIDE because it’s my choice)

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    1. 😂😂😂😂 Your commentary is a whole blog in and of itself! Hahahahaha!


  3. “The longer you stay unsure about your life, the longer life will make all your decisions for you.” Amen! Wonderfully said!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you! ✈️✈️✈️✈️


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